So I have been having a "relationship" with an INTP. We are friends with benefits but we are exclusive. I know that doesn't even exist but this guy won't be comfortable with being a "Boyfriend" although he does somethings that a friend with benefits wouldn't do.
Yesterday was the last day we were going to see each other for about a month. He said "Well I guess I'm not gonna see you in the next month" and I said "I know
" And then he just gave me a polite hug and smiled shyly and nervous. I said, "what's wrong with you? why do you always put this mask or attitude when we say goodbye, we just had sex and spent the last day in bed, why are you like this?" and he said, "what do you want me to say, do you want me to kiss you?" and then he leaned forward and kissed me (a really short and awkward kiss) and he said, you wanted a kiss right? ...
As if the kiss would make our NSA relationship into something more serious. I would be okay with being just fwb like we are now, but I feel that deep inside him he wants a relationship. He always talks about what am I gonna say to my future husband about him? that if I am going to talk about him and that I can tell "the motherfuc*er" to screw himself. He says that "joking" but I can tell that he is constantly worried about the day when he might loose me (which he knows is going to happen). But still he won't commit.
He says that he feels extremely comfortable around me and he can be himself. He is always complimenting my intelligence and even gets turned on when I say a well-structured sentence that he finds interesting, seriously lol, the thing is that he pops out comments such as "I feel we would'nt work out" and when I say what you just said? He changes the topic, or he says I may be too controlling, which probably I am but he still wants to be with me.
I am not saying I want to move forward or that I will pressure him to do so, but does these random distant and cold attitudes mean he is just making clear we are just fwb or that he is just too scared to fall for me for real?
---On a sidenote, the sex is very good and he loves cuddling a lot. He is the sweetest guy with me sometimes, I know he is not just pretending. How do INTP's feel about sex/cuddling/long talks at night??... I am mentioning this because men stereotypes don't usually fit with the essence of INTP men and it might be a decissive factor whether you know an INTP has fallen or not.
Yesterday was the last day we were going to see each other for about a month. He said "Well I guess I'm not gonna see you in the next month" and I said "I know
" And then he just gave me a polite hug and smiled shyly and nervous. I said, "what's wrong with you? why do you always put this mask or attitude when we say goodbye, we just had sex and spent the last day in bed, why are you like this?" and he said, "what do you want me to say, do you want me to kiss you?" and then he leaned forward and kissed me (a really short and awkward kiss) and he said, you wanted a kiss right? ... As if the kiss would make our NSA relationship into something more serious. I would be okay with being just fwb like we are now, but I feel that deep inside him he wants a relationship. He always talks about what am I gonna say to my future husband about him? that if I am going to talk about him and that I can tell "the motherfuc*er" to screw himself. He says that "joking" but I can tell that he is constantly worried about the day when he might loose me (which he knows is going to happen). But still he won't commit.
He says that he feels extremely comfortable around me and he can be himself. He is always complimenting my intelligence and even gets turned on when I say a well-structured sentence that he finds interesting, seriously lol, the thing is that he pops out comments such as "I feel we would'nt work out" and when I say what you just said? He changes the topic, or he says I may be too controlling, which probably I am but he still wants to be with me.
I am not saying I want to move forward or that I will pressure him to do so, but does these random distant and cold attitudes mean he is just making clear we are just fwb or that he is just too scared to fall for me for real?
---On a sidenote, the sex is very good and he loves cuddling a lot. He is the sweetest guy with me sometimes, I know he is not just pretending. How do INTP's feel about sex/cuddling/long talks at night??... I am mentioning this because men stereotypes don't usually fit with the essence of INTP men and it might be a decissive factor whether you know an INTP has fallen or not.
