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Hello,
So, well. I'm kind of new here. Not really new because I've been stalking PerC for ages - but this is my first attempt to interact. HI! I promise not to be too creepy. :crazy:
The thing is, I'm confused about my personality type. I first started reading up on types when I was about 17/18, I was pretty depressed then though and used to type as an INTP.
Then 2 years later, I actually got my shit together, started going out more, interacting instead of sitting on my ass and therefore made friends. Became anti-depressed (is that what they call happy?) and generally very jumpy and all over the place. Took the test then, scored as ENFP.
Fast forward to now(not much of fast forwarding to do actually, another year) I'm still pretty happy - not as jumpy as before [I think, though some of my friends might not agree with that] and I'm a much more focussed and goal driven and just took the test again - scored as an ENTP.
After all of this excellent, but not extremely useful information, I'm going to give you guys more of useless information in the hopes that it will help you help me type myself. Thanks :D

I like arguing for the sake of it, broadway and singing loudly. Love reading. Currently in the technical field, although I'm planning to switch because I just don't think I'd fit in at a workplace. I want to do something in Public Affairs or something that makes a difference. I am pretty good at what I'm studying right now, but it just doesn't fulfill me.

Friendship:

1)ISTJ ( I think, though i think she's pretty intuitive too, may even be an INTJ) : One of the best friendships ever. We don't need to see each other all the time, but when we do, we're in our own little world. I love her, I really do. She even lets me hug her, and then I feel all special. :tongue: I have another ISTJ friend I love to bits too, and she's more the artistic type. She loves me too, so yay!

2)INFJ: We fight. So much. When it's good, it's brilliant. When it's bad, I want to slap some sense into her- literally, if possible. I think she's insecure, she's very moody and she takes most debates personally. I understand that I have the tendency to get animated and kind of become loud when I argue with a person, but I really don't mean it as a personal insult. I also feel like she doesn't really consider my opinion because she thinks that I'm 'faking it' or something, she enjoys my jokes, but thinks I 'over-act' and 'exaggerate' and she will not admit it when I've won the debate. Also, she's very indirect. When we have a problem, I want to tackle it, not circumvent about it till it's dead, rotting and stinking up the whole place.

3)ENTP: He's fun, funny, kind of a baby, whines a lot, worries a lot. We get on very well, we're very similar but also very different. He's always worried about his relationships, and I'm constantly giving him advice.

" <3 " Relationships:
17/18y: 'Fellow' INTP, great but also very destructive, and not enough commitment from his side, so I broke up. Used to say very pertty things and call me his 'muse'. Have started hating this term now. i'm not a 'muse', i'm a person.
19/20y: INTJ ( I think) . Soooo cute. Started hitting on him almost as soon as i met him, though initially I just did it as a joke- he used to get all hot and bothered in that adorable way, and it just made me want to take him home. :blushed: I had to initiate conversation, and the more I got to know him, the more I liked him. But he was still pretty resistant to actually hanging out, except when we 'had to' and since his friends were already teasing us (mostly because of the shamelessness with which I hit on him), he didn't want to encourage them. I'm guessing it was the first time a girl's ever come on to him that strong. Anyway, this whole sad sorry tale needs another post, so I'll move on. Sigh. Used to say 'You have a keen eye', 'Why do you say things like that?', 'You don't make sense.' 'Haha. Wow.' and towards the end 'Hmmm' , 'Okay'.
20y: Can't type him. ISFP, I think. Clingy, but scared and very depressing to talk to (sometimes). Nice, but I don't know, we ust didn't click. Honestly, I think i just dated him to try and get over INTJ. (Not very nice, I know.) Compared me to drugs. :rolleyes:

I'm smart, I'm very logical, and right now atleast, I'm pretty focussed. the only reason I'm asking about my type is because supposedly INFJs and ENFPs get on very well, but the one I know drives me insane. I really like her, but I sometimes feel like she doesn't like me. She also constantly tells me that I never 'give her a chance' (to talk) but honestly she just doesn't take the initiative. Also the whole wishy washy thing gets on my nerves. I value directness in a person. I can't read subtle hints and fix everyone's feelings.
 

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I would say welcome, but you are probably not new. Interesting post there, and yes it is interesting how different personalities can perceive information, if you have any questions feel free to ask, but otherwise thanks for contributing :p
 

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You sound more like an ENTP to me. I don't know very many ENFP's who just love to debate for the sake of debating. If I have a real cause that I am passionate about then I will debate. Otherwise, it's nothing I seek. Also not getting along with an INFJ...My ex was an INFJ and he we got along very very well (we still do he just lives too far for a relationship and kinda broke. lol) So---Idk. How do you get along with an ENTJ, i'm curious what you think of them.
 

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You have to remember that type is just a framework. Even thought of as theoretically incompatible types can have wonderful relationships and vice versa - so don't suppose that you can't be of a specific type because you know one individual of a theoretically compatible one you clash with.

I also wouldn't dare trying to type you based on such a small comment.
Having been here before you have probably read about the supposedly great ENFP-INTJ relationships but the one you had could be just another individual thing.

Some questions to ask are:
- Do you feel like you communicate with Te (ENFP) or Fe (ENTP) as your tertiary function?
- Do you have Fe (empathy, trying to see the others' perspectives, extraverting feelings) or Fi (sympathy, trying to imagine yourself being in anothers' place, being focused on individual values)?
- Do you take criticism personally (ENFP) or do you not personally care (ENTP)?

By the way: ENFPs are said to be the most introverted of the extraverts closely followed by ENTPs.

In case this helps you and as it describes a different perspective from BrownSugars' I should mention that I like to think of myself as quite logical, I can be incredibly focussed when something catches my interest and I value directness (my best friend is hardcore ESTJ). I love reading, debating, physics and philosophy, all things that don't necessarily point towards ENTP.
The best way to distinguish the two is probably via Fe/ Fi.
 

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I am going with ENTP based on the arguments previous posters have made.

Also, is English your first language? Were you using a phone or other electronic device when typing this post? I seriously see such a lack in grammar that it makes me cringe a little. lol
 
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