My mum's an INTP, dad's an ISTJ, and they've been married for 24 years. They can get pretty distant when they don't spend much time together (which is how it is most of the time - they both work a lot) but when they do spend time together you can see how their personalities compliment each others' (especially mums tendancy to look at the "big picture" paired with dads crazy attention to detail..)
Being an Introvert with a Thinking preference, we're not exactly forthcoming with our feelings and a wee bit hesitant to ask people out. So it would be a great, if maybe unexpected, relief to the ISTJ if the other person made the first move.what do you mean by don't be stupid? Also, if ISTJs have traditional views of men and women, how would making the first move be acceptable when that is a modern thing for women to do? Just asking because I am a bit confused.
Yeah, I agree.....the ISTJ in my life and I always end up back on religion and politics. Both being our favorite subjects..... very sexy! M E O WAs an ISTJ male, I know that it is very hard for us to make a move. Our natural tactic of getting to know someone first usually blows up in our face with the "Let's just be friends" line. As everyone else said, we are really poor at getting hints... any hints at all! I would say the best thing you can do is make the first move and go and say hi, let's go get coffee. I know that if that ever happened to me, I would be so happy! You just saved me from having to do the hardest thing in the world for me, confronting the unknown! After the coffee date, you should have a pretty good idea if you want to continue or not. He should, also.
What to talk about? Well, since you're both T's, go with that! I know that intellectual pursuits is a huge turn on for me. I could get lost in talking about morality, science, math, philosophy, anything like that for hours with someone. I would love it! That's actually the fastest way to my heart, an intelligent female showing interest! =) If he's anything like me, after the first date he should get the clue and snap into the traditional male/female roles, and ask you out the next time and take his role as the leader. Just do not let the line go slack. Keep trying, over and over until he gets comfortable enough with you. =)