This is my philosophy as well. My daughter is 4 and I am pretty sure she is ENF..something. I know it sounds silly to type such a young child but her personality is very well developed and she is very mature for her age. I teach her to be responsible for herself. I try to encourage her to think about the future and what she can do now to ensure a better time later...I might tell her if she cleans her room now, when her friends come over later they will be able to see ALL her Barbies displayed nicely and will tell her how cool her Barbies are...lol. Punishments are ALWAYS logical and if I mess up, I always say sorry. I don't deny to her that adults make mistakes too, or try to act perfect.I encourage my kids to climb things, play without adult supervision and be responsible for themselves, their things and their time. I speak in terms of resources, define everything as "a tool or a toy" and ask them to evaluate their own behavior. Punishments are logical consequences of behavior. I admit when I am wrong and apologize.
Yes. I am patient until the over the top emotional behavior starts. I am really glad the tantrum stage is pretty much over with. The terrible twos were terrible for me and her.I am patient too, unless they get overly dramatic or whiny. The logical part of me just doesn't understand that kind of reaction to things. I'd rather sit down and talk out the details with them without all the emotion mixed in.
You are awesome :happy:It's funny: Just by giving me a long leash and going on about her own interests, my INTJ mom drove me to become a life-long learner. We think of reading as such a solitary act, but when your life is connected to the life of a voracious reader, you can't help but get caught up asking good questions. I'm pretty sure my formative years were driven by nothing more than the desire to teach her things her books already hadn't (or couldn't?), which does wonders for a flighty young boy's attention span. INTJ mom are the best moms. :happy:
LOL.I am an INTJ mother and I think I might be raising an INTJ son. The good thing about this, is that when I get a bit too carried away with a joke, game or idea, he is quick to bring me back to Earth with some of his own judgements and logical thought.
It is humbling (to say the least) to have a nine year old question the logic behind your idea or action ad realise he is right.
I am inclined to listen carefully now he has proven his incredible foresight... The latest was on a bike ride where he questioned whether a hill was too steep to ride down. I was adamant that it would be fine and went to prove it by going down first. Guess who stacked her bike and ended up covered in bruises??