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INFJ's and Self Appearance

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Can INFJ's be the type that enjoys looking in the mirror or is this more the trait of another type? Or is this irrelevant to what type you are? I'm just asking because as an INFJ myself I like to look in the mirror and I do have an interest in what I look like. I can muse over a mirror for minutes at a time looking at my face. For me, I think that this interest comes from my interest in art and aesthetics. I like things that look nice and I seek them out in everyday life. From nature to humans I notice the beauty and actively seek it out. I like to appreciate art, both on a wall and also on a catwalk. I like to look at beautiful things, including people and because of this search for beauty I turn inwards. I'm not saying I'm drop dead gorgeous but I would say I am decent looking or pleasant looking.

When I look in a mirror I analyse myself and try to pick out faults. I think the main reason I do this though is because I have had some skin trouble including acne. I like my facial features and I wouldn't change them, but I would like my skin to be better.
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I haven't dug too deep into the Enneagram, but I've tested and consider myself as a 3, so I think @Kirjuri would be right.

I'm a flaky narcissist. Sometimes I look in the mirror because I'm happy with it, sometimes I'm just marveling at how awful I look. I don't even want to think about the myriad of different factors involved (mood, lighting, what I ate recently, etc., etc.). I am acutely aware of image. I understand -- and often detest -- how your appearance is involved when it comes to the impression you give.

I'm one of those people who is sort of on the border of being attractive, I suppose. Most of the time when I go out -- especially for work -- I don't put much effort into dolling up. When that's the case, people don't give me a second look or the time of day. If I do make it a point to look nice, the way I'm received by people is remarkably different. To me, it's a demonstration of how shallow we as human beings are. I'm exactly the same person; I just threw on lipstick and now I'm worthy of your notice. Fabulous.

There are times when I'm about to go out and I feel as though my confidence/affirmation meter is low (Aux. Fe, I guess?), so I'll spruce myself up in order to get some positive attention. It's a silly thing, but it makes me feel good regardless.

TL;DR -- the whole "INFJs don't care about physical appearance" thing is a myth, at least as a blanket statement. We're all Fe/Se users and are therefore pretty aware of how we're coming off to others. The only thing which seems to be common across the type is that INFJs tend to dislike being conspicuous. If we're going to look nice, we'd usually rather do it in a more understated, less-flashy way.
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