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So, I've always been pretty interested in INTJ, but at the same time, they're a bit hard for me to understand. I only know one INTJ in real life which is my younger brother. He's always pretty cold and rarely shows emotions other than happy and angry. He doesn't get attached to people often or easily. He's very popular but he really doesn't care for company. He even said once, "I don't have friends. I strictly only have acquaintances." We tend to argue a lot cuz I guess I'm more of feeler and he's more into logic. I always thought he was really insensitive about some things that he should have more concern for. Like when our youngest brother was being bullied all he said was, "It's not my problem". :p But I do admire my brother. He's very dedicated to what he does. And I kind of envy that he doesn't get so attached to things like I do. He's very smart, too. And I suppose he admires me, too. He told me so in a card he gave me while I was gone from home. Which isn't something he normally would admit. He also said he worries about me cuz I'm "too nice"... I guess as we've grown older, we don't argue as often, maybe maturity is finally settling in and we're finally starting to understand each other a little bit. But I was wondering what are you're guys' opinions on INFJ?
 

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Too nice, and Fe? I see Te as at least impersonal (even though there's usually a suppressed but still present Fi lurking around telling one about feelings). But Fe can be downright bossy. I've posted this 3 places now, because I really think people need to quit seeing Fe as nice. Gushy, maybe at times. But even stereotypically Fe users can be really oppressive with the nature of how they reason, towards others.
 

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I've found that INTJs and INFJs are very similar, the two types lumped together in articles and such. That being said, my opinion on INFJs is that they are too unwilling to argue or debate, although I generally see their company to be agreeable. Also, I think INFJs can be a bit unwilling to see reason when emotions enter into the equation.
 

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I've found that INTJs and INFJs are very similar, the two types lumped together in articles and such. That being said, my opinion on INFJs is that they are too unwilling to argue or debate, although I generally see their company to be agreeable. Also, I think INFJs can be a bit unwilling to see reason when emotions enter into the equation.
You didn't just say INFJs are unwilling to argue, did you? I have seen threads here between these two types that would make your toes curl. Heh.

As to the OP. INFJs like any other type are good value if they are healthy individuals. I have a couple of them in my life and they make the world a better place with their dark humour and insights.
 

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Hmmm... Cant say about all INFJs, but I know 2 tested INFJs in real life, one is an annoying ADHD that is probably misstyped, or is actually an INFJ when she is not hyper (which is never). The other INFJ is a really smart, dark and twisty individual that I came to like straight away. We shared our dark and twisty thoughts and we get along really well, especially when we discuss stuff like psychology, philosophy and anime. I really like her, she has the guts(?) to discuss sensitive topics and the intelligence to talk about deep subjects, and the feeling side to talk about stuff like relationships and people. A very balanced individual really, but then sometimes, she does become a masochistic too-nice person. She apparently is used to being hurt(mentally) and lonely, and she is prone to being taken advantage of, I feel the need to 'protect' her, but I do trust her to be able to take care of herself. So for now, I'll just 'watch over' her. Sorry I'm ranting lol.
 

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Too nice, and Fe? I see Te as at least impersonal (even though there's usually a suppressed but still present Fi lurking around telling one about feelings). But Fe can be downright bossy. I've posted this 3 places now, because I really think people need to quit seeing Fe as nice. Gushy, maybe at times. But even stereotypically Fe users can be really oppressive with the nature of how they reason, towards others.
Hmm, never been told that I'm bossy. :p But maybe people just don't tell me. And I don't think my brother calls me nice cuz I'm gushy. I'm a bit of a push-over. And I always go out of my way to do things for people even when it's inconvenient for me. He and my mom get mad at me saying, "You don't worry about yourself enough". :p But what's your definition of nice? Maybe I have it all wrong.
 

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I've found that INTJs and INFJs are very similar, the two types lumped together in articles and such. That being said, my opinion on INFJs is that they are too unwilling to argue or debate, although I generally see their company to be agreeable. Also, I think INFJs can be a bit unwilling to see reason when emotions enter into the equation.
Wrong! Just because they are both loved and excepted by the most superior type (ENTPs) does not mean they're the same person. I love talking to INFJs cuz they teach me how to Fi, and I like the INTJs cuz I can Ne with them.
 
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Hmmm... Cant say about all INFJs, but I know 2 tested INFJs in real life, one is an annoying ADHD that is probably misstyped, or is actually an INFJ when she is not hyper (which is never). The other INFJ is a really smart, dark and twisty individual that I came to like straight away. We shared our dark and twisty thoughts and we get along really well, especially when we discuss stuff like psychology, philosophy and anime. I really like her, she has the guts(?) to discuss sensitive topics and the intelligence to talk about deep subjects, and the feeling side to talk about stuff like relationships and people. A very balanced individual really, but then sometimes, she does become a masochistic too-nice person. She apparently is used to being hurt(mentally) and lonely, and she is prone to being taken advantage of, I feel the need to 'protect' her, but I do trust her to be able to take care of herself. So for now, I'll just 'watch over' her. Sorry I'm ranting lol.
haha, no need to apologize. And I think I can definitely relate to her. :p
 

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I've found that INTJs and INFJs are very similar, the two types lumped together in articles and such. That being said, my opinion on INFJs is that they are too unwilling to argue or debate, although I generally see their company to be agreeable. Also, I think INFJs can be a bit unwilling to see reason when emotions enter into the equation.
Depends who the person is :p I argue and debate with my brother all the time.
 

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I know one INFJ and she is without a doubt one of my closest friends. I find that she and I share a lot of traits personality-wise despite the Te/Fe difference. I think she's very calm yet assertive, very mature, and very nurturing towards others, all traits I very much admire and love about her. Her Ni/Fe are extremely good at letting her understand me emotionally when I confide in her, which I'm poor at explaining despite my recent efforts to let my friends behind the Wall. I always trust her judgement and consider her advice when she gives it and I can tell she understands how I feel even when I don't say much.

Like anybody I consider a friend I have and will continue to do anything to help her, but I think she and I understand each other more than any other of my friends (with one exception: my also female ENFP friend). All our mutual acquaintances thought we were in love with each other at one point lol.
 
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People who are intelligent, but don't have the 'strength of will' (my term) to refuse others always frustrate me. I have zero impulse to help someone unless I think it is the right thing for me to do; for example, if I randomly ran into someone who needed directions or something, of course I would help them because I believe it is right to do that. But if some guy in a class who I know slightly asked me to 'study' with him because he isn't getting it, I would turn him down because I would think he deserved it if he wasn't studying, and even if he was, college is for people who can stand on their own, and I have higher priorities. So, overly 'nice' people who can't say no even when they are smart really make me cringe. I end up wanting to say 'you're better than that; you should know better than to let people take advantage of you'.
 
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