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I am a curious person by nature. I dislike people who ostracize another because they are different. It’s like a 747 crashes off a cliff and I can never find the black box.

I love music. I REALLY love that song “Porn Star Dancin” Oh, wait .. I’m Catholic 0: I can’t like that song, right?

My question is: as an INTJ do you except others no matter their background as a friend? Or do you have standards? What are your standards? How do you decide if a person can be your friend or not? Or do you even have any standards? Intelligence? Could you be friends with someone that had a low IQ as an INTJ?

My main question is :Do you have standards for friends?
 

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Paradox? I don't see much sense in the title to the question.

I pick friends who show they are good people by their actions. I guess it takes an intelligent person to understand me and like me so I have mostly intelligent friends. There are no conditions of whether they meet a social status, a success factor, or a cool factor.
 

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I have friends, but only 4, largely due to two things ... for me to be able to be myself and relax and enjoy the company of a friend, surely a pre-requisite to friendship, that person has to accept me as I am and not try to suffocate, change or judge me, and for me to accept them wholly and want them as my friend, the same has to be true.

I accommodate eccentricities and shortcomings over things that are behavioural - what I can't overlook are clashing values - they are deal-breakers.

Above all - the things my friends all have in common are their ability to communicate supremely well, their considerate nature and their need for acceptance - ie, they're all as weird as me but in different ways, so we act as sanctuary for each other.

Does that make sense?

Standards first - that narrows down the population, then friends, hence only 4.

I can tolerate anyone for a while, but my friends are the ones I recharge and regenerate with. If a person drains me then the very fact that I find them hard work and they sap my energy is evidence enough for me to know they could never be my friend.
 

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No, I do not have standard for "friends", because I befriend "friends" for observation/manipulation sake.

but for friends (notice no quotation marks) I do have standards for, that is,
ones who can follow what I am saying. (or who are even faster :p)
And, yes, that would generally mean higher IQ.

On the side note, wouldn't everyone have some kind of standard for friends?
(Jesus, too, had some standards, I believe? :p)

p.s.
verb) accept
conjunction) except (excluding)

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I’m Catholic 0: I can’t like that song, right?
You are entitled to do anything you want. Just be ready for the consequences.

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I do not see a paradox here.
It is in human nature to discriminate people by his/her likings, and some differences cannot be tolerated (by instinct, emotion, or reason).
Everyone has standards: some upper bound for befriending, some middle bound for null behavior, and some lower bound for ostracizing.
 

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No, I do not have standard for "friends", because I befriend "friends" for observation/manipulation sake.

but for friends (notice no quotation marks) I do have standards for, that is,
ones who can follow what I am saying. (or who are even faster :p)
And, yes, that would generally mean higher IQ.

On the side note, wouldn't everyone have some kind of standard for friends?
(Jesus, too, had some standards, I believe? :p)

p.s.
verb) accept
conjunction) except (excluding)

p.p.s.

You are entitled to do anything you want. Just be ready for the consequences.
Thank you very much for you answer :) I much appreciate it ! You are very clever and I enjoyed you post.
 

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I am very selective about friendship. I want to have maximum enjoyment out of minimum time spent socialising.

...Why waste my time on sub par?
 

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No, I do not have standard for "friends", because I befriend "friends" for observation/manipulation sake.

but for friends (notice no quotation marks) I do have standards for, that is,
ones who can follow what I am saying. (or who are even faster :p)
And, yes, that would generally mean higher IQ.

On the side note, wouldn't everyone have some kind of standard for friends?
(Jesus, too, had some standards, I believe? :p)

p.s.
verb) accept
conjunction) except (excluding)

p.p.s.

You are entitled to do anything you want. Just be ready for the consequences.

p.p.p.s.
I do not see a paradox here.
It is in human nature to discriminate people by his/her likings, and some differences cannot be tolerated (by instinct, emotion, or reason).
Everyone has standards: some upper bound for befriending, some middle bound for null behavior, and some lower bound for ostracizing.
By thee way ... I apologize for any grammer mistakes. One of my good friends is an old professor of english writing :) I was an A++++ student ;) I was her favorite student.

I'm the first to admit that I'm wrong, but the last to be petty ...
 
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