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Are you trying to tell me you can be insecure about one thing, yet be confident about other stuff?
I'm not sure i believe you :eek:
 

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Am I allowed to say 'everything'? It's not untrue; I'm a very insecure person for the most part, and terrified of getting hurt by being judged, disliked and/or rejected. It's held me back from doing a lot of things in life.

One particular thing that stands out I guess, just because it's played such a big role in my life, is my insecurity surrounding my body. I've had a severe eating disorder for 12+ years now. Of course, it's mainly about issues much deeper than the surface, but I do feel very uneasy in my own skin. I often wish I could simply be a mind without a physical body. It would be so freeing...
 

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How I have no friends/close friends I talk to often.

That I don't look as attractive as I think I do.

That I may think I know a subject more than I actually do, thus becoming 'that guy'.

That I will never find somebody who I am attracted to who is also attracted to me.

How if I do find somebody like that they will have certain aspects of themselves that I don't agree with.

How I can't write music despite loving listening to music and playing guitar.
 

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Lack of social skills, negative judgement/rejection by others, intelligence, monotonous voice, and probably others I can't think atm.

I've already acknowledged that most of my insecurities are irrational, yet they persist. If only it was as simple as telling myself I'm wrong.
 

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Wow! I read all the previous posts and they basically spilled out my insecurities. I'm really insecure about what people think of me, (although I try to deny it to myself) but I've been trying to over come this insecurity by talking more in class, joining in group discussions and just saying whatever it is that I have on my mind without thinking of what people's reaction will be. Taking a philosophy class has really helped me because I am really set on my beliefs and I love sharing what I hold to be right.
Another insecurity is as someone else said, not looking as good as I think I do. I also depend a lot on peoples evaluations of me, for example, I'm used to people coming up to me and telling me that I look attractive, but when people don't do that I start feeling unattractive and ugly. I have to understand that I'm not going to get compliments all the time and not to depend on people too much.
It's crazy how my physical appearance affects me so much, like when I feel that I look good that I can say anything and just be myself, on my not-so-good-looking days, I kind of withdraw to myself and keep quiet.
Another insecurity is that I LOVE to draw, but I can never come up with anything original from myself. I always have to look at another picture or something and draw. I wish that I could just come up with something by myself and I'm scared that I will never be a good artist because of my lack of creativity.

I am extremely socially insecure and I think that my social insecurity comes from me judging people, I think that people judge me the same way I judge them. I need to stop!

I wish that I could just let go of all my insecurities and just be who I am. I wish that I can be fearless. I guess that in order to become fearless, you have to experience the situation that fears you and face it and get over it.
 

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Another one I thought of is the fact that I feel like a fraud most of the time. I'm always afraid I'm going to be "found out". In what way, I'm not sure exactly... though I think it often relates to intelligence. People tell me I'm smart, and I do know that I'm not stupid... but my own confidence in my intelligence is not the best. It's exaggerated by the fact that I haven't gotten to achieve some of the things I really wanted for myself, especially in the area of education. I never got to go to university because of my long-standing and serious health issues, and I feel a huge amount of shame because of that. Thinking about my own lost potential kills me and I often feel so inferior to others who've gotten to have that experience. Once upon a time, I had so many dreams and passions... *sigh* Maybe I'll get there someday...
 

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I feel like I bore people and talk about stuff people don't really care about
I don't have any really close friends that I talk to all the time and am totally comfortable with anymore
Very socially insecure
I have a love/hate relationship with solitude. I enjoy being uninterrupted by people when I want to just ponder life and occasionally write, but if it's for much longer than a couple days *coughspringbreakcough* I end up feeling like a complete loser and ironically everybody starts to piss me off despite the fact that I "want" to be around people. Also I have no transportation and not much control over who happens to be available to talk, and nobody my age is around my neighborhood right now, not really anything I have control over and thus I am not actually a loser, but try telling my Fe that.
 

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My parents, basically. (Besides what everyone said above cause all of it more or less applies to me)

I don't like having friends over, and I definitely do NOT like having a boyfriend over. I'm honestly worried about the day I have to introduce them to my SO.
 

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...I definitely do NOT like having a boyfriend over. I'm honestly worried about the day I have to introduce them to my SO.
I had a huuuuge amount of anxiety surrounding my parents meeting the guy who's now my husband. (It's a long and messed-up story as to why, involving lots of unexplainable emotions on my part.) They didn't get to meet him until eight months after we were engaged (though they both knew of his existence by that time). I was in a relationship with him for five months before I told my mum and 11 months before my dad found out (I didn't tell him, he learned through my mum eventually). We also got married without them knowing, although they knew him fairly well by that point. They found out about our marriage when my favourite musician (who is now a good friend of mine) announced it on stage and then dedicated a song to me and my husband at a concert the four of us attended together. (Random factoid: Our first wedding anniversary is in ten days.)

Yep, I'm an odd one...
 

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Just about all of the above. I can't even come here in anything less than a sterling mood without wondering why so-and-so-who-I-don't-even-know didn't respond to whatchamawhosit and whether I said something stupid/insensitive/boring, etc. I can go weeks or months without lapsing into that cycle but when I'm in it, I'm in it, and right now I'm in it. Insecurity is the great bogeyman of my life. It's not wanted, it's uninvited, and it's to no good purpose, but it happens anyway almost independently of my conscious mind. There must be some long ago evolutionary purpose it served, but whatever it is, it's totally useless to me. If I could take my brain out and punt it like a football, I would have done so long ago.

Insecurity is a douchebag.
 

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I feel like I bore people and talk about stuff people don't really care about
I don't have any really close friends that I talk to all the time and am totally comfortable with anymore
Very socially insecure
I have a love/hate relationship with solitude. I enjoy being uninterrupted by people when I want to just ponder life and occasionally write, but if it's for much longer than a couple days *coughspringbreakcough* I end up feeling like a complete loser and ironically everybody starts to piss me off despite the fact that I "want" to be around people. Also I have no transportation and not much control over who happens to be available to talk, and nobody my age is around my neighborhood right now, not really anything I have control over and thus I am not actually a loser, but try telling my Fe that.
DITTO! Dude, I'm in your EXACT situation.
 

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Are you trying to tell me you can be insecure about one thing, yet be confident about other stuff?
I'm not sure i believe you :eek:
You can in this context;

 

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I can relate to almost everyone's posts to some degree, but

Am I allowed to say 'everything'? It's not untrue; I'm a very insecure person for the most part, and terrified of getting hurt by being judged, disliked and/or rejected. It's held me back from doing a lot of things in life.
Just about all of the above. I can't even come here in anything less than a sterling mood without wondering why so-and-so-who-I-don't-even-know didn't respond to whatchamawhosit and whether I said something stupid/insensitive/boring, etc. I can go weeks or months without lapsing into that cycle but when I'm in it, I'm in it, and right now I'm in it. Insecurity is the great bogeyman of my life. It's not wanted, it's uninvited, and it's to no good purpose, but it happens anyway almost independently of my conscious mind. There must be some long ago evolutionary purpose it served, but whatever it is, it's totally useless to me.

So damn exactly these... my incredible 'ability' of being insecure even in the internet frustrates me so much (it should be easier, shouldn't it?).
It causes a lot of overthinking and affects my self esteem badly... just thinking of all the things I didn't say or do because of self doubt makes me cringe.

I also had a lot of problems with my appearance when I was a teen, but somehow it eased a little with time... but my main problem is feeling like I'm not likeable enough, either for not being fun enough, interesting enough, smart enough, attractive enough, yadda yadda... the list goes on...
I'm a core 9, but I strongly relate to that feeling associated with 4s.. of being somehow defective or lacking something. I always felt like a pretty average person.. not being remarkable in anything.

I wish there could be a way I could work on it, but simply knowing and telling myself it's all in my head and trying to act more confidently don't work. :/
 
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