I don't know if it's resilience so much or if it's "This hurts but I don't want anyone to know ever ever ever ever ever!" until one day it all comes spilling out. But before then, yea suffer in silence, except when the doors are closed and you listen to sad music or whatever your ritual is. The reason for so desperately not wanting anyone to know is because either you'll look weak and over sensitive like people accuse INFPs of quite often (it's not entirely untrue) or if someone has hurt you, you never want them to know because then they will know how to hurt you in the future, and you don't ever want them to know they had the power to hurt you so damn deeply. It goes as far, (in my case) as me creating fake insecurities for people to make fun of so that they do not hit my real ones. I remember one time in school I told kids I was afraid of squirrels so that that would be the thing I got made fun of for instead of real things that would hurt me. So resilience or protection? Unless you are talking about something else.Thank you! The feeling is mutual!
Well... what I'm seeking... I did present the case that triggered the question of the thread in my mind, but I was also curious in a wider sense how INFPs view ENTJs and yes, you did help with that. What I find fascinating about dominant Fi is the resilience. It could be inferior Fi or my 9 wing (Enneagram-wise), but I really value resilience. I see resilience as the trait I'm most proud in myself, due to my own personal past (having been through poverty and illness, even death - medics managed to resuscitate me), but also because of my birthplace (a city which has been completely destroyed 3 times, survived 2 world wars and German - WW1 and Allied - WW2 occupations and yet it still stands, the phoenix is on our coat of arms as a symbol of our resilience despite hardship).
I see strength mainly not as an ability to be aggressive in the offensive, as much as I see it in terms of one's ability to take it, to suffer hit after hit without giving up and it seems to me Fi-doms are exceptional at this. I see INFPs as powerhouses, because real power isn't about a puffed up chest and the go-getter attitude, but about taking it quietly and persevering. And I have seen my INFP friends take heavy hits and in a way, the hits barely put them off balance. Sensitive like a seismometer, yet resilient at the same time. Another thing I really like is the moral compass, you seem to be able to deal with complex moral questions in a way I can't and this makes INFPs excellent at giving solid grounded advice which re-balances me.