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hello there ISFPs! here's the thing, i have a highly weird sister and she happens to be an ISFP. we used to think that we're both INFPs because of how we can relate to each other but lately we have found some differences in how we perceive the world, clearly she has more Se preferences than i do and i guess maybe that's where the inability to get her comes from. it's not that she's actually diagnosed with depression, if you would talk to her randomly she would seem like a very sweet person that's doing absolutely fine but that's just because she is very good at concealing her problems. it seems that she isn't interested in anything at all and that basically is the source of her gloominess. gloominess is a soft way of describing her state, by the way. she just keeps going on about how lonely, miserable and useless she feels, yet she doesn't do a thing to change her situation. i've been urging her to try new things, take up a hobby maybe, start studying, try to actually make friends instead of on relying other people to care. however, nothing works because she just insists on nothing being worthy enough, interesting enough for her. she also says that she doesn't deserve friendship or love because she's not an interesting person exactly because she doesn't find anything interesting. it's like a vicious circle. so basically she keeps on being miserable, chainsmoking and avoiding life and i'm starting to think that the ISFP lazy hedonist stereotype might have some truth to it. the thing is, i though hedonists would enjoy their way of life but she doesn't yet has no initiative whatsoever to change things.
do any of you have comments, advice or maybe you've had similar moments? like a lack of purpose combined with a serious lack of initiative and you have the magic formula how to try to help an ISFP snap out of it, so to say. as an introverted feeler myself, i know it is highly annoying, others trying to tell us how to live. and surely, everyone has to come to their own conclusions about what to change and when is the right moment to do it. but it's kind of sad watching her being angsty and miserable yet doing nothing about it. she's 23, by the way.
do any of you have comments, advice or maybe you've had similar moments? like a lack of purpose combined with a serious lack of initiative and you have the magic formula how to try to help an ISFP snap out of it, so to say. as an introverted feeler myself, i know it is highly annoying, others trying to tell us how to live. and surely, everyone has to come to their own conclusions about what to change and when is the right moment to do it. but it's kind of sad watching her being angsty and miserable yet doing nothing about it. she's 23, by the way.