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Other than MBTI, I am interested in learning about other parts of my personality including the big five. I expect some interesting responses. I'm also interested in hearing about how your gender, MBTI, and other factors interrelate with the Big five. Do you find the enneagram helpful? In the end I want to become more open to experiences and develop more effective social skills. I believe that learning about your personality will help me understand my own.

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Openness – Not Quite Balanced. Being introverted, I'm curious but a little hesitant. I am intellectually open but I spend too much time in my internal world. I feel the need to become a little more open to experience and a little less defensive. If you have any straightforward advice, I'll take that too.

Conscientiousness
– Fairly Low (Absent-minded). I try to organize. Occasionally, I find some tactic that works well for a specific application like using a daily to-do list. However, my overall strategy is more careless. I need to consciously identify and work on specific areas to apply self-discipline. This seems to take a lot of extra effort.

Extroversion– Low. Pretty much a requirement for being INFJ. I need some experience with developing my auxiliary extroverted feeling.

Agreeableness – Varies - I usually try to be friendly to people. Sometimes I can appear as suspicious and antagonistic towards others. Like other INFJ's, I am loyal to my established relationships.

Neuroticism – Fairly High. Social Anxiety/nervous to interest in conspiracy ideas such as William Cooper's Behold a Pale Horse. I am concerned about being labeled emotionally unstable. How exactly do I effectively accept, change, or adapt a limiting belief system?
 

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Openness –Balanced. I'm a very open and engaging person when one on one with someone I feel I get along with. I'll talk about my suicide attempt to being operated in the hospital, my world views and so on without the other person even asking. I do however need time alone and get tired in groups, prefer to observe in bigger groups and not talk much unlss I feel the need to take charge.

Conscientiousness
– Not bad. I tend to make general plans, not pans that are set in stone down to the last detail. General plans towards a situation have room for sudden shifts and can adapt better going from plan A to plan A 0.1 to plan A 0.2 etc. I usually prepare for the worst but will not go overboard on it. Self discipline is not easy for me, I'm more of a go with my flow type. I am organized but will change it when need to and adapt to what needs to be done.

Extroversion– Towards the middle. I like being out there and doing things with people. Have led several groups before because I tend to disagree with idiotic leadership and take over naturally, I like to organize and can see the potential in people so getting them to do the right thing for a specific task is easy. I can be engaging and energetic if I feel the need for it.. I do however need recharge time and to reflect on what I'm doing or get stressed out because my energy tends to go down. I'm an INFJ after all.

Agreeableness – Varies - I usually try to be friendly to people. I value critical thinking and constantly reassess people, this makes me inconsistent in what I'm thinking about new people at first. It solidifies fast enough and I stick with people I like or see that are good people according to what I feel is right. I am not loyal like most INFJs thou, can be really aggressive and rebellious when I see someone doing something wrong. If it is a friend I will approach the issue gently so I don't hurt them, but if the negative behavior continues I will "cut the floor right out from underneath my friend" and turn against him/her. I do not stick to people when they are being assholes. I also don’t like following orders. Ask me nicely, that works.

Neuroticism – Moderate. I’m shy, sort of and don’t like it when others can’t accept me. I dread it. Other then that not much. My ever increasing self isolation has sadly made my Fe weak and I mainly use Ni, Ti, I compensate for the weaker Fe with Ti, which is not good. I need to train my Fe no matter how scary it is. A childhood trauma I had probably makes this worse, I am scared of groups of teenagers. Persecution In a summer camp lasting for days and ending with my retreat from camp and isolation for months afterward in my room was not a good thing.
 

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Openness – I tend to rate high on this. I'm very open to new ideas and information and some new experiences. Some people might think I'm too open in certain ways. I'm also very open about myself.

Conscientiousness – Relatively high. I always finish projects and have goals that I keep to.

Extroversion– Low. Sometimes very low. Other times I do need quiet human contact in-person.

Agreeableness – Pretty high, but sometimes I will get into interpersonal conflicts.

Neuroticism – Very high. I have a lot of anxiety.
 

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I need to train my Fe no matter how scary it is.
I want to "train" my Fe too. I'm not worried about fear anymore. It is something I made my mind up to do. I am concerned with the how. I don't really know what I can do to achieve this goal.

As far as Neuroticism, do you do anything effective to lessen anxiety? I want to find a natural means to feel relaxed with people.
 

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Openness – I tend to rate high on this. I'm very open to new ideas and information and some new experiences. Some people might think I'm too open in certain ways. I'm also very open about myself.

Conscientiousness – Relatively high. I always finish projects and have goals that I keep to.

Extroversion– Low. Sometimes very low. Other times I do need quiet human contact in-person.

Agreeableness – Pretty high, but sometimes I will get into interpersonal conflicts.

Neuroticism – Very high. I have a lot of anxiety.
Are you really neurotic? I'm a little bit impressed.
 

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^^ the good part about developing Fe is that it is also the way to get rid of neuroticism problems.

As I understood it, exposure to social situations is the key to dealing with anxiety. This exposure is gradual, because at the same time you need to develop Fe and Fi aka EQ.

This involves going out and meeting people (preferably situations that will not overwhelm you). The experience needs to be a positive one. Because we are introverts I do not recommend big groups and parties or lengthy outings that will drain you. One on one conversations with different people during a week and a small group maybe once or twice a week should do the trick.

This place can help, I'll try it as well.

Learn How to Increase Your Emotional Intelligence with Five Simple Tools - By Dr.Jeanne Segal Ph.D.

EQ:

This is Fi (we have a weak Fi) :
Self-awareness – the ability to be conscious of your emotions and recognize their impact while using gut feelings to guide your decisions.
Self-management – the ability to control your emotions and behavior and adapt to changing circumstances.

This is Fe:
Social awareness – the ability to sense, understand, and react to the emotions of others and feel comfortable socially.
Relationship management – the ability to inspire, influence, and connect to others while managing conflict.
 

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I have taken the Big Five test before, so I looked if I still have the results and I do. I had saved them in my Favorites/Bookmarks and I think they are from 7 February 2009, but the results are still quite accurate. I don't know if you can also see them at the following link: Your Big Five Results ; I score very high on Openness (this is because I'm very inquisitive and honest), I score high on Conscientiousness (this is because I'm very reliable), I score extremely low on Extraversion (I don't mind silence at all), I score high on Agreeableness (I consider the feelings of others) and I score low on Neuroticism (I'm often very relaxed).
 

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This place can help, I'll try it as well.
I cliced on the link and glanced over a couple pages and watched a video. I will definately look as I bookmarked the site. I have a lot of work to get done for school and I might be distracted from personal endevors until May.
 

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Openness – Fairly low, I share in small groups but there is a part I keep to myself (or a very select few) so no matter what nobody knows every part of me.

Conscientiousness – Fairly high - guess this is a factor of Fi, I always take other peoples opinions/feelings into consideration with most decisions I make involving them. Probably to a fault.

Extroversion– Medium - When I am motivated and feel like socialising I don't have a problem interacting with anyone. When I dont I feel anxious before hand but generally am ok during/after but pretty quiet.

Agreeableness – Fairly high - Even if I don't agree with someone I will find something we can both agree on on a smaller scale - unless it's something quite extreme then I will argue to the very end

Neuroticism – Average - All in all I am somewhat relaxed unless I am having a bad day, even the anxiousness is not too bad. It's rarely stopped me doing something
 

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Based on Out of Service test:

Openness: 53%
Conscientiousness: 8% HAHA
Extraversion: 27%
Agreeableness: 8%
Neuroticism: 71%

I think my openness should be higher and the lack of agreeableness seems to be extreme.
 
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Openness to Experience/Intellect
High scorers tend to be original, creative, curious, complex; Low scorers tend to be conventional, down to earth, narrow interests, uncreative.
You are relatively open to new experiences. (Your percentile: 65)

Conscientiousness
High scorers tend to be reliable, well-organized, self-disciplined, careful; Low scorers tend to be disorganized, undependable, negligent.
You are very well-organized, and can be relied upon. (Your percentile: 95)

Extraversion
High scorers tend to be sociable, friendly, fun loving, talkative; Low scorers tend to be introverted, reserved, inhibited, quiet.
You are relatively social and enjoy the company of others. (Your percentile: 70)

Agreeableness
High scorers tend to be good natured, sympathetic, forgiving, courteous; Low scorers tend to be critical, rude, harsh, callous.
You are neither extremely forgiving nor irritable. (Your percentile: 57)

Neuroticism
High scorers tend to be nervous, high-strung, insecure, worrying; Low scorers tend to be calm, relaxed, secure, hardy.
You are generally relaxed. (Your percentile: 32)


Even though I scored 70% on extraversion, that's only because I'm a very talkative introvert. It's just that after I finish talking I temporarily become a hermit to recharge. Most of the questions about extraversion seemed to be about how much you like to talk and about whether you are shy or not... I usually score much lower (below 50%) on other tests (I used the outofservice.com test this time). The rest is accurate enough though. :proud:

I score extremely high on conscientiousness on every Big Five test out there. My friends sometimes tell me they wish they had half of my discipline. It's without a doubt my strongest asset.
 
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