I'm glad to hear that some other people find the idea of an INFP/INTP relationship pleasant. It seems logical to me. I am definitely more attracted to Introverts...I love shy, quiet, highly intelligent nerds who have a sensitive/romantic side. I think INTP and INFJ seem like the best logical matches for me...maybe ISFP. Do most of you guys prefer Introverts or Extroverts romantically?
I sometimes wonder what D is actually feeling. I think he tells me almost everything if I ask, but I am never positive. I am sure I must have upset him many times with my emotional outbursts. I have some traumas in my past that I relive quite often, and if something reminds me of it I sometimes just break down, or other times I attack him irrationally. I hate it when this happens, because I am fully capable of logical thought, and have always liked facts and hard data where relevant. He is far away from now in Reading PA, for work, and I cant move there yet due school, tho I can and will be transferring next year. In the mean time I rarely see him. I am now forced to work through my attachment/dependency issues, because at a point I became nearly crippled with despair. I have collected myself and consider this a life lesson I must learn; to just remember that he is still in my life and he will be with me again soon. I know he misses me, but he handles it better for sure. This all makes sense, seems to go with our types. I do believe he likes my neediness though...it makes him feel secure. He knows I NEED him, so I am not going to abandon him...and it is fulfilling to be needed. So we have an interdependence going on.
However, knowing that I am in great pain at those times, he won't complain a bit about the stress I'm putting him through...and will just do everything he can do to help me through it. It's hard for me to think of him as this chilly, rational entity considering how he treats me. I think I may always have been attracted to INTP types...quiet nerds who are often very kind but just have a hard time showing it, and also prefer to live with their intellect guiding them than their emotions. I do need the balance to my emotionality.
So, you guys have thought about how an INTP/INFP relationship might work, but not experienced any?
Thank you very much for the well wishes Valdyr.
You post wasn't boring, Liz. I'm thrilled people starting replying, I was worried this thread was going to sink. This is a topic I want to discuss, so thank you.
Ptarmigan, thank you also. And I figured at the very least my sentimentality would't offend anyone on this forum, I'm glad it is even appreciated by some. On that damn INTP web forum I joined last week (not on personality cafe) I was ripped apart for even bringing up this subject...and my post wasn't as gushy as this one. This woman poster made a statement about how I was probably online posting there because "She annoyed her INTP boyfriend with all her irrational rambling" or something of the sort. Course I'm not a she, but the real point was she was being a bitch, lol. Another guy said that I was "reinforcing INFP sterotypes". Some INTPs really ARE mean, especially when hiding behind a keyboard and their intellect, lol.