Therefore INTJs are not confident, not relaxed and cold?I see INFJ as an Confident Relaxed Warm INTJ...an INTJ who doesn't have to control every thing...It's nice to have a place to crash… an INFJ can give you this place
Leave it to an ENFP to love all over an INFJ hahaha I probably am slightly jealous, but fortunate for me, there are pretty much no INFJs to be jealous ofYou're just jealous that INFJs got all the cool people and ISFJs don't! :dry:
Kidding.
You're kind of right.
It's hard to see the N-S thing sometimes on IxFJ, I know a few people like that x_x Maybe because ISFJs are less hardcore sensors than others? this will remain a mystery
That's kinda what they would be externally, but you won't come across hardly any.I see INFJ as an Confident Relaxed Warm INTJ...an INTJ who doesn't have to control every thing...It's nice to have a place to crash… an INFJ can give you this place
I agree.The truth is, nobody will ever know what type really is the least common because it's too difficult to sample an entire population and there isn't much of a universal consensus that INFJ is the rarest type-- IxFPs and ENxJs have also topped the lists for the rarest!
Imo, anyone who associates "rare" with "better" is just cutting him or herself short as far as self-discovery goes and insanely overrating the idea of "exotic". The whole idea is to understand what makes yourself tick. "Being" an INFJ in itself has no meaning to me.
I'm gonna headdesk if anyone else brings that up as a bragging point.
That's likely true. In fact I know it's true, because there are tons of INFPs here and not a whole lot of ISFJs, but I meet far too many purported INFJs in everyday interaction to believe it. I think it's a type people associate themselves with too easily and aren't understanding personality functions well enough to know they aren't INFJs.Their over-representation on this site is a side effect of their under-represententation in real life. That's why there are so few ESFJs here even though they're the most common type. They don't need to use personality sites like this to find like-minded others since their are plently around them already.
Just a theory.
I don't know if INFJs are the rarest personality type or not, BUT they do exist, and I am one of them.This may be a bit of a rant, but I'm convinced a lot of people that test as, and think they are INFJs are not actually said personality type. Let's just talk sheer numbers. 1%. INFJs represent 1% of the population and a quiet 1% at that.
Here's my theory: A good many of you are ISFJs and several are probably INFPs.
Why would an ISFJ think they're an INFJ? Well, Si is actually pretty amazing and many of us ISFJs think we have intuitive powers, because we have such a tremendous store of information and as the ability to connect and process that information is refined, we get good at predicting behavior and understanding people and situations. We come across as intuitive. Sorry, some of you INFJs are not actually intuitive, you're just good with your Si.
Why would an INFP think they're an INFJ? In this case you think you are trying to fit in or you want to fit in with society a little better, in a J kind of way. You may desire it. You may be honestly working on it and have even had some organizational success, but you aren't a J. You can look like a J all you want, but you still function in your head as a P. If an INFP were actually an INFJ, they would have a much harder time being satisfied with themselves (not that INFPs are happy with who they are in society).
There are others that test as INFJs that probably aren't. They may just not understand personality functions. Or maybe they have low self-esteem and want to be part of an elite group. It's going to be a complex issue, but I'm convinced that way to many people think they are INFJs when that personality, by percentages, can be assumed to essentially not exist.
You mean the way I would, given just little time with someone?I don't know if INFJs are the rarest personality type or not, BUT they do exist, and I am one of them.
Don't believe me? Let me get to know you, and I will read your soul.
I agree. People are too likely to think "INFJ is the rarest type. I'm misunderstood, I must be INFJ." They are likely to be a different type.That's likely true. In fact I know it's true, because there are tons of INFPs here and not a whole lot of ISFJs, but I meet far too many purported INFJs in everyday interaction to believe it. I think it's a type people associate themselves with too easily and aren't understanding personality functions well enough to know they aren't INFJs.
You mean the way I would, given just little time with someone?
Don't get me wrong, INFJs exist, but they are rare and a lot of ISFJs get it wrong.
