"Do I look fat in this dress?"
The best answer I've come up with is "You have a beautiful smile"... :blushed:
Really got no talent for lying, and it is too cumbersome to remember which lies have been told to which people. Nah, easier to tell the truth, or just shut up (INFJs are often shy and quiet, so that is the really easy option).
Absolutely 100% on this. I will sneak around a truth if it's like a "surprise" for someone I know, like a relative showing up as a surprise to a party for someone. I come off "crude" as well when asked for my opinion on things, haha....Not very often... if I do its just a little white lie or I'm just not being up front unless the person asks.
Personally, lying is a pet peeve of mine along with being fake. It drives me crazy so I do my best to be as genuine and honest as possible..... even if it comes off as perhaps not "socially appropriate" or a little "crude" to be so honest.
In my relationship experience, I have found this can happen easily with Enneagram 9s - they will gloss over something that bothers them in the interest of keeping the peace. And keep glossing over it - even if you sense something is wrong and ask them about it. Then one day instead of their glossing over it again, you find yourself on the receiving end of a volcano to balance every time that it happened before. Addressing it up-front might have been uncomfortable, true. But far preferable to the lava treatment - and much more reversible.All in all I do see people engaging in a lot of 'subconscious' lying. Basically they are not aware of what they really want and say one thing, but then end up doing completely different thing and if you catch them at it, they will be surprised/unsettled and still insist on that thing that they said. Question arises though why are they doing something completely different from what they are saying? Only way I have been able to rationalize it is that they are not fully understanding themselves, consciously believing one thing but subconsciously following another path, so it ends up looking like lies <-- this btw seems to happen in relationships a lot.