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INFJ's and Self Appearance

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Can INFJ's be the type that enjoys looking in the mirror or is this more the trait of another type? Or is this irrelevant to what type you are? I'm just asking because as an INFJ myself I like to look in the mirror and I do have an interest in what I look like. I can muse over a mirror for minutes at a time looking at my face. For me, I think that this interest comes from my interest in art and aesthetics. I like things that look nice and I seek them out in everyday life. From nature to humans I notice the beauty and actively seek it out. I like to appreciate art, both on a wall and also on a catwalk. I like to look at beautiful things, including people and because of this search for beauty I turn inwards. I'm not saying I'm drop dead gorgeous but I would say I am decent looking or pleasant looking.

When I look in a mirror I analyse myself and try to pick out faults. I think the main reason I do this though is because I have had some skin trouble including acne. I like my facial features and I wouldn't change them, but I would like my skin to be better.
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If you want, you could explain to me the cognitive functions behind why I do this.
Thank you.
This sounds like something relevant to Enneagram styles rather than MBTI.

Edit: to be more precise, it sounds like one of the Image styles in Enneagram, particularly Three or Four, or Six out of the Head types. You might want to look them up.
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@Kirjuri I've researched the enneagram a bit, (Though not as much as MBTI) and I think I am type 1. Thanks for your help though, now I know that what I was talking about may not be related to MBTI. Do you think that means then that any type could have an interest in self-appearance?
@Kirjuri I've researched the enneagram a bit, (Though not as much as MBTI) and I think I am type 1. Thanks for your help though, now I know that what I was talking about may not be related to MBTI. Do you think that means then that any type could have an interest in self-appearance?
Oh yes, Ones would be interested in perfection, too. Makes sense :) Even more so if 3 happens to be your Heart Fix (everyone follows a style from each of the two other triads in addition to their main style, after all).

Yes, I think any cognitive type can think and act image-based. Can't think of any that couldn't, at any rate.
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I haven't dug too deep into the Enneagram, but I've tested and consider myself as a 3, so I think @Kirjuri would be right.

I'm a flaky narcissist. Sometimes I look in the mirror because I'm happy with it, sometimes I'm just marveling at how awful I look. I don't even want to think about the myriad of different factors involved (mood, lighting, what I ate recently, etc., etc.). I am acutely aware of image. I understand -- and often detest -- how your appearance is involved when it comes to the impression you give.

I'm one of those people who is sort of on the border of being attractive, I suppose. Most of the time when I go out -- especially for work -- I don't put much effort into dolling up. When that's the case, people don't give me a second look or the time of day. If I do make it a point to look nice, the way I'm received by people is remarkably different. To me, it's a demonstration of how shallow we as human beings are. I'm exactly the same person; I just threw on lipstick and now I'm worthy of your notice. Fabulous.

There are times when I'm about to go out and I feel as though my confidence/affirmation meter is low (Aux. Fe, I guess?), so I'll spruce myself up in order to get some positive attention. It's a silly thing, but it makes me feel good regardless.

TL;DR -- the whole "INFJs don't care about physical appearance" thing is a myth, at least as a blanket statement. We're all Fe/Se users and are therefore pretty aware of how we're coming off to others. The only thing which seems to be common across the type is that INFJs tend to dislike being conspicuous. If we're going to look nice, we'd usually rather do it in a more understated, less-flashy way.
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I like my skin, and my face is quite decent, too. I look at it twice a year or so.
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I grew up with some pretty heavy self esteem issues. It didn't help that my peers were quite ruthless in their abuse hurled towards me. It was really the only way they could attack me as many simply misunderstood my personality and manner. This was further compounded by my lack of awareness when it came to certain social cues or etiquette. I was polite but quiet and to myself.

I have lost and gained weight in drastic directions at least twice. Puberty wasn't kind. While I don't consider myself to be particularly attractive I still try and maintain my physical self to be "presentable" to the outside world.

So the usual maintenance and upkeep is maintained consistently especially with facial hair. I also have beyond shoulder length hair which demands attention for at least 10 minutes a day.

I highly doubt concern for appearance is type based or even enneagram. It would depend on an individual level.
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Don't you think the vast majority of girls do this? (assuming you are a girl?) I definitely do all the things you described, and for the same reasons as well.
Can INFJ's be the type that enjoys looking in the mirror or is this more the trait of another type?
It is extremely important to me that I look good in a mirror. Now I do make adjustments for my age. I'm 56 and I expect myself to look middle aged. But there are just certain things. Like I battle my weight. I'm always looking for the problem and what I can do. Presently I've been taking probiotics for a month for example, to see if that helps (I've lost over 10 pounds but I also gave up cinnamon rolls). I lost over 100 pounds a few years back, and I'm very unhappy with the way my skin sags, but I can compensate for that by buying really cute clothes that hide it, and hide the tummy fat that I will probably always have (my whole family has it). I dress down in the home, wanting to be comfy, but I'm always dressed up when I go out, including hair and makeup and jewelry. I try to wear especially cute, feminine clothing that hides my flaws and presents my assets (yeah I still have some of those!).

I cannot stand older women who let themselves go, with short unstyled hair, sweat pants, and average T-shirts. They look sexless. You know, a 21 year old can wear rags and still look feminine, but you can't do that when you're 40. You have to work with what you have to look good.
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