Welcome, @
drgreen19 !
Symposium time!
No, you're not alone.
I know some ENxP/INFJ relationships that are having problems because both sides are/were vunerable at that/this point in time.
ENxP's are the best match for an INFJ because the are lead iNs like we are.
INFJs have Ni and ENxPs have Ne. Thus, it complete's eachother's iNs.
It's all about using your mate's functions to work with yours and make a better attack on life.
You can have an INFJ/INFJ relationship, but you put you "eggs in one basket" when you do that. If
you can't handle something, neither can they, because they're the same as you. That's why ENTPs are good. When an INFJ needs some crafty Ne, we can turn to them!
When the ENTP is losing their direction, they can turn to our Ni.
We have some common ground with them:
Fe and Ti.
So
ENTPs speak the same language, but use it in different ways, thus completing you.
(Ne + Fe makes them helpful with suggestions opposed to critical, something INFJs are sensitive to. But it also makes them more sensitive than the ENFP. INFJs are typically kind so this isn't a big issue) (Ti + Si put an intellectual twist on their quirky, fun loving nature. It also makes them a little stubborn and arrogant, but in a lovable way.)
EN
FPs are the 2nd best choice because they have that Ne I mentioned earlier.
But they're the runner-up because we don't share
ANY functions with them.
So
ENFPs DO NOT speak the same language, and operate in a different way.
I have had a lot of experience with ENFPs and:
when they're happy, they're great.
Cross them in any way, and there will be war. (Ne + Te makes them very volatile when provoked and critical) (Fi + Si makes them not particularly care what you think either).
These traits, onced worked through, can be very beneficial, though.
Other good matches I would endorse are ENFJ and INTJ.