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What are you striving to achieve in your life right now? What was it you wanted to achieve 6 months/1 year ago? Did you achieve that?
 
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I have no idea about what I'm striving to achieve right now.
6 months ago, I was striving to achieve happiness from love. I was able to almost get there until a couple of weeks ago, when my girlfriend dumped me. Since then I don't know what to do with my life.

It's kind of weird, but it's almost like I live for love and for finding a person that can share love with me. I'm always looking for a girl that can fill this requirement. So, I usually think I found the one, and then become dead inside when she dumps me.
 

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What I am trying to achieve right now is a comfortability with my life - I don't want it to be too predictable, but I want it to be well-managed.

What I wanted to achieve 6 months ago was a solid, long-lasting relationship with the girl I loved then. It didn't really work out, but I did give it everything I had.

What I wanted to achieve 1 year ago was mainly academic, and I did very well with that (in that Fall semester).
 

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Right now what I want is to be the best person I can be. I strive for positivity, love, and happiness.

A year ago what I wanted was the same thing, I just didn't know it.
 
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First and foremost, I want to survive the class schedule and prove to everyone else that it is NOT impossible.

My goals last year were honestly to just to LIVE and deal with all the social shit going on in my life. People can be so stupid in high school.

Goals for high school?

* Get over a 30 on the ACT
* Ace multiple AP tests
* Spanish
* Take voice lessons
* Advance to French Club president
* Take over the GSA
* Win the art show
* Design a t-shirt for each respective club
* Get the money for that #@$!*ing promise ring and plane ticket
* Make an L.E.D. prom dress my senior year
* Driver's training HUURRR DUUHHHRRR, I can't wait to get out of MI
* Survive gym LOL
* Save another life
* Take one of those abstinence t-shirts and make a really slutty dress out of it. Fuck, yeah.
* Graduate summa cum laude
* Do something in chem involving fire for my senior research project-- STUNNING VISUAL EFFECTS
* Go to Warped Tour
* Go to a rave
* Burn my most-hated teacher in effigy with the rest of the students in the class in a bonfire, along with our homework
* Eat some POOUUUUUTTIIINNNNEEEE
 

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Goals for high school and college were to do well academicallly, and I achieved those. Then, I got into the working life, and my world was flipped upside down. Now I'm just striving for that significant other whom I feel will bring the ultimate happiness. Although, that may need to be achieved within myself first. Likewise, now I am totally concerned with finding something I can enjoy doing if I have to be there 8-9 hours a day. Happiness is now the ultimate goal instead of society's preset metrics of success.
 

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What are you striving to achieve in your life right now?

I want a great life. I currently have a good life, but I want to get to "the next level" whatever that may be. I've been reading a ton of books outside the traditional self-help genre, like Good To Great (business book), E-Myth Revisited (business book), Outliers (explains why the Beatles and Bill Gates success was due more to luck than talent and how success happens). All of which is I'm finally absorbing in order to figure out how to apply the concepts to personal development. I need to find a different approach that works for my personality and temperament since:

1. I get bored after 4 years and then change focus to my next "passion". Which means I never get great at anything.
2. I want growth to be more organic and less focused on goal completion.

What was it you wanted to achieve 6 months/1 year ago? Did you achieve that?

1. In May I decided I wanted to lose 26 lbs in order to do a 3-day bike race with my sister next year. I'm down 16lbs to 150. I hope to be down to 140 in a month or two. Losing weight isn't really the goal. The goal is do the 3 -day ride with my sister next year. It will be a great bonding experience.

2. Get closer to financial freedom. That's such a vague goal. But my goal since I read CashFlow Quadrant in 2000 was to move away from earned income (ie job or self-employment). We sold one of our property that I held onto way too long (emotional attachment is the downfall to INFPs investing) and then refinanced our current home. That improved our monthly cashflow by $500/month. It's a tiny step closer, but a step nonetheless.

3. I wanted to double my traffic on my INFP Blog. In January, I got 656 Unique Visitors and 2800 Pageviews. In August, I'm at 1559 Unique Visitors and 6800 PageViews.


And how do I feel about accomplishing those goals. Meh. Which is the entire problem. I really wanted to do those things when I set the goals. But then I just kind of grow bored of the goals and by the time I get them done, it's like "now what?"

So that's where the " striving to achieve" question comes in. I'm pretty annoyed with my cycle of set goal, grow bored with goal, accomplish goal and try to figure out why I even bothered.
 

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What are you striving to achieve in your life right now?
More independence and a newer, more solid identity (on my terms) as I reach the next phase in my life. Although I appreciate my past, I feel that some parts of it are over and I want to face that.

To stop finding outside answers and validations for my deepest feelings and wants out of fear. To stop hanging onto individuals or things only out of insecurity. In other words, to stop basing my life on fears, over consuming need for approval and solely the past.

To be who I want to be simply because it's time.
 

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To live my life with independence, courage, truths that I have redefined on my own when I found them and personal creative meanings that I have been able to attach to a lot of things.

Sound very INFP'ish but true :) I often long for that sense of completion and reaching a ''light'' regardless of my mood or emotional state.
 

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I could make a super duper long list of both idealistic and practical things to do before I die. But when I really think about it, I think I can live without most of those achievements. I would boil it down to three things:

1) Renew my love for friends and family, as needed and spontaneously.

2) Marry my boyfriend and spend as much time as possible with him for the rest of my life.

3) Do just one thing that will help many people, like a career that encourages help, or writing that one book that makes someone do something just a little different, a little better, and be a little happier.
 

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^ Even if it means reminding myself compulsively not to rely toooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo much on people in my life for emotional protection.
 

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diversifying my sexual partners
and the acquisition of currency
 

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Now- I want to become my old self again, except healthier and hopefully more knowledgeable.
1 year ago- I wanted to feel again, and become a psychiatrist.
2 years- I wanted to disappear. XD Lol, I'm just realizing how I'm just a complete ball of depressive fluff.
3 years- I wanted to die.
4 years- You know what? Let's just stop at that. XD
But 5+ years are generally something about love...something about a career as an artist/something worth it. And I wanted a family consisting of a loved one, at least 2 kids (adopted), a lot of pets, and each of them happily living according to their whims. I wanted to buy a farm for my grandma, a giant condo for my parents, and a small comfy cottage for my family, who happens to accept my queer self. XD
 
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