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If you're an INTJ female, do you relate more with other females, or males? Why or why not?
 

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I relate to people so rarely that I don't think I can really choose one or the other. I generally have difficulty relating to most people. In fact, I can count on one hand the number of people that I've been able to relate to on a deep level. Gender doesn't seem to play as much of a role as other factors.

If I had to choose one though, I would choose males, because when it comes to casual interaction I'm much more comfortable with males. They seem to have less baggage than females. Again, that's an extreme generalization. Interacting with other people nearly always taxes my reserves.
 

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I've never met an INTJ female in person (that I am aware of).

Regardless of personality type, I tend to relate better to men. Due to societal standards, INTJ qualities/tendencies are not "becoming" to women in general. I come off as insensitive, unwilling to coddle, abrupt, and I let both children and adults know when they're being dumb and to knock it off. I've had numerous conversations with the guys in the office about dealing with things, and they're always amazed - they don't understand how I can be so "like them" and yet still be a woman. :p
 

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I relate to people so rarely that I don't think I can really choose one or the other. I generally have difficulty relating to most people. In fact, I can count on one hand the number of people that I've been able to relate to on a deep level.
... but in general I'd say I'm more likely to relate to males, due to my sense of humor, interests and very stoic approach to everything.
 

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I relate to people so rarely that I don't think I can really choose one or the other. I generally have difficulty relating to most people. In fact, I can count on one hand the number of people that I've been able to relate to on a deep level. Gender doesn't seem to play as much of a role as other factors.

If I had to choose one though, I would choose males, because when it comes to casual interaction I'm much more comfortable with males. They seem to have less baggage than females. Again, that's an extreme generalization. Interacting with other people nearly always taxes my reserves.
Yeah, I'm INTP, and I can totally relate. People are very stressful.
 

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I can relate to both, but they are at different levels. I relate to men socially very well, mostly because they are on their best behavior around me, and will allow me to talk about what I want, and I don't mind talking about property values and the economy and politics and work with them. Unfortunately, I can usually find out from one of their male friends that out of the range of women they mostly talk about women's body parts.

Women do not realize I am "different" from them, so they will generally launch into what they enjoy most, which seems to be male bashing, which I know they wouldn't do around men. For interesting conversation I usually try to seek out men and women either with Aspergers (lots of programmers around here) or who are post-docs, particular women, if they are in the maths and sciences, can be pretty fun to be with and don't do the usual negative social stuff.
 

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The only females I have ever related to are INTJ women. Other females feel completely alien to me, and I get very anxious around them because I don't understand them or their intentions.
 
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I relate better to males, though I'm sure I'd do fine with INTJ females if I knew any IRL. I grew up around mostly men, went into more male areas of study in college and work in male dominated fields now. Women find me too tactless and abrupt with little regard for social bs like gossip and small talk. I can sit and have a beer with my guy friends and not be expected to talk...I love that.
 

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I relate better to men for sure. Don't get me wrong, I get along with women too but more on a social level. My closest friends have tended to be males with a philosophcial bent or with a sense of humour as black and dry as mine.

And whenever I have met a suspected fellow INTJ female, they have rubbed me the wrong way every time. Don't know why. Maybe because I like to feel special and they're on my patch.
 

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The only females I have ever related to are INTJ women. Other females feel completely alien to me, and I get very anxious around them because I don't understand them or their intentions.
As well you should be [anxious]...because they [most females] intend to take over the world with their pink marzipan covered fascism, dominate your independent intellect, inject you with cotton candy emotions and stick you on top of a wedding cake with pole up your keester.
 

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As well you should be [anxious]...because theiy [most females] intend to take over the world with their pink marzipan covered fascism, dominate your independent intellect, inject you with cotton candy emotions and stick you on top of a wedding cake with pole up your keester.
So nice to see you!.

.....and....I long suspected those things myself but felt weird saying them out loud:wink:
 

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As well you should be [anxious]...because theiy [most females] intend to take over the world with their pink marzipan covered fascism, dominate your independent intellect, inject you with cotton candy emotions and stick you on top of a wedding cake with pole up your keester.
*gasps*

Such.... animals!
 

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So nice to see you!.

.....and....I long suspected those things myself but felt weird saying them out loud:wink:
I am starting to embrace my inner weird, and wear it like a banner.

It's good to see [read] you too! Coming back to your comments always reassures me that I am not [completely] insane. :happy:

Not that I want to be sane, because that's freaking boring.
 

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It used to be males until they started crushing on me. That's not because I'm so irresistible, but because I'm often one of the very few females in their chosen areas. I actually regret that, because these days if I want male conversation I'm reduced to the pale echoes that come off husbands and boyfriends of my female acquaintances.
 

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It used to be males until they started crushing on me.
That is so annoying. Most guys I know never just want to be friends.

I didn't pick either on the poll, because gender doesn't play a role for me. I have more female friends than male (95%), but it wasn't always like that, so I can't say it's because I relate more to females.
 

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Males. A thousand times. Maybe it has something to do with my level of prenatal testosterone; my digit ratio is extremely male and I have always thought like a male. In grade school, I was a tomboy. I am aggressive, ambitious, outspoken, witty (to the point of being insulting) and frank. Not many females I know can take that. Besides, I find that females talk more about social issues and gossip. Me, I'm not interested. Even in philosophy, there's a difference. Give me the metaphysics. Scrap the ethics. I find that females are much more interested in ethical philosophy, something I don't care for, and even disdain. I can be myself around males, and they are never offended at my offbeat humor or "feisty girl" persona. I think they find it quite endearing, actually. The best conversations I've ever had were all with males. Yes. ALL.

It used to be males until they started crushing on me. That's not because I'm so irresistible, but because I'm often one of the very few females in their chosen areas. I actually regret that, because these days if I want male conversation I'm reduced to the pale echoes that come off husbands and boyfriends of my female acquaintances.
Ugh. I can relate. Over the summer, I've acquired several male "playmates". They weren't conversation material, and they were all my age (17). We have certainly "played rough", and I never hesitated to wrestle with them like a guy would. One of them, I think, developed a crush on me, for no obvious reason because I just acted like a silly, feisty girl around him. After I ranted about philosophy to him several times, later he told me that he had "never met a girl like me". Needless to say, after he started acting like he had a crush on me, I felt a little uncomfortable.

I relate better to men for sure. Don't get me wrong, I get along with women too but more on a social level. My closest friends have tended to be males with a philosophcial bent or with a sense of humour as black and dry as mine.

And whenever I have met a suspected fellow INTJ female, they have rubbed me the wrong way every time. Don't know why. Maybe because I like to feel special and they're on my patch.
I feel that way about another INTJ female (self proclaimed anyway). She has depth of personality, but is not necessarily bright. She has this "I'm too good for school" attitude sometimes, but I don't know if that's genuine, but she seems to truly not care for school work. Her grades are abysmal, she dresses funny, she criticizes people who say "like" in sentences too many times, and I caught her on multiple occasions saying it herself. She says some truly stupid things sometimes (like confusing "diction" with "meaning of the word" in English class), and insulted me 3 times. I'm not sure if calling me a "grade whore" was meant to be an insult, but it became a little tiring after a while. I don't know if I don't care for her because she's INTJ, because she's female or because her demeanor rubs me in the wrong way.
 

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I relate more to NTJ women. Though I notice that ENTJ women lack insight and emotion to me. They're better for advice on ACTION than dating. I choose males.
 

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I've never met an INTJ female in person (that I am aware of).

Regardless of personality type, I tend to relate better to men. Due to societal standards, INTJ qualities/tendencies are not "becoming" to women in general. I come off as insensitive, unwilling to coddle, abrupt, and I let both children and adults know when they're being dumb and to knock it off. I've had numerous conversations with the guys in the office about dealing with things, and they're always amazed - they don't understand how I can be so "like them" and yet still be a woman. :p
Here here and huzzah. I would have written close to the same exact post.
 
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