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When it was with partners who I had no solid connection with(relationshits), the sex felt so off in spite of the physical pleasure. I am sexually open-minded to a point, and even then, I would rather it be with a long-term partner I loved and trusted and them in return. Though I will say that I do find myself to be submissive and rather fond of bondage.
 

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Casual sex is fun while it lasts, but then I'm like, "Can you go home now?" Sex with someone I'm actually attracted to (sapiosexual) is fun while it lasts, and fun to think about later, fun to anticipate... fulfilling as both a physical and cerebral exercise. When I'm with someone I love talking to and care about I'm less concerned with what is happening physically, and mostly tune into the energy exchange. It's novel enough to keep me interested. That being said, I'm pretty open minded. Its not easy to make me uncomfortable during sex. Sex is weird, and absurd and that's part of what makes it so awesome. I feel like a lot of guys might think I'm physically attractive, but think I come across as a cold fish, however I'm quite affectionate, playful, and expressive in bed/relationships.

BDSM isn't really my thing. I do enjoy being tossed around a little bit and feeling the weight of my partner. The rape fantasy has had its run in my sexual catalogue, but is mostly retired. My new fantasy is more like, over drinks we get into an intellectual debate that gets more and more heated until we result to childish insults while removing each others' clothing.

*I'm exhausted, not gonna grammar/spell check this, sorry*
 

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ALL OF THIS^^^^ Variety is the spice! As long as it's with one committed partner I'm game for pretty much anything as long as it doesn't involved urine, feces, vomit, or drawing blood. I've played around with being tied up, blindfolded and teased, which I REALLY liked and would like to do again. Also one of my ultimate fantasies is Tantric sex. I've never tried it and I've never met anyone who was into it but I'm so curious.

Now I'm a bit embarrassed for sharing so much. :blushed:
I agree. No feces, urine or blood... outside, public spaces, swings, bondage... role-playing... count me in.
 

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I feel more comfortable quoting the most-honourable Outhere Brothers... :p

Girl your booty is so round
I just wanna lay you down
Let me take you from behind
I won't cum until it's time
But if I cannot sleep with you
Maybe I could have a taste
Put your nani on my tongue
And your booty on my face

Guilty pleasure :laughing:

But nani's on faces aside, it's all about the mental/spiritual connection. Casual sex is great while you're doing it, and I do find it exciting to experience a new person, but I find it so unfulfilling afterwards. I've had several long-term relationships and the sex was far better, without a doubt. Plus I feel more comfortable with them and willing to try new things. But so long as I know I'm making them happy, then I'm happy. Sex isn't really about me, it's about them.
 

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I'm a female, but I'll interject here and say that in order to be truly satisfied in a long-term relationship, I need different types of sex. (From one person, because I'm faithful.) But I mean,... the slow, loving, tender kind, with lots of foreplay... the passionate quickie .... BDSM... other creative things. I get really disappointed if it's always the same kind. To my knowledge, it's difficult to find a guy who can do all sorts of things well, express all kinds of emotion and creativity.
ENFP Forum - The Inspirers Nudge nudge...wink wink. Lol.
 

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I'm an inherent sadist. I have been since at least the age of 7-8, before I even realized what sex was. I've always been enthralled by other peoples' pain or humiliation.

That is more about gratification, though. I used to target narcissistic guys because they offered me the most gratification, but at times it made me feel a bit like a predator. It is entirely sexual, though - I don't enjoy hurting people for the sake of it and I don't think it's healthy to hurt someone who doesn't want to be hurt. I get less gratification from it if they don't want to be hurt, actually. Kind off like taking the person out of the picture and just treating them like porn - utterly pointless and makes me feel like a bully. I suspect sadism inherently dehumanizes people if it's done negligently, and that leads to bad places.

I'm not exactly into masochism myself, and I simply don't understand things like pissing on people - it reminds me of monkeys that throw feces at each other, I just don't find it sexy. Each to their own, though.
 

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I'm not exactly into masochism myself, and I simply don't understand things like pissing on people - it reminds me of monkeys that throw feces at each other, I just don't find it sexy. Each to their own, though.
According to a comedian I listen to, it's all about humiliation.
 

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Read the first page.... guess we're not as cute as I thought XD
 

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I get turned on by cute women with big saggy breasts . There is something about the contrast between the cuteness and saggy breasts, that I can't really explain, but it somehow increases the attraction. In general I find all natural female breasts beautiful, but I especially like the shape of saggy ones. :tongue:
 

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Well first off, I could live without sex. My INFJ husband has expressed the same. Not that we have no sexual appetite whatsoever. Just recognizing it's place.

I find BDSM a turn off and light bondage a turn on. I've had fantasies like that since I was very little. I believe I was conditioned to like it. I equated being controlled with being loved. I also have a terrible time putting my emotional barriers down so it's almost like tricking myself into believing that the pleasure I am receiving is not my idea because if it were - that is selfish (a subconscious belief). So there's a bit of that in there too - not being comfortable with receiving pleasure because I know myself. I know I am greedy when it comes to pleasure. Letting go for me is hard. However, when I do I can bring myself to climax with just my mind because that's where it all starts anyway for anyone and I am so focused on the relationship with the one I love (my husband). One time I was having a terrible time letting my walls down (yes, this still happens even after nearly seven years of marriage) and I could tell my husband was anxious. I decided I would set my fear aside and REALLY reach out to him with love and comfort and joy. As I was surrendering myself to him in this way (giving him a blow job which I've done plenty of times) I could feel myself getting turned on like never before - almost reaching orgasm. Putting my walls down made all the difference. It's like I'm afraid to feel or something. I'm afraid to be vulnerable. Fear is such a bad habit. I get afraid even when it makes no sense to be afraid. I've never been sexually abused or anything like that. But emotionally....I don't know. I feel shame a lot. Without love, sex is completely and utterly meaningless to me.
 

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I definitely need to be in a relationship with someone I deeply trust to even enjoy sex. Not really into BDSM in it's literal sense, but I really enjoy sessions where the man just takes control and tells me what to do. Sometimes I like it a little athletc rough and messy..."sport f***ing" I believe is the term (?).....Lazy morning sex is just as nice as a hard core quickie depending on my mood. A little slap n tickle session in the kitchen never hurt anybody...unless one of the burners is on hahaha.....I can thoroughly appreciate a lot of foreplay though. It really calms the stupid thoughts of the day in my mind down. I always have thoughts in my mind bouncing around inside of me. Foreplay really calms my mind down so I can open up and concentrate on my mate.

I'm too shy to be an exhibitionist, but one of my freaky fantasies is to have passionate sex in a high rise building in a huge city with the windows wide open at night.....we'd have to be on a really high floor though....definitely not on the ground level :)
 

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Interests:
- Anything goes..... Granted preferences are matched.

Preferences:
- MUST be in a committed relationship. [can't get it on with random people]
- I like meat on the bones (think hourglass).
 

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Yaaaay for sex :kitteh:

I watch porn for the build-up and it has to have a story line of some sort... lol. Also, while I am straight, I am sexually attracted to both males and females (more so to males) and thoroughly enjoy a little bit of lesbian porn to myself every now and again.

If I want to sexually stimulate myself I close my eyes and use my imagination... my fantasies are usually very romantic and filled with tension. I sometimes pretend that I am a different person in them.

I wrote a sex tips book when I was 16 that I still have.. which is funny because at the time I was a virgin.
I just wanted to be good at it so I studied up a bit.. turns out I'm a natural anyway :p

Loud music + Sex = Ecstasy
When I have sex to music I usually embody the song and who I am does this disappearing act and I feel like I'm lost in a dream, a character made up from the song.
I like role play because I'm good at getting into character.

VIEWER DISCRETION IS ADVISED- Anal is the worst thing, sorry, but it's like going to the bathroom in reverse and the feeling is quite unpleasant.
And the rest I can't say because it all gets very wild from there :ninja:
 

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Boring and monotonous is bad :bored:. I may be a shy girl, but, I like to push my comfort zone (and my partner's if they agree). I strive to be ironic, (most people see me as the shy, quiet introvert) I quite enjoy the unexpected. Biting in the right spots and a little hair tuggin can be quite pleasant. I don't mind the odd spontaneous light bondage, (I would make a very disobedient sub though, I would rather spank him :p). It is a back and forth between being aggressive/ initiating and being more submissive/ coy. Really depends on my mood, my day, and my man. I'm inclined to do anything from bringing lunch to him with nothing on but heels and a rain coat, (the unexpected nooner in the parking lot), to batting my lashes, and innocent touches while watching a movie, (that would be his cue to take control). As for preferences, definatley men (they have the tools I like:happy:), and I have to be physically and mentally attracted to them.
 
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