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I have actually watched a certain youtube video which I can't find now which explained this to me and I agree with the guy 100%. I always approach strangers who I feel like talking to by standing or walking far away from them and staring at them, circling them repeatedly, and walking back and forth, and imaging 100's of ways to start a convos by running through the convos in my head, about 30 minutes later, if they are still there, I go in and usually say "Hi, this is a beautiful day, I want to sit next to you...," this is usually the best thing I can come up with spontaneously. I have actually been treating this as an experiment for me lately and see if I can put myself in uncomfortable situations and safely get out. So far, I have no regrets doing this, note: these are attractive introverted females that I make the convos with; I know this because extroverts don't normally sit in the park reading a book for fun. Don't jump all over me, extroverts, you might read, I have just never seen it, in public.

Anyway, please just answer my question if you are INTJ or know of an INTJ, how do INTJs approach strangers?
 

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I have actually watched a certain youtube video which I can't find now which explained this to me and I agree with the guy 100%. I always approach strangers who I feel like talking to by standing or walking far away from them and staring at them, circling them repeatedly, and walking back and forth, and imaging 100's of ways to start a convos by running through the convos in my head, about 30 minutes later, if they are still there, I go in and usually say "Hi, this is a beautiful day, I want to sit next to you...," this is usually the best thing I can come up with spontaneously. I have actually been treating this as an experiment for me lately and see if I can put myself in uncomfortable situations and safely get out. So far, I have no regrets doing this, note: these are attractive introverted females that I make the convos with; I know this because extroverts don't normally sit in the park reading a book for fun. Don't jump all over me, extroverts, you might read, I have just never seen it, in public.

Anyway, please just answer my question if you are INTJ or know of an INTJ, how do INTJs approach strangers?
In reverse.
 

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"Hi, this is a beautiful day, I want to sit next to you...,"
I would laugh so hard if someone said this to me.

I suck at approaching people. In rare situations I see something about the person, or near them that I can turn into something humorous. In those situations I can strike up conversation easily and very well, the problem is that 30 seconds later I'm out of things to say and it's awkward...
 

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Same as the others...I never approach strangers unless I have some specific reason like needing to know directions or something lol I don't feel the urge to strike up conversation with random strangers ever. If they approach me to just chat, I may or may not oblige...usually not because I feel like they are usually weird. :p
 

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from my observations, with a 10 foot pole.
 

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I've only met two..but they both let me approach them first. I guess INTJs kind of approach people in that they don't run away from them should they prove to be interesting. But that might just be me being hopeful.
 

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note: these are attractive introverted females that I make the convos with; I know this because extroverts don't normally sit in the park reading a book for fun. Don't jump all over me, extroverts, you might read, I have just never seen it, in public.
Why don't you have conversations with people that are more inviting? If I was the girl in that situation, I'd be polite, but I'd be trying to figure out how to get away from you. I'd frankly be pissed off that you didn't take the book as a hint. If you insist upon talking to strangers, maybe talk to ones that aren't clearly uninterested in socialising.
 

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I just talk to them, I never been really bothered by strangers. Its the people I know who bothers me :/ they know who I am so they know what to expect. While strangers are just 'meh' and walk away.
Though, I only talk to strangers when I really need something, maybe when I'm on a bus alone I wish to have some sort of companion while heading towards my destination. So I wont get lost.
Its weird why people always associate introversion with shyness. We're awkward, shyness is a learned habit.
 

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I don't know. I think that's gross. Walking up to someone you don't know with an agenda, (hey, I have no idea who you are but I think I might want to bone you?)
Go up and plant a small seed. Then move on. Then say hi later and be nice!
 

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As with others I tend to avoid talking to strangers unless I have a pressing need to. Occasionally I will chat up strangers just for something to do though. I approach them exactly the same way I approach people I know - usually with some variation of "Hey. Wassup?"
 

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Its simple. We don't.
This.
Because approaching a 'stranger' for me involves dealing with too much sensory uncertainty,drifting in the stream of self-inhibitory small-talk and most importantly an paranoid restlessness to walk off resulting from the attention shifting to myself and my lifestyle.
Then,there are times when I'm well-grounded,but the first impressions aren't that good because I'm not even remotely a despo.
 

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Why don't you have conversations with people that are more inviting? If I was the girl in that situation, I'd be polite, but I'd be trying to figure out how to get away from you. I'd frankly be pissed off that you didn't take the book as a hint. If you insist upon talking to strangers, maybe talk to ones that aren't clearly uninterested in socialising.

You mean talking to the extroverted population, no I can't do that. Obvious reasons, they don't let me, they overtake the conversation and talk way too much, it's too exhausting (I've experienced it first hand). Also, extroverts seem to always be involved in cliques and gangs were I live; other people know this too.

I only enjoy one-on-one conversation. Maybe, I'm just the friendliest INTJ in the world, or something like that, I enjoy a girl's company around my own age. I've met very inviting introverts who enjoy being in good company with me, and I even did this flirting thing on purpose that I discovered in other threads on this website, and it was truly fun doing it.

I have found that the book that they are reading is just a time-killer; you are making an assumption about humans in your post, you should not assume that the person does not want to talk. If they did not want to talk, they should just say so; INTJs are straightforward like this; I would just tell them, I'm really busy right now and can't talk now (I do this when studying in school). There is absolutely nothing wrong with being upfront.

My entire intention behind doing this is just to make one friend -- a best friend if you will -- that's really it. I would imagine more INTJs would understand this, but maybe not, and that's sad.

I don't think any INTJ in the world is an expert on humans, which is why social experimentation may be an important thing to do to learn more about humans. I thank youtube for this.
 
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