How long it takes for INTJ to ready start new relationship after breakup? Why? How do you feel?
Breakups...
I will talk about mine, I was really attached to some, which took forever to get over with. I think the reason was, that I never got closure, I always want to know why. And I never got my answers. Not that it would have made any difference in saving the relationship, but I was still in the process of getting to know the person. It was really hard to let go. It is still hard to do so. If I was already thinking of spending long term with this person.
So if the person was did/said so many things that I didn't agree with, then I already am basically over the person and quickly move on.
But there are just some people, that will always be, that person you saw yourself with. That will always be in the background of my mind. And I would say, I need a friend that doesn't criticize me, because I'm already doing that. So A friend that likes to joke, but doesn't joke about my partner or me. So after a week I think, I should just get up and meet some more people. So I think the idea is, to remind me, that there are 100s of possibilities out there, even though I wanted that ONE person. And already made my mind up at the time, so now to open up again, and see that there are more possibilities and I just need to get out there and find them.
And also, it takes such a long time to decide to want someone, that breaking up with that person is excruciating, because I know the amount of time spent on deciding wanting that person.
So I just need to stay positive and think of ways to meet new people and be ok with who I am, and who I want.