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Hello! An ISFP here with a question or some for you guys. (possibly, slightly boring) I'm curious though, how are you guys with driving? Are you good at it? Do you like it? How long did it take you to become good at driving, and what was the hardest aspect (in learning & getting a license) for you?


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I don't know what it really means to be good at driving in a regular degular car [aka not professional], but I haven't been in any accidents [including when the car behind me FLEW up onto the adjacent median and almost hit me, or the numerous near sideswipes in broad daylight]. So, I consider myself decent and in good standing with State Farm's discount.

I don't really mind driving, either. I've had my license almost two years (longer story in a second), and it's automatic enough that I can just be alone with my thoughts and bam, back home. I don't like gas prices though, I want an electric car. :unsure:

It took me 11 months off and on to practice driving enough to be ready for my license. Prefacing this with living in the United States, and I was already past the age where you can just get a license without prereqs (18 years old is the minimum).
My relative was gracious enough to be my crash dummy. That grace was starting to wane once I felt good about driving but not parking (oh my God...depth perception and peripheral issues with dyslexia is a thing). I have never seen someone consistently park so jacked up in my life. It was terrible.

But now I can back in like a pro. No comment on parallel parking because I don't need it here.

Actually getting the license was a breeze. Went from a burden to licensed and sexy in 15 minutes. Almost gave my instructor whiplash with my parking, but I passed on the first go. :wink:
 
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Driving was okay for.... let me see.... 45 years, now I want no parts of it at age 60.

I was in 2 accidents in my 20s, neither my fault, they plowed into me. Bastards. I did get a speeding ticket for going 40 in 25 mph section. I love driving around with husband (if we must go somewheres, & are forced). Haha, come to think of it, one of the delights of my life, is doing errands with him in the car.

But, just not for me, is city driving and long distance driving. I believe every single person, except for me, is nuts (on the road). I don't trust you people! I have proof with my dash cam.

I started driving when I was 15. Now, I'd pay a chauffeur if I could. I must be the one driving and in the driver seat, if it is not a Professional Driver, driving me around. I don't trust anyone but me .....and professionals.
 

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I'm convinced that my cluelessly clumsy ass behind a steering wheel would have to be legally declared a public safety hazard.

I've tried several times throughout my life to go about getting my driver's license, even blowing hundreds of dollars on driving school back in 2015, but it has just never panned out. I would never be able to afford a vehicle or the various costs that go along with it anyway. I'm sure if I had own my wheels to practice with, I would eventually become skilled at it, but my actual time behind the wheel has been severely limited.
 

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We use mainly manual cars here. At first i had difficulty getting to hang of the clutch and gear combinations while remaining observant of surroundings. Lots of sensory informations at once tends to overwhelm an intuitive type. Complex maneuvers which involved an increase in potential damage and personal injury caused traffic jams of anxiety in me. Also getting useto my new physical extended body (vehicle) did take some time to get used to. Once i got the combinations right, controling and monitoring the car it just left external observation which was the easiest part of the two. Cars behave much like people on street walk, cars have a personal space and get pissed off when you invade it just like humans. Who would have thought!? I started becoming a somewhat good driver when experience could indicate what type of driver is behind the wheel based on the vehicle itself, how its being driven, where and at what time. In the background while driving, all these details homogenises into how much distance am i going to keep from this car? A good driver to me is someone who keeps ample distance, tells everyone wtf they are doing, respects road ettiquete and gives way to aggrivated/aggressive drivers (or pedestrians) even when they do not have to, with a motive to to diffuse any bad vibes on the roads. Its nice when we can all get to where we are going without dying.
 

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I fully admit it: I love driving. My driving style was characterized by family members as "rapid" and "vivacious" which is very true, but I'm not a reckless driver. I've never caused an accident and am careful not to hurt other road users. My family has two cars. One with manual gearshift and one with automatic transmission. I enjoy driving both cars and almost like the manual gear shift better than the automatic transmission, which is surprising since driving is all in all more of a sensory activity.
 

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I was trained by a driving school instructor. She taught me the check points on a car to the point that I could always drive within 6 inches of parked vehicles which helps a lot with all the big SUVs on the road who cannot judge the dimensions of their vehicles. In the city and other narrow roadways, they like to drive in the middle of narrow 2-way roads.

A callout to @WhoPutsTheirFaceOnABus (great screen name! I chuckle every time I see it. It's an important question to ask:tongue:), for reminding me that I too have to shut off the radio to concentrate when parking.
 

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I practiced twice when I was 16 (in my 30s now), and after taking a wrong turn in a (practice)roundabout, because it was closer and I was absentminded, and then making a gesture while talking about turning, while still holding the steering wheel, and almost ending up in the ditch, my mother didn't dare to practice with me anymore, and since then I have for starters not been rich enough to pay driversinstructors to teach me, secondly hasn't really wanted to (as I feel I would be a danger, as I would very rarely drive and then be out of practice every time, it would be just for jobs that require a license or the odd moving of heavy stuff like furniture, and I fear I would slowly start to become lazy and drive when I don't need to, I live somewhere with good public transport). Perhaps I will learn sometime if I get a job where I really need it, but hopefully I can find one that respect my wish to not depend on cars.
 

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I am a cautious driver who (as far as the records show) follows the rules. I've never gotten a ticket in my seven-ish years of driving, and I got my CDL Class B to drive a school bus in August. (So now if I get a ticket, the government will keep a record, and if I break the law too much, I can't keep my CDL.) I drive my band and the cheerleaders around. I am just now starting to get used to driving a bus. You sit up very high above the road, and you don't go any faster when you floor the pedal.

Driving is mostly okay by me, but I don't trust my vision very well and have trouble at night. I can't read street signs until I'm right on them, so I miss a lot of turns and subsequently get very angry. I'm not so good with navigation and directions. I also get tired when I drive at night. Depending on the level of sleep deprivation, I can get eye or full body spasms and false perceptions of reality. The students on the bus never know though...

I didn't feel confident in driving until I went on 2.5 hour drives to visit my boyfriend at the time, regardless of weather conditions. I drove in some weather where I couldn't see other cars except by their tire tracks in the sleet ahead of me. Each trip you survive becomes bragging rights/confidence points. It just takes some road time.
 
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When I did my first U-Turn I ended up on the median. I swore I was gonna die or kill someone, it felt like I was driving a huge killing machine. I swore I was never gonna drive again. And I didn't get my license til I was 27.

But now, my mind is literally elsewhere when I drive, not paying too much attention, because I drive to mostly the same spots it's like muscle memory now, sometimes I get to places and don't even remember making the right turns.

Issues I have with driving though, anytime I park somewhere I've never been, like let's say to get gas, when I have to get back on the road I completely lose my sense of direction and have to re-orient myself to remember which direction I was going. It makes me feel like I got a mental condition or something, because my friend looks at me crazy.

Also with directions I suck when they are given to me like "Just take 50 down to 1792 and get off on Hopkins." Like NO! I need a damn landmark or something, like "Drive down 2 lights, then make a left until you see a 7/11". Then I'll know exactly where to go.

But idk, driving is pretty easy, I don't mind it. I do HATE having to do risky things like swerve into a lane last minute to get an exit or something high risk, my heart rate goes straight up anytime I have to do that and requires intense focus where I can't breathe until the deed is done, it's like I'm making sure I don't die until it's all over.

As far as how long it took for me to get "good" uh,I don't remember really, it just kind of happened, I don't remember the "moment" I became good but it took awhile to get used to not being able to see how big your car is from the inside but knowing how far or close the front or side of your car is to something, that was very strange to wrap my head around, now it's just a matter of gut instinct if I can make a tight spot or not.

I did scrape my car multiple times in the first year. Also I did get 2 cars in less than a year because I didn't adjust speed for raining and got into an accident without collision coverage, and lost the first car because the price to fix it was the price of a new used car. And my second car I blew up the engine on the first day I got it because I thought gear 2 meant "average" speed and gear 3 meant "top speed" so I drove on a highway in gear 2 doing 70 and set the damn engine on fire XD, VERY expensive lesson I learned, luckily was able to cut a deal and get it fixed. So I'd say after a year I have made far less stupid mistakes.
 

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my dad and me had a racing go-kart years ago, so i had some experience in handling a vehicle before license. Even though it was more of the "go fast" kind of driving without the electronics of a modern car and no road signs, it definitely helped speeding up the process (haha).

on the streets i am a calm, predictable driver and have decent overview on the roads ahead. I laugh at the thousands of others risking their lives, just to stand in front of the next redlights for three seconds longer than me :D

I don´t like long trips much, because i feel like the hours are not used for doing something useful
 

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Oh god, well I have ADHD so that affects things as I can't pay as much attention to the road or what I'm doing and I get impulses to drive like a maniac. I took driving lessons for about 2 years but my driving instructor was pretty crap and after a short while started using my lessons just to complain about her husband and her other students and to drive and pick up her next pupil rather than actually teach stuff I needed to learn (I later found out her reviews on Google are terrible for those reasons). Hard to focus on the road regardless when you've got someone literally crying about their marriage in the passenger seat. God. But yeah, I suck. I passed my theory test on my fourth attempt though, and haven't tried a practical yet. Hardest thing for me is knowing where my car is in relation to other things on the road and noticing/reacting to things.
 

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I love driving a light, good handling car on a winding road in the country. Manual transmission. But I live in the city so it's automatic. Hate rush hour traffic so driving is a chore here. I've been in a few not-serious crashes including one last week but the last time it was my fault was 1978. When time allows I much prefer taking my motorcycle out for a ride to new places I haven't been to.
 
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Oh boy - I was SO scared to start driving, but my mom made me as soon as it was legal. My journals are riddled with: "I can never do this, and I will never drive - EVER!!" But, I did and I do. It took a couple of years probably before I was fully comfortable. I just drove as much as I possibly could - in all conditions - and now it is second nature to me.

I still can only drive smaller cars though. Spatial perception has not really improved. Lol.
 
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I'd like to think I'm pretty good at driving. I didn't get my license until after high school. I'm paranoid of getting speeding tickets during most situations, but I love going fast into turns on rural twisting roads.

I am terrible at pathfinding, so I need a lot of experience or GPS help to get where I'm going.
 

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I enjoy driving! I think I'm pretty all right. I have a manual transmission car and I have been told I drive "spiritedly". More accurately when I was a teenager I had a lead foot but I've backed off with age. I still like to push it a little now and again. I got my permit when I was 15 and a half and my license the day of my 16th birthday. The trickiest thing still for me is driving with distracting people in the car... I'm much more focused when I'm alone. The hardest thing to learn was stopping on hills with the manual - I was so scared of rolling backwards into the cars piled behind me. Then my dad taught me the handbrake trick and after that it was smooth sailing. Now my car has hill assist and it still blows my mind.
 

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I don't drive. I do have my learners, but I'm just not confident.
 
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