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Hi INTJs,
Enthusiastic ENFP here. I just went on a first date with someone who is an INTJ. To me, the date did not feel like it was the best as it could have been. I was a lot more quiet than I usually am, but he was very talkative. We've talked online before, but I was usually the one to do the discussions. We got some coffee, which he said tasted weird but he drank it all anyways. [I felt bad because I suggested the coffee place]. And then later when we moved from coffee to the bookstore, we bumped into his friend who tagged along with us for most of the time at the bookstore. It was mostly them talking, but I would jump in occasionally and laugh -- the friend was cool and all and it was very much as if we had all decided to just meet up as friends and go through the bookstore. But, when the friend left, he apologized and then we continued.
While, I think this date could have been better and probably the best of my ENFP-ness wasn't really shown. But, I'm wondering if these are all ENFP reasons, and wondering if this kind of a date would seem perfectly fine for an INTJ?
Another one of my friends who is an ENFP who just got a boyfriend [also intj] said that she also though that after their first date, that it would not go anywhere, but it has actually worked out pretty well.
I know that ENFP and INTJ as supposed to go well as couples, but they can also see the world very differently from what I have seen. And, I am not necessarily looking for another answer about how an ENFP can snag another INTJ, but how you INTJs feel about the awkwardness of first dates, how you see what makes them "good," and your experiences.
Enthusiastic ENFP here. I just went on a first date with someone who is an INTJ. To me, the date did not feel like it was the best as it could have been. I was a lot more quiet than I usually am, but he was very talkative. We've talked online before, but I was usually the one to do the discussions. We got some coffee, which he said tasted weird but he drank it all anyways. [I felt bad because I suggested the coffee place]. And then later when we moved from coffee to the bookstore, we bumped into his friend who tagged along with us for most of the time at the bookstore. It was mostly them talking, but I would jump in occasionally and laugh -- the friend was cool and all and it was very much as if we had all decided to just meet up as friends and go through the bookstore. But, when the friend left, he apologized and then we continued.
While, I think this date could have been better and probably the best of my ENFP-ness wasn't really shown. But, I'm wondering if these are all ENFP reasons, and wondering if this kind of a date would seem perfectly fine for an INTJ?
Another one of my friends who is an ENFP who just got a boyfriend [also intj] said that she also though that after their first date, that it would not go anywhere, but it has actually worked out pretty well.
I know that ENFP and INTJ as supposed to go well as couples, but they can also see the world very differently from what I have seen. And, I am not necessarily looking for another answer about how an ENFP can snag another INTJ, but how you INTJs feel about the awkwardness of first dates, how you see what makes them "good," and your experiences.