We're not the best at counseling to be honest, but he sounds like a prize ratbag to me. Advice? Put it down to experience, forget him, move on, but don't be put off by the INTP - they aren't all like that. It sounds like he'll drop this latest girl at a drop of a hat too.
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ok so a selfish guy with "Machiavellian" impulses clearly very self-serving and egoistical, throws words "I love you" at girls left and right to get on their good side, very resentful ... so erm, what did you expect? why would you want to be in a relationship with him? who cares if he found another girl? you should pity the other girl not hate her 
anyways if it makes you feel any better socionics predicts that INTPs and ISFPs enter a super-ego type of relationship which isn't the best one out there, first partners seem curious to each other then starts the fighting: Super-ego relations
anyways if it makes you feel any better socionics predicts that INTPs and ISFPs enter a super-ego type of relationship which isn't the best one out there, first partners seem curious to each other then starts the fighting: Super-ego relations
Vel is right on thisok so a selfish guy with "Machiavellian" impulses clearly very self-serving and egoistical, throws words "I love you" at girls left and right to get on their good side, very resentful ... so erm, what did you expect? why would you want to be in a relationship with him? who cares if he found another girl? you should pity the other girl not hate her
anyways if it makes you feel any better socionics predicts that INTPs and ISFPs enter a super-ego type of relationship which isn't the best one out there, first partners seem curious to each other then starts the fighting: Super-ego relations
Thanks everyone.
and as for the Ego thingy..i have no ego! i am willing to do a LOT for someone i care for! but i have to know that they are willing to be at least there for me, if not nething else :|
It's hard. He just seemed like i dont know, so interesting! and patient but in a weird way...as in he was impatient but he kept patience with me.
and as for the Ego thingy..i have no ego! i am willing to do a LOT for someone i care for! but i have to know that they are willing to be at least there for me, if not nething else :|
It's hard. He just seemed like i dont know, so interesting! and patient but in a weird way...as in he was impatient but he kept patience with me.
Umm..Vel, the link you gave is creepily accurate..at least the first 2 parahs(thats how far iv gone til now!) Thanx a lot agn.
Everyone.roud:
Everyone.
roud:I can't speak for all ISFP's, but this is definitely not the case for me. I think MBTI and socionics relationship matches are total BS too, though. Enneagram is where it's at, at least in terms of relationships.
I believe maturity level really plays the biggest part in this. For me, emotional limbo sucks, and I'm just as cautious as any T with words of affection.
I honestly think all the IxxP's are great together.
The guy sounds like a grade "A" asshole to me. Ultimately, you should be happy you aren't wrapped up in that anymore and that bitch will eventually be burned by him and get what she has coming. I'm not going to give you advice on how to get him back or anything because I honestly think that would be a horrible course of action (getting back with him). It hurts feeling 'replaced' but that guy is just a dick and prodding you where it hurts most for not playing along with his bullshit. Take solace that you're in a much better place now without him, and you now have an entire forum full of INTPs who aren't assholes to choose from :crazy:
this is funny - if you visit socionics forums there is always going to be somebody there to inform you that MBTI is complete bullshit
Maybe I should have added that the IxxP comment was my personal opinion and not to be taken as gauranteed advice. What I don't like is when type descriptions list "love compatible types". For example, I just read an article matching ISFP's with ESTP's...wtf? Not only are the pairings inconsistant from article to article, there never seems to be any logical reason people come up with these dumbass pairings.
What did you mean by there being a lot of paraphrasing in the original post?
Coming to the guy, I told him i would like to date him and get to know him better because there had been no closing of psychological distance between us. And i think that is a very important thing, to understand why someone is upset/angry/happy, etc and not just the fact that they are happy/upset, etc. hence my emphasis on the fact that we spend more time together not as a couple before we actually commit. Because this is the person who used to tell me he had had phone sex with 3 people within a short span and wanted to just maintain sexual relations with everyone. I loved him but not enough to say it. Finding each other interesting can carry a relationship only so far. And if he had been interested, he could have stuck around. When all i did was stick around for him and back him up when people would hurt him or say stuff about him which were untrue and mean. He seemed to have a tough exterior but that exactly wasnt the case. And it was the opposite with me.
Nobody likes being in a social limbo.
And i posted here becoz he is an INTP. And i thought people with similar functions might relate and i cud discuss. And we are all here for that only to discuss and exchange opinions right? or to just observe. i think it had less to do with Socionics/JMBTI and more about getting to know people.
:happy:Although I do get caught up in it sometimes, MBTI, to me, is a concept only, albeit a fascinating one with some truths and lots of scope. If it at any time interferes with any function in my life, I would probably walk away from it. As long as it stays a hobby, or a distraction, I will retain what little sanity I have.
Anyway, back into the concept, we are being ohso INTP going way OT. A girl here needs advice, and most of us aren't very good at giving it.
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