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How many of you can't deal with criticism/insults/put downs very well.
 

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I wanted to encourage anyone who has a problem with criticism and has considered it, to go into a performing major. There, you will even have classes where you are critiqued by peers over and over. You get immune. And you learn to be open to critiques, use the ones you agree with, and leave the rest.

Another thing to do is to higher yourself a completely honest and hardcore coach in something. I've paid for incredibly honest coaches both in singing and for running.

Let me tell you, it does wonder to work with "drill sergeants". For 4 years, I learned to continue singing while someone shouted in my face "I wouldn't hire you!" "What the hell kind of sound is that?" "That's half-assed!" And if I were to cry or break down from it, I would hear "I don't think you are a singer. You're too emotional. Find something else to do. Singing takes guts. You need BALLS!"

Matter of fact, I think my voice coach was tougher than any of my running coaches. It's easier to get critiques when you think you need help or aren't very good at something. But it's harder to receive them when you think you know everything and have been sheltering yourself in the safety net of compliments all your life.

Yeah, I actually have paid good money for this kind of abuse. It's tough, but it has made me stronger mentally. And my poor students.... I need to keep tissue by the piano all the time. Because some at first mistakingly believe that they are paying me to tell them that they are good. But I know when I'm tough on them, I am doing them a favor- I'm not giving up on them.

Just my 2 cents worth.

And insults are lame. They are merely a reflection of a person's lack of ability to communicate. They really say more about the bearer than the receiver.
 

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Me. I am impossible to insult. Try me.
 

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I wanted to encourage anyone who has a problem with criticism and has considered it, to go into a performing major. There, you will even have classes where you are critiqued by peers over and over. You get immune. And you learn to be open to critiques, use the ones you agree with, and leave the rest.

Another thing to do is to higher yourself a completely honest and hardcore coach in something. I've paid for incredibly honest coaches both in singing and for running.

Let me tell you, it does wonder to work with "drill sergeants". For 4 years, I learned to continue singing while someone shouted in my face "I wouldn't hire you!" "What the hell kind of sound is that?" "That's half-assed!" And if I were to cry or break down from it, I would hear "I don't think you are a singer. You're too emotional. Find something else to do. Singing takes guts. You need BALLS!"

Matter of fact, I think my voice coach was tougher than any of my running coaches. It's easier to get critiques when you think you need help or aren't very good at something. But it's harder to receive them when you think you know everything and have been sheltering yourself in the safety net of compliments all your life.

Yeah, I actually have paid good money for this kind of abuse. It's tough, but it has made me stronger mentally. And my poor students.... I need to keep tissue by the piano all the time. Because some at first mistakingly believe that they are paying me to tell them that they are good. But I know when I'm tough on them, I am doing them a favor- I'm not giving up on them.

Just my 2 cents worth.

And insults are lame. There are merely a reflection of a person's lack of ability to communicate. They really say more about the bearer than the receiver.
I would never do a performing major. They usually result in you waiting tables. I seriously thought about majoring in acting. However, I might take an acting class though, just because you said this and that it might get you over sensitivity. Usually, fear and self doubt is a defeater for me, and I do bad with anyone whom constantly criticizes or yells at me. I like to play pool a lot with some ESTP's and they'll bust your balls the entire time. It's helped me to somewhat get over criticism. I couldn't have someone yelling at me all the time though or I would seriously fight with them. This may be a symptom of my PTSD.

Me. I am impossible to insult. Try me.
 

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at least my Pness doesn't knock vases down :p
Hey, I never claimed to be good with my Pness. Perhaps I could learn to be more careful with it. :unsure:

See there? ^^^ I just took it like a man. *runs away to have herself a good cry*

I would never do a performing major. They usually result in you waiting tables. I seriously thought about majoring in acting. However, I might take an acting class though, just because you said this and that it might get you over sensitivity. Usually, fear and self doubt is a defeater for me, and I do bad with anyone whom constantly criticizes or yells at me. I like to play pool a lot with some ESTP's and they'll bust your balls the entire time.
Ikr? An ESTP just busted my Pness.:crazy:

It's helped me to somewhat get over criticism. I couldn't have someone yelling at me all the time though or I would seriously fight with them. This may be a symptom of my PTSD.
Maybe some sort of a boot camp? The army? Wouldn't it be impossible to fight them back?

And just to let you know, no matter how hard my teacher was on my technique, she has always respected me as an individual. My running coaches do this as well. I know they are just trying to help me run better. But I think this is key in taking criticism. Critiques on technique or form should be separated from judgement of the person.

And don't use your PTSD to excuse your bad behavior, young man. Don't you know that is what our ADHD diagnosis is for? (It gives it a lighter tone whilst maintaining an excusable edge :wink:)

P.S. You got somethin against waiting tables? I've paid many a bills doing my time as a table top executive. It's something you can also do while you're in college :wink:
 

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Hey, I never claimed to be good with my Pness. Perhaps I could learn to be more careful with it. :unsure:

See there? ^^^ I just took it like a man. *runs away to have herself a good cry*

Ikr? An ESTP just busted my Pness.:crazy:

Maybe some sort of a boot camp? The army? Wouldn't it be impossible to fight them back?

And just to let you know, no matter how hard my teacher was on my technique, she has always respected me as an individual. My running coaches do this as well. I know they are just trying to help me run better. But I think this is key in taking criticism. Critiques on technique or form should be separated from judgement of the person.

And don't use your PTSD to excuse your bad behavior, young man. Don't you know that is what our ADHD diagnosis is for? (It gives it a lighter tone whilst maintaining an excusable edge :wink:)

P.S. You got somethin against waiting tables? I've paid many a bills doing my time as a table top executive. It's something you can also do while you're in college :wink:
The PTSD makes me more sensitive to confrontation. Anyway, I think that when I get more money though, I want to take up a hardcore martial arts class. Nothing will desensitize you to fighting, more than fighting itself. I still want to take up an acting class as well, but I'm not sure that I'd actually want to be an actor because that is a very hard career field to make any money in
 
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How many of you can't deal with criticism/insults/put downs very well.
I deal with these types of comments very well. It might turn into a verbal brawl and fisticuffs but oh well, it'd end up being entertaining and I could end up kicking some ass. If those loudmouths couldn't back up their shit-talking, then they shouldn't do it. :cool:
 

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For me, the NF helps me creatively interpret insults. i usually deflect conflict.

EG.
Someone says: "Holy shit you're skinny"
I say: "It's all about exercise! you just have to get out more. you'll get there."

Someone says: "Are you gay?"
I say: "No, sorry. I'm flattered though."
 

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Unless I know the person who it came from well or they say that they were joking, I do not take it well at all. I will try to, but I just get moody and angry because most likely I could not do to them what I wanted to do.
 

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If I'm being insulted and what's being said about me is true, then I can handle it. If I don't like the truth, then I have the choice to change it or accept it.

If I'm being insulted and what's being said about me is not true, then I can handle it. What other people think about me isn't as important as what I know about myself.
 

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For me, the NF helps me creatively interpret insults. i usually deflect conflict.

EG.
Someone says: "Holy shit you're skinny"
I say: "It's all about exercise! you just have to get out more. you'll get there."

Someone says: "Are you gay?"
I say: "No, sorry. I'm flattered though."
Omg. You get me. I recognize the tactics from above because they often spew from my own mouth.

Brother, thy name is Frowzle. :happy:
 

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Hey, I never claimed to be good with my Pness. Perhaps I could learn to be more careful with it. :unsure:

See there? ^^^ I just took it like a man. *runs away to have herself a good cry*

Ikr? An ESTP just busted my Pness.:crazy:

Maybe some sort of a boot camp? The army? Wouldn't it be impossible to fight them back?

And just to let you know, no matter how hard my teacher was on my technique, she has always respected me as an individual. My running coaches do this as well. I know they are just trying to help me run better. But I think this is key in taking criticism. Critiques on technique or form should be separated from judgement of the person.

And don't use your PTSD to excuse your bad behavior, young man. Don't you know that is what our ADHD diagnosis is for? (It gives it a lighter tone whilst maintaining an excusable edge :wink:)

P.S. You got somethin against waiting tables? I've paid many a bills doing my time as a table top executive. It's something you can also do while you're in college :wink:
No, I can't join the army because I have some physical and mental conditions. Also, I would wait tables when paying my way through college but many performance majors often wind up moving to California and in hopes of being the next big star and wind up waiting tables. Acting is a really lousy major unless you've really got what it takes. Many say because of my real life entertaining personality that I should be an actor. I might take up a couple acting classes, but it's just too damn hard to break into to major in. As I said before though, I do plan on taking up a martial art though. I'm sure that will get me used to the idea of constant fighting.
 

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No, I can't join the army because I have some physical and mental conditions. Also, I would wait tables when paying my way through college but many performance majors often wind up moving to California and in hopes of being the next big star and wind up waiting tables. Acting is a really lousy major unless you've really got what it takes. Many say because of my real life entertaining personality that I should be an actor. I might take up a couple acting classes, but it's just too damn hard to break into to major in. As I said before though, I do plan on taking up a martial art though. I'm sure that will get me used to the idea of constant fighting.
Nate, aren't you already used to constant fighting?

Does PTSD keep us out of the army? :shocked:

Anyway, do want you want in college. I was a performance major and I now also teach at a university. You could also go that route while you perform.

And yeah, if you suck at acting PLEASE stay out of the profession. Some of us who have paid good money to refine our art, really hate that.
 

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if i'm being criticised on something which is true that's fine.

for example if you call me an idiot i'm not going to take it well, if you call me careless or lacking in common sense ill accept that to a point.

if it's one way traffic where i'm the only one getting ripped on then that pisses me off.
 

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I am not the best at accepting them, I won't show it, but I feel like a glass shop in an earthquake on the inside. The closer I feel person is to me, the greater the earthquake's magnitude.
 
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