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I'd say it depends on the person - there are some intelligent people who have no social skills whatsoever, and others who are empathetic. I'd say that both E and I, and to a lesser extent F and T, play a part.

In my case: I'm gifted - and people often comment on how good my social skills are; I've been called tactful, sensitive (to others), and a born diplomat. I'm interested in people, can talk to just about anyone, and often get into long conversations with strangers; it's a matter of being friendly, and asking the right questions. At the same time, though, I sometimes end up talking to people my parents' age or older, or feel easier in their company than with S's my own age.
 

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I would say yes, they are more likely to be socially awkward, simply because they have less practice.

People like to hang out with people of similar intelligence. If you have above average intelligence, you are less likely to encounter somebody with equivalent intelligence than a person of average intelligence is. Thus, you will meet and talk with fewer people of your own intelligence, and get less practice socialising.

I worked this out from experience, which was definitely not fun. Having vulnerable Fe probably didn't help.
 

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You're only socially awkward when you are in the wrong company. It goes for everyone. Intelligent people are no more socially awkward than people of average intelligence. Being intelligent doesn't mean your whole world revolve around complex equations or whether "a rose by any other name would smell as sweet". You also have interests that are of less intellectual nature. Laughter knows no boundary - you can share a laugh with everyone no matter their intelligence.
 

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I know a lot of really, really intelligent people who are total social butterflies. I also know a lot of socially awkward people who are just tremendously dull.

I think the current internet culture is geared towards introverts, and a lot of socially awkward people identify as introverted. Introverts tend to believe we are innately more intelligent than extraverts, when this is really, really not the case. For this reason, in recent years, "social awkwardness" has become equated with "intelligence and uniqueness". It all goes back to the classic "nerd" stereotype-- genius kid who can't hold a proper conversation.

The truth is, a lot of the most intelligent people are also some of the most expressive and confident. It's a mark of intelligence to be able to cohesively argue a point that goes against the mainstream. The opposite of social awkwardness is a total lack of fear regarding society's opinion of you. Fear inhibits curiosity, which is a major factor in intelligence.

The truth is intelligent people come in all forms and types. There are many different kinds of intelligence-- some don't mesh well with one another in conversation. Some people are really, really socially intelligent and really, really logically intelligent. Some people are neither of those things, but they're super artistically and musically intelligent. Some people just have really low intelligence levels in all fields. Some people are just supremely gifted.

There is not as big a correlation between social awkwardness and intelligence as people think.
 

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It depends on how well they were socialised during formative years. One can be reasonably socially skilled but because of preferred focus and/or introversion, find mundane socialising to be boring and/or draining.

As well, the majority of people can socialise well within their in-group.
 

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I don't know if I would say they are more likely to be socially awkward, but I could see why it happens.

Particularly if a person is very analytical, they might be prone to over-thinking certain situations and trying to come up with the perfect thing to say or do is social situations. This looks unnatural and projects an awkward vibe.

On the other hand, if they have the quick-thinking, witty type of intellect, those kinds of people tend to be marvelous in social situations.

There are different kinds of intelligence and I suppose it depends on the particular smarty pants in the situation.
 

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Define socially awkward. Some people are brusque, pushy, needy, oblivious. Ni could cause awkwardness, leading with something you believe is real but non-verbal - same with Si depending on the situation. Ti might be the most conflicted for being sociable because thinking is involved/convoluted. Ti's can be eloquent or even poetic but Te is quicker for being relateable faster to a broader base, small talk etc.

I think the world has become more information oriented and the nerd is mainstreamed but this wan't always true. Today people have more variety of what to talk about - older people do more of gossip and what car they will buy, less intellectual - though maybe not less intelligent talking.

Te, wait a minute some ISTJ's have a lot of trouble dealing with people.

I want to believe being smart is an excuse, or pin it on a function but I think you have basic Dale Carnegie principals, and some people smooth things with humor, and others do other gestures of goodwill - so it comes down to what you want from life. If you want a lot of social interaction you learn how.

I think there is a study out there saying scientific method confirms CEO's average lower EQ than non CEO's
 

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I think when people think intelligent they think a nerdy braniac or absent-minded professor type. There are many types of intelligences, not the science, maths, related type that conducts experiments, solves complex equations, comes up with genius theories. But I think many can recognise that. And the age-old question of how we measure intelligence crops up. A lot of people can be very socially/emotionally intelligent, too.

Is there a correlation between IQ and social awkwardness? Again, you'd have to be able to measure 'social awkwardness', which is qualitatively/subjective/a value-judgement in itself. I imagine those who don't want to engage in seemingly 'trivial', mundane, every conversation or social-oiling might be less inclined to care AS much about things like social decorum or conventions, but not necessarily.
 

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Not really. I know many intelligent people who aren't socially awkward at all.
Also, it depends on what you mean by "intelligence" and by "socially awkward".
 

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There are no reliable studies that prove that socially awkward people tend to be more intelligent.
Also, intelligence is notoriously hard to measure. Some would argue that social skills are also a form of intelligence.
 

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i wonder how much is a case of socially awkward people just having less time to practice socialising, and people who socialise having less time to use their brain on more 'intellectual pursuits.' They might be more intelligent in other ways though.
 

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Personally, I'm socially awkward, for a lot of reasons. Some have to do with slow processing speed of social signals, disinterest, and fear. I have to say that humor is my best point of connection with other people, because it's rare I care about them enough to impose myself on them for whatever reason, and/or they want to talk about what I want to talk about for too long.
 
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