I'm starting college next August. I'm still not entirely sure about my identity and I'm having some trouble figuring out exactly who I want to be for the next few years. I have some regrets about high school... I was in a group of anime-obsessed goth INFJs and INTPs my freshman year and I felt so accepted, even though the ridiculous amount of Fe was irritating at times. My sophomore year, I started trying to act more "normal" by doing things like shopping at trendy stores instead of Hot Topic, and basically creating an alter ego for the purpose of changing my demeanor. I dropped out of the club I was in with my goth friends and sort of drifted away from them. As a result, people thought I was less weird for the rest of high school but I was left with like 6 friends all in different social groups. I was friends with a bookworm, a couple of popular people, a dorky girl, and two antisocial badass chicks. I went to very few school dances and never went to prom, and I'm just thinking that I could have gone with my nerdy awkward tumblr friends if I had stayed with them and we would have had an awesome time being stupid. But I'm worried that if I go that route in college, I'll get made fun of just as much as I did in high school. So, fellow INFPs, which do you think is better? If you were in my situation, would you try to stay at "average" social status and join a variety of clubs to make friends? Or would you devote yourself to being the edgy weirdo that a part of you really wants to be? If it helps, I'm going for social work and I really don't want to be seen as a negative person. But it's also sort of my last chance to go to parties and just have fun.