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Hello everyone, so I finally narrowed down my two options into INFJ and INTJ. When I initially took the MBTI test, I had gotten INTJ and then a few times after that as well when I did it again. However, I also will get INFJ on occasion, same thing happens when I do the cognitive functions tests as well. I am fully aware that online tests are not accurate, so I looked through both profiles and I find that I fit both. Here is some information about myself:

First thing is I am female and currently studying Information Technology, I have always enjoyed learning about new things. My favourite topics are things such science, the human body, technology, psychology, philoshopy, self growth, art , design and world issues. I enjoy learning things so I can improve myself and give myself a better future/build a better world, I have always been someone whose done well academically and enjoys learning. I am a structured and scheduled person, I like to make to-do lists, make schedules and plan out my day/projects. If I have a report to do I will make a step-by-step plan to what to do. Something like this:
1. Rough Draft -Mon
2. Edit- Tues
3. Good - Wed

When it comes to how I work, I like to be alone, I do not enjoy group work at all. If I have to do it, I'm usually what I call the secondary leader. I am not good at giving tasks but I will be the one who will give plans and blueprints to the idea. For example, if the task is to design a poster, I would be the one who would give the idea of how the layout should be looking and all that. I never give my ideas out unless they are fully thought out. I prefer to do my work on my own, so in group settings I am very quiet unless I feel the need to talk to, but I will do all the behind the scene works when I am on my own. Like, I would be doing my work at home then bringing it to the table once we meet again. If I have to lead a group I prefer a small amount and I am a direct leader. I do things like directly assign roles to people. I also have a habit of something leaving things last minute.

Socially, I have very few people I am close to, I have a hard time talking to people at times and can appear being insensitive or aloof. People always comment on how I have a "stare/glare". I am blunt with most people and I tend to say things straight forward. However, once I become super close to someone (ex: a best friend or a boyfriend) I become the opposite, its hard for me to blunt, I become super super caring and more feeling based. I always wonder is it because I am just in love or something? I also value my relationships to the tee and I cannot stand being betrayed. I have a moral urge to help the world be a better place, my dream job is to make video games/apps that can be used by disabled people or kids in hospitals or something. I also tend to over worry about those that I care about a lot, for example I have a cousin (she's 4) that I am close to and I protect her/care for her a lot. I enjoy teaching her about life but I am only like that with her because she's family. Same thing goes for my bf, I have an intense urge to always help him and provide for him. Sounds silly but sometimes if he does not reply to me at times I can become really worried and fearful. Again, this only happens with people I am close to which is few. I tend to get along with guys more easily, its much easier for me to talk to them than females. I don't know if its because I have more males in my family so I just grew up around them. I find females sometimes too dramatic and emotional to handle, if I handle emotions its my own or only a few people I choose to.

I guess I throw this in, sexually I tend to be okay with having multiple partners which I do but however, if I am committed with someone I stay 100% faithful. Its much easier for me to bond sexually than it is romantically to a person. Its why when I used to go around, I had really no issue jumping from guy-guy i only saw sex as something physical with those people. I'm also a people pleaser when it comes to those things but other than sexually I am not submissive. Maybe a bit but barely.

As for hobbies, I like the creative side of life, I enjoy drawing, painting, making things, video games, reading, watching videos, listening to music, yoga, mediation, working out and learning stuff. I like to constantly improve myself, I do things like say affirmations, write journals and read self-growth books. I also started to enjoy game development, mostly for school but I am enjoying the process even if it is stressful.
I hate stress, if things are not structured and planned out or not go the way I planned it, I become insane and unstable. I also have mood swings, I can go from being super happy to super moody at times.

Thats about it.
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I really appreciated reading your detailed and thoughtful post, it's clear you've already put lots of thought into this ;-)
I'm not a typing specialist, even if it's something I enjoy, I'm married to an INTJ and have a INTJ BFF & a good INFJ girlfriend, so I kind of know those Ni dom :proud: (and I love them~)



-> Being aloof, I think it's a IN thing, most INFP & INFJ I know are quite reserved, aloof and outwardly blunt sometimes too. I don't think it's INTJ specific.
-> Working & brainstorming alone, it's very Ni! My husband is exactly like that.
-> Able to give direct assignment -> it could be Te, how much are you comfortable doing this? My INFJ friend suggest things, but it's never direct, she doesn't say things like "we should do that" but more "what if..." The INTJs have no trouble giving very direct order and asking people to speak-out if they are not ok with it.
-> Loving to teach people you like, it could be INTJ too! INTJ love to help people they like, it has something to do with Te+Fi, they feel responsible of people they are closed to and like to make use of their competence.
-> Being caring with people you are closed too. It could be both INTJ & INFJ. As said before INTJ feel very responsible & protective with people they like. But they ACT more than they speak. INFJ are the same, but they will SPEAK to you, they will try to make you talk to them, it's very Fe, they are the best psychologist out there ahah. INTJ will DO things for you.
-> Being able to have sex without being in a serious relationship -> Sounds more Fi to me, Fe people are very aware of society's standard and how other people think/may think, INTJs don't care. My husband is very self-righteous and dislike casual sex, but Fi is very personal so it could go both way.
-> Self development/yoga/meditation etc ... I love these too! INFJ & INTJ both like self development - like most N's actually. I'm even Reiki master level 3 lol! My husband actually loves to hear me babble about it, and to meditate with me. but he's very Te and has a super busy job so he doesn't have time right now for self-development, but he actually enjoys it.
-> drawing, painting, sport -> Se inf + Ni primary... for both INTJs & INFJs
-> Enjoying school & learning -> Could just be N', or if you feel really at ease with the school system (especially secondary) the rules, the schedules, the deadlines lol ... it could be more INTJ, people with Te in their stack usually are more at ease with primary/secondary school system.


Actually if you ask me, I think you sound more INTJ than INFJ - How do you communicate with people? Are you direct & impersonal? Or are you more personable? Do you like to talk to people about problems or do you thing it's more important to solve their problems? Both Te/Fe like to influence exterior world but in a different way.
 

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I don't really communicate with much people but when I do I guess both depending on the person. That's why its confusing.. also I like to make solutions for people if they ask me
like one time my friend told me:
i failed my test omg
and i said to her, next time you should study instead of sleeping all day.
 

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I don't really communicate with much people but when I do I guess both depending on the person. That's why its confusing.. also I like to make solutions for people if they ask me
like one time my friend told me:
i failed my test omg
and i said to her, next time you should study instead of sleeping all day.
Sometimes it can be better to get a good sleep than stay awake studying -- so I've been told.

Aside from that, have you considered filling a questionnaire? It might help people here to get a better picture of your cognition.
 

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I have filled done those before and I still get split answers.
Could it be that since I am female, I may have a stronger feeler side because I tend to be protective of my loved ones? Like a mother instinct thing?
 

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If you could post your results here, I could see how close you were to INFJ, so that might help me determine better if it was a possibility at all. From your responses in this thread and the earlier I still think you could go either way.
 

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I don't really communicate with much people but when I do I guess both depending on the person. That's why its confusing.. also I like to make solutions for people if they ask me
like one time my friend told me:
i failed my test omg
and i said to her, next time you should study instead of sleeping all day.
This sounds very much like Tertiary- Introverted feeling, along with a lot of what you have mentioned...doesn't mean I am saying INTJ though
 

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Cognitive Process Level of Development (Preference, Skill and Frequency of Use)
extraverted Sensing (Se) ***************** (17.2)
limited use
introverted Sensing (Si) ******************** (20.4)
limited use
extraverted Intuiting (Ne) ************************** (26.4)
average use
introverted Intuiting (Ni) ***************************************** (41.5)
excellent use
extraverted Thinking (Te) ****************************************** (42.8)
excellent use
introverted Thinking (Ti) ************************************* (37.5)
excellent use
extraverted Feeling (Fe) ********************* (21.1)
limited use
introverted Feeling (Fi) ********************************* (33.1)
good use
 
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