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Hi! I have been interested in personality theories for quite some time, but I have the most knowledge of MBTI. I determined my Myers Briggs type by studying the cognitive functions, but I have struggled to find an enneagram type that fits me (most likely because I have not done as much research). I have an idea of what my type might be, but I'm interested in hearing others thoughts. Any help would be appreciated. Thank you!

1. What do you think your life is about? What drives you in life? This can be something like a goal or a purpose, or anything else that comes to mind.
-I think life is about doing what you are passionate about and making an impact on those around you. I always want to learn and challenge myself. I want a career that adheres to my interests in science but where I am also able to directly help people (I'm considering genetic counseling). I want to be the best person I can be and help others do the same. I also want to establish deep, committed relationships with those I really care about.

2. What were you like as a kid?
-I was quiet and responsible as a kid. I loved learning and excelled in school, but I sometimes got very stressed because I was very hard on myself when I didn't get something right. Now I am in high school, and I am more focused on challenging myself and feeling internally gratified than external motivation. When I was younger I was also somewhat socially awkward, but kind to others. I enjoyed time with friends, but I definitely needed time alone. I often got frustrated with my peers when they weren't as interested in learning as I was, but I didn't express those feelings outwardly except for venting to my parents.

3. Describe your relationship with your parents. Does anything stand out about the way you interacted?
-My parents have always pushed me to be my best. They emphasized that things like grades or getting into a play were not the most important things, but what really mattered was that I worked hard and enjoyed what I was doing. This was good for me because I was hard on myself when I was younger. I relate a lot to my mom because we are somewhat similar, and I enjoy talking to her about what's going on in my life and having discussions about scientific and moral topics.

4. What values are important to you? What do you hope to avoid doing or being?
-I want to always try my best and live up to my potential. I want to be kind and compassionate towards others.

5. Aside from phobias, are there any fears that characterized your childhood? Have they continued into the present day, or not, and if not, how have you dealt with them?
-Like I've talked about, my biggest trouble as a child was feeling frustrated and stressed when I didn't meet my expectations for myself. I now don't consider myself as much of a perfectionist. I enjoy working hard and becoming better at what I like to do, but I have learned how to deal with disappointment and not be as hard on myself.

6. a.) How do you see yourself?
-I see myself as thoughtful, curious, compassionate, driven, and artistic.
b.) How do you want others to see you?
-I want others to see me as kind, responsible, intelligent, and motivated.
c.) What do you dislike the most in other people?
-I dislike when people are 'fake' or lack empathy for others. I also dislike when people don't want to better themselves and the world around them.

7. Which habit do you most automatically act on? Rank the following habits from most to least automatic, on a scale of 1 (most) to 3 (least).
a.) Work for personal gain with more concern for self than for others. 3
b.) Strive for a sense of tranquility in yourself and the world around you 1
c.) Decide what is right for the betterment of something or someone else. 2
-I find this one a bit difficult. I am internally motivated, but I act mostly to help others or make something better that will affect others.

8. Where does the wandering mind take you? What provokes this?
-I enjoy thinking about theories I've researched and how I see them in my personal life. I also like contemplating deep questions about morality and how people are motivated (WHY? questions). I think about meaning in life and how my future can contribute to my personal purpose in life.

9.What makes you feel your best? What makes you feel your worst?
-I feel my best when I am challenging myself and doing something I love. I enjoy music, science, reading, and learning in general. I enjoy spending time with my closest friends, but I also feel very good while spending time alone contemplating questions or just relaxing by reading, playing piano, ect. I am also a religious person, and I enjoy studying the Bible on my own.

10. Let's talk about emotions. Explain what might make you feel the following, how they feel to you or how you react to the emotion:
a.) anger: I don't get very angry often, but I get frustrated when others don't do their part and try their best. I also get angry when I see others disrespecting someone else.
b.) shame: I feel ashamed when I know I could have done better or worked harder.
c.) anxiety: I can get anxious about events where I'll be judged like auditions. I have the most anxiety before the actual event, and I sometimes deny that I am nervous (partly because I don't always realize that I am nervous about something). I get anxious about social situations, and I really care that people see me as a kind, genuine person. For example, I am a student leader in my choir this year and I wanted to make sure that the new members on my team felt welcome and know that I care. This pushed me out of my comfort zone a bit, but it felt very good when some of them thanked me for making them feel welcome.

11. Describe how you respond to the following:
a.) stress: When I'm stressed, I sometimes suppress my emotions and need time alone. I deal with stress by doing something calming like listening to or playing music.
b.) negative unexpected change: I can get somewhat anxious about change now, but when I was younger I was very sensitive to it.
c.) conflict: I want to resolve conflict around me, and I can keep a calm 'exterior' to do so.

12. a.) What kind of role are you naturally inclined to take in a group? Why?: I tend to let others lead, but if no one steps up or there is disorder or conflict in the group, I will lead.
b.) If put in power, how do you behave? Why?: I am not dominating, and I try to consider the opinions and feelings of others when making decisions. I want to get the task done effectively but also make sure everyone has a good experience and avoid unneeded stress.
c.) Do you tend to struggle with others who have authority over you? Why?: I tend to respect authority outwardly, but sometimes I want to do things my way if how they are leading is ineffective or they don't seem to care about others.

13. What do you see or notice in others that most people don't?
-I notice how other people think and their talents. I often find that some people only consider intelligence or abilities in sports, music, ect. talents, but I like to encourage people in other talents like leadership, compassion, or teaching. For example, a good friend of mine is compassionate and very good at relating to people, but she said that she never thought of this as a talent until I told her.

14. Comment on your relationship with trust.
-I trust my friends and family, but I can be distrustful of other people. When doing projects, I sometimes find it hard to give responsibilities to people that I don't know I can trust to complete them. As far as relationships go, it takes me a long time to open up. I am engaged and personable in conversation, but I feel like only a few people (my closest friends and family) really know and understand me. I have never dated someone before, but when I do I want a committed relationship with someone that I already know I can trust.

Thank you so much for your help and taking the time to read this! If you have any other questions to help determine my type, I'd be happy to answer them.
 

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How do you feel about 1? You sound pretty 1ish in your description of yourself as a child, but you keep stressing how you outgrew that...

"-Like I've talked about, my biggest trouble as a child was feeling frustrated and stressed when I didn't meet my expectations for myself. I now don't consider myself as much of a perfectionist. I enjoy working hard and becoming better at what I like to do, but I have learned how to deal with disappointment and not be as hard on myself."

Do you think that maybe you are downplaying how much of a perfectionist you still are?
 

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How do you feel about 1? You sound pretty 1ish in your description of yourself as a child, but you keep stressing how you outgrew that...

"-Like I've talked about, my biggest trouble as a child was feeling frustrated and stressed when I didn't meet my expectations for myself. I now don't consider myself as much of a perfectionist. I enjoy working hard and becoming better at what I like to do, but I have learned how to deal with disappointment and not be as hard on myself."

Do you think that maybe you are downplaying how much of a perfectionist you still are?
Yea, i got either 1w9 or 4w5 as core type.
 
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Thanks for your help! :) I've been researching a bit, and I think that 1w9 core fits me.
Good! Try to research on type 4 and its wings, 5 and its wings and even maybe 8. People can be mistyped as 1, but are actually this type. See what really describes your "essence". That will be you core type. But know that you will have a head-fix type, a heart-fix type and a body-fix type. Read this: https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/how-the-enneagram-system-works/
It may help you.
 

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