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Alright, not sure if this has already been done before but:

What are some problems (major or minor) that you have been dealing with that you think probably apply to other INFPs as well?

Make sure you add #INFP Problems at the end of your post :proud:
 

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Self criticism and anger issues when stressed out, manifesting like some unhealthy Te dom. <== probably applies to all Fi doms.
 

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Me randomly meeting an extraverted friend of mine I haven't talked to in a long time:


Friend: "Oh my God hi! Long time no seen!"

Me: How did she recognize me?? We haven't seen eachother in a year and I'm looking so different now!! Erm, I should say something... Erm, oh, yeah I know: "Hi."

Friend: "So how have you been?"

Me:
Seriously?? I'm not in the mood for smalltalk, I don't want to be all drained for the rest of the day. Oh, now I wish I was home reading a nice book... I am feeling so drained already!! Ugh the socialness, I can't stand it! Shit, is this silence becoming awkward?? Uhm... what am I going to say... "uhm..." Come on, you can do it!! I am looking like an absolute freak right now!! SAY SOMETHING!! "I'm ok, uhm, this year was quite good" There we go. Let's pray she's getting bored of me. Just walk away. Please?

Friend: "Uhm, ok if you say so... Listen I really need to go, I have to meet some people later. Nice seeing you again! Bye!"

Me:
Finally!! Ahh I'm so tired!! I'm going to have to hide under my bed in complete darkness for a week to recover from that!! I should say good bye, just to be polite... Hang on where is she? Shit, she walked away... Now she's going to think I hate her and that I am a freak... Well, who cares anyways. One less relationship to take care of.


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Me randomly meeting an extraverted friend of mine I haven't talked to in a long time:


Friend: "Oh my God hi! Long time no seen!"

Me: How did she recognize me?? We haven't seen eachother in a year and I'm looking so different now!! Erm, I should say something... Erm, oh, yeah I know: "Hi."

Friend: "So how have you been?"

Me:
Seriously?? I'm not in the mood for smalltalk, I don't want to be all drained for the rest of the day. Oh, now I wish I was home reading a nice book... I am feeling so drained already!! Ugh the socialness, I can't stand it! Shit, is this silence becoming awkward?? Uhm... what am I going to say... "uhm..." Come on, you can do it!! I am looking like an absolute freak right now!! SAY SOMETHING!! "I'm ok, uhm, this year was quite good" There we go. Let's pray she's getting bored of me. Just walk away. Please?

Friend: "Uhm, ok if you say so... Listen I really need to go, I have to meet some people later. Nice seeing you again! Bye!"

Me:
Finally!! Ahh I'm so tired!! I'm going to have to hide under my bed in complete darkness for a week to recover from that!! I should say good bye, just to be polite... Hang on where is she? Shit, she walked away... Now she's going to think I hate her and that I am a freak... Well, who cares anyways. One less relationship to take care of.


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That's an awesome way of showing the sometimes grating internal chatter that often goes on inside an INFP's head during social interactions. No wonder we can be at such a loss for words sometimes, with so many different signals and messages coming down from the upstairs. Love it!
 

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> Friends ask if you have a tumblr.

> I panic, worry about any scorning remarks, jibs people will make and attempts to hunt down said tumblr to laugh at.
> No-one gives a shit.

#INFPproblems.
 

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My own idealism. Also extreme emotional volatility. Sentimental, rage mode, depressed, revitalized, ecstatic, determined, mellow all in about 7 minutes. Trust me, it's happened before.
For me its a cycle. Depression->RageMoDe-(Come to a conclusion)>Joy->Minor problem which leads back to depression

I've been in joy stage for a while tho
 

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I track my mood changes like ESTPs track the stock market. #infpproblems
The library is closed at 11 p.m. This is not ethical. #infpproblems
Why is The Brothers Karamazov only 774 pages long? It's too good to end! #infproblems
Why do I have so many problems? #infpproblems
I really should assert my needs in my relationships, but... wait, by saying that, am I asserting something? #infpproblems
 

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Me randomly meeting an extraverted friend of mine I haven't talked to in a long time:


Friend: "Oh my God hi! Long time no seen!"

Me: How did she recognize me?? We haven't seen eachother in a year and I'm looking so different now!! Erm, I should say something... Erm, oh, yeah I know: "Hi."

Friend: "So how have you been?"

Me:
Seriously?? I'm not in the mood for smalltalk, I don't want to be all drained for the rest of the day. Oh, now I wish I was home reading a nice book... I am feeling so drained already!! Ugh the socialness, I can't stand it! Shit, is this silence becoming awkward?? Uhm... what am I going to say... "uhm..." Come on, you can do it!! I am looking like an absolute freak right now!! SAY SOMETHING!! "I'm ok, uhm, this year was quite good" There we go. Let's pray she's getting bored of me. Just walk away. Please?

Friend: "Uhm, ok if you say so... Listen I really need to go, I have to meet some people later. Nice seeing you again! Bye!"

Me:
Finally!! Ahh I'm so tired!! I'm going to have to hide under my bed in complete darkness for a week to recover from that!! I should say good bye, just to be polite... Hang on where is she? Shit, she walked away... Now she's going to think I hate her and that I am a freak... Well, who cares anyways. One less relationship to take care of.


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^THIS!

I have poor eyesight, and when I go to the store where I may run into someone, I do not wear my glasses. That way if I do not stop to chat with someone, I am most likely not lying when I tell them "oh, I'm sorry, I didn't see you!"
 

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Knowing the attitude of others towards my immaturity and childish behaviour resulting from unhealthy ideals or just not having my values set the most balanced way possible. I know that attitude myself, because I know more and more younger INFPs who struggle with the same things I did or still am. And it hurts knowing that I can't really help them, because it's something they have to accept themselves first.

Also, not being so in peace with myself yet that I am able to truly say: "Yo, fuck you, I'm doing my thing and I'm satisfied with it whether you are too or not." So basically, being self-sustained in terms of approval.
 

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When people often suggest you should start a job on the side doing some artistic pursuit (like using your camera for doing event-photography, recording audio-stories for kids at a professional studio, helping make illustrations for a children's book) but you don't because you are too picky and perfectionist about your work, and besides, you can think of about 100 other people more talented and qualified than you to do the job, and maybe you'll do it some time in the future when you've honed your skills and feel more prepared..... so you end up not embracing the opportunities.

#INFP perfectionist problems :dry:
 

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I think quarantining yourself away from toxic people and the carcinogenic environments they create seems to be a survival tactic of INFP's. Such as when a room gets too crowded with noisy pother and hysteric confusion. I'm not fussy on that.

#INFP_INITIATING_QUARANTINE_MODE
 
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