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Without going into specifics, I've been offered a job that is physically demanding. This position attracts almost entirely ISTPs and ESTPs, with a few ISTJs and maybe a couple of ISFPs and INTJs thrown in.

You might be asking why I even applied for such a job. Firstly, the pay is unbelievably good. I would be earning at least 50% more than I do now. I would also be physically active, which would be good for my health and it would be relatively low stress, which would be good for my mind. This would be a huge improvement from my current sedentary, high stress, low paying job.

The downside? I'm concerned about the social aspect of not having many NFs around like in my current position. The fact that my conversations are mostly going to be about sports, machines and gossip really scares me. I know it sounds like I'm stereotyping, but unfortunately I'm not because I already interact with people these people daily (it would be a different position at the same workplace). Most of them are not big picture intellectuals. They're predominately male, here and now, mechanically-minded types. Many are very bright, we just think very differently.

I'm torn between following this path and aiming for something that is more in line with my ideals. The problem with taking the idealistic route is the low pay and high stress. Quite frankly, I'm done with that and it's unlikely I'll ever get to achieve what I'd like to do anyway. At the very least I could have this job and volunteer or do whatever else as a hobby.

Can anyone relate or does anyone have any advice?
 

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Well think about it rationally. This new job is a lot more money, less stress and healthier. Those tick very important boxes. The only drawback is that conversation with your colleagues won't be fulfilling.

What I've noticed people do in work is compartmentalise. (Is that a word?). Basically you need to think that your job is not your source of fulfilling relationships. I've always tried to do this with little success to be honest, but I think it's the way to go.

As long as you can access those relationships outside work, i'd go for it.
 

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This job sounds like a brilliant step for you upwards in the world. It sounds like you have already decided that this job is better for you than your current one, with socialising being the only hang up.

I would say two things to that. Firstly, your workplace does not have to be the home of your social life too (like @Flora said). Try and get to some clubs or societies or classes - somewhere you can meet N types. If you're still into sport, I recommend fencing - the sport seems to attract less conventional people, so to say.

Secondly, you shouldn't be scared off because the people doing the job might be an alien type. It really depends on the individual, not the type, whether you will get on e.g. My ISTP brother and I get along quite well now. Also, there could be less alien types at this job than you think - there might be someone there in the exact same boat as you.

I think you have already decided that you want this job, so give it a shot! You might like the people you find there anyway, but in short bursts.
 

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The socializing is a big thing for me because I'm quite involved there. I met my boyfriend, my best friend and several other good friends there. This is the first time in my life where I've had a nice little group where I've felt comfortable and can be myself. There's nothing to say I can't still see them, but they just won't be as accessible and that's a huge downside. Especially since I have horrendous social anxiety and I couldn't imagine joining a club.

There's also the whole part where I'm not passionate about the job. On one hand it makes it harder to like what I'll be doing, but on the other hand the quality of life will be so much better.

I think you are both right in that I've made up my mind. I guess I just needed to talk it through and convince myself that I've made the right choice. The lingering doubts are very typical of me. Sometimes I just need that extra push to help me make decisions.
 

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@Mulberries I had to make a conflicting choice recently between two music courses, one of which really needed me. I decided against that course at the last minute and was haunted by doubts until the end of the other music course (the one which I actually went on). In the end, I'd considered things so thoroughly that I was never going to make the wrong choice - but that consideration only came as a result of the doubt. So trust me - it's a good thing.
 

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I don't think is good to base your decision on MB types because unfortunately it's impossible to find a perfect job where you will fit entirely because most jobs are for STJ and NTJ people. The social aspect is always going to be an issue for all introverts in every type of environment, and you should not be intimidated by this. There is always something to talk about, even about the most insignificant things, you also have the right to be alone. You don't have to be with your coworkers all the time and they should respect this.


I am an INFP working in a job that is dominated by STJ types. It involves a lot of detail, troubleshooting and routine. My coworkers are ISTJ and ESFJ (she can be dominating and rigid like an ESTJ). My personality may be very different from them but I still do my job responsibly.

Basically what I am trying to say is that your MB type should not stop you from getting a job you like.
 
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