1. Is there anything that may affect the way you answer the questions? For example, a stressful time, mental illness, medications, special life circumstances? Other useful information includes sex, age, and current state of mind.
Female, 31, I am somewhat tired and have new medications for ADD which don’t make me feel all that good right now. I am considering if I am an ISFP instead, perhaps I just want to be a ‘healer’ so I'd love another's take on it.
I am studying the functions but I still have some trouble differentiating N and S though I personally go for the N.
2. What type(s) do you usually score as on tests?
INFP. INFJ once, but I felt I hadn’t been entirely truthful.
3. Click on this link: Choose 2 photos and look at each for as long as you feel that you need. Copy and paste the photos here.
It has a beautiful contrast in colours, focus and sharpness. Both the subjects as they fade in and out of focus, as well as their own texture: The prickly sharpness of the evergreen that must smell so comforting, and the softness and vulnerability of the boy’s skin and clothes. It is both inviting and secretive. Open and closed. I cannot help but wonder about it and there’s already a story running around in my head.
I feel a twinge of sadness and if I am honest, even the tiniest bit of annoyance. Trying to alter or perhaps even ‘improve’ something that is naturally beautiful feels wrong to me though I realize it may not be the artist’s intent. It also reminds me of wearing masks. It won’t change what’s underneath and it won’t be or feel or look real either.
Perhaps the artist just wanted to combine two things he/she enjoyed or somehow connect with nature using their favorite activity. I’m curious to know.
4. You are on the clock to fix something, a friend of yours sits beside you and gives a lot of interesting ideas, none of them actually help or are related to your situation, but they are still something you find interesting. What is your reaction? What do you say? What do you do? What's your train of thought?
I thank my friend for his/her help, but explain I have a time limit. I’ll comment on the suggestions as to what I found interesting about them, and that we can discuss them later if he/she wants. For now I kindly ask to be left alone, careful as to not offend them, because it is easier for me to fix it that way.
5a. What are some of your most important values?
Justice, sincerity, authenticity. To always try to bring out the best in people and have their best interest at heart (which sometimes calls for a difficult decision that may seem unsympathetic)
5b. Can they change? What would be the reason if they changed?
I cannot think of a reason that would be strong enough to change them.
6. You are in a car with some other people, the people in the car are talking. Someone makes a claim that you see as immoral/rude/cruel. What is your inward reaction? What do you think? What do you say?
It depends, if I find it highly immoral I may find surprising eloquence in rebuking it even catching myself off guard, though this happens rarely.
If the conflict is mild I will try to mediate to show different sides and approach it from different angles to create understanding.
It also depends on the people. If I don’t know them well and don’t click well with them it is also possible I may just distance myself altogether and feel bad for the rest of the ride and think about why they would hold such opinions/how they came to them, and try to understand them.
7. a) What activities energizes you the most? Why?
Painting, creating movies/stories (frequently also to music) in my imagination or through writing and drawing. Seeing people being loving/loved/ happy/becoming happier or accomplishing something and being proud of themselves. Enjoying beauty in many forms. Anticipating about fun things to come. Sometimes dancing and letting loose. I love being with close friends, try out new and/or exciting experiences and hanging out with mother nature.
7. b) What activities drains you the most? Why?
Crowded parties with loud music that falls outside of my liking, though I can love a concert, or dancing, as long as I can leave right after or when my ‘battery’ runs out) Meeting a lot of new people at once and getting a detailed feel for who they are. It’s not that I dislike it; it is just too much information to process at once.
Feeling misunderstood or harshly judged can take the fight out of me for a bit.
8. Do you believe you are introverted or extraverted? Why do you believe that? (Please be as detailed as possible)
Introverted. I need my alone time to recharge. I can be very social and really enthusiastic, but only for a number of hours before I need to be alone and reflect/recharge. If I had several busy days I really need some time off to myself, more than ‘relaxing’ for a few hours. If this is somehow thwarted, I get very stressed and taxed.
9. Please describe yourself, what do you see as your greatest strengths and what do you see as your greatest weaknesses?
My greatest strength is probably empathy and the ability to read emotions and interpret body language and intonation/nuance of words.
I also have a fairly good feel for colour and expression.
My greatest weakness is lack of confidence and organizing. Making decisions is usually hard and finishing something almost impossible. My house is orderly but not without considerate effort. My atelier is a mess which I find both pleasant and disheartening.
10. Please describe yourself when you are feeling stressed. How do you act and why? Real life experiences are welcome.
My empathy ‘fades’ because I have no energy left for it and I go into survival mode. I retreat into myself by means of protection and become uncharacteristically impatient though I rarely lash out at anyone. I often had trouble keeping believing in my own skills or worth sending myself in a downward spiral, but that has improved greatly over time though it remains something I need to watch out for.
11. What is your "soft spot" (the area that makes you upset if people mess with)?
When someone makes fun of or hurts another intentionally. Disregarding another’s worth or rights or dreams.
Not so much inability as unwillingness to understand the viewpoints and values/desires of someone different from them. Dishonesty and fakery. Manipulation.
12. What are most of the ideas/thoughts you get generally centered around (try to expand your answers as much as possible)?
Creating art and stories and most importantly the underlying message possible impact of it, self-development and how to be able to help other people on an emotional level or how to get back in touch with themselves and find out what they want. Figuring out what I want, or how to become a better person.
13. What's your opinion of getting frequent feedback on what you do? (Someone pointing out what is good, what is bad, what and how to improve) Is there a limit to how often you want feedback? If so, what is the limit?
It entirely depends. Criticism is naturally difficult for me to deal with because it is hard for me to separate it from my personal worth/self but it’s something I have worked very hard on to improve. It used to knock me down with ridiculous ease, now not so much because I can sort of keep a ‘bird’s view’ most of the time and I do value feedback a lot. If I find the criticism valid (and it may or may not take me a bit to disconnect it from possible negative/hurt feelings depending on how it was delivered) I will try to improve/better the work/myself though it annoys me if people only say ‘this is bad’ as it adds no value or information I can work with apart from my own interpretation.
The way in which criticism is delivered is important to me though I will always try to view it as objectively as possible with varying succes. Criticism that keeps in mind the big picture that is delivered considerate yet rationally, I subscribe much more validation to.
Feedback is fine. But let me try for a while on my own. Please don’t tell me what to do all the time. I don’t mind to be guided gently now and then and I will be grateful for it, but I dislike being led.
14. Anything beyond what has been discussed that you would like to add?
I am not a native speaker. I also seem to have a fatal attraction to ENTJs. Ha.
Thank you for your time! It is appreciated.