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Has anyone tried to be in a relationship with someone of the same personality type? I am an INTP and was with a girl who was also an INTP and it was awesome. I really felt like I was with someone who could understand me. Unfortunately it ended...she wasn't good at communicating her feelings and even though it took me a while to learn how to do this, I was able to. Relationship books say the same personality types are difficult, but all have a disclaimer saying that if both people try hard, any type can work. Please state your personality type and your experience when making a comment.
 

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True, my current relationship is INTP as well. She is a marvelous and neurotic female. But at times, she will turn off completely and not want to talk, then she come back roaring for attention as if the emotional issue was no problem. Then she tells me I am being cold or uncaring.
It got bad.
So, communication. That is all it was. She is an extremely bright young woman who like people when she chooses and she felt that being in relationship meant that she would have attention when it was she did not want it. Same with me, my other relationships were short lived because I did not want to cuddle at the time.
Great talk, we now have a cool schedule using post it notes based on what we are thinking. We can go for an entire week without talking and then have everything all at once. I think the main issue is space to think and being forced to feel emotional.
 

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It seems like two INTPs would make amazing friends, but not so much as mates. Since we suck at paying attention to other's feelings, both people would most likely feel like the other one isn't paying as much attention to them as they wish they would, or that they aren't as interested as they wish. I've found that I love ENTJs. I can just sit back and let them do all the social organizing and all the talking while I'm just in my own little world, and I can still connect with them on an intellectual level.
 

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hmmm... What about ENTP/INTP?
There are some ENTP/INTP pairings on the forums - at least I remember reading individual posts about them - and the reports were usually good. For me, it seems "too close for comfort" - too much alike. The only NT type that I've ever seen any glimmer of hope with after knowing them well, is ENTJ.

It seems like two INTPs would make amazing friends, but not so much as mates. Since we suck at paying attention to other's feelings, both people would most likely feel like the other one isn't paying as much attention to them as they wish they would, or that they aren't as interested as they wish. I've found that I love ENTJs. I can just sit back and let them do all the social organizing and all the talking while I'm just in my own little world, and I can still connect with them on an intellectual level.
Agreed on the possibility of ENTJ-INTP. I think my biggest worry with them, at the beginning, would be if we became over-competitive with each other, which could result in some hostility. Some of that can be NT-NT fun and games, but it can also get out of hand quickly.
 

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Sounds like a good combo. Don't know how accurate those online tests are, but I got INTJ once and INTP once, so perhaps INTx?

she wasn't good at communicating her feelings and even though it took me a while to learn how to do this, I was able to.
Anyway, it's unfortunate (for me) that so many females are Fs. I'm curious, why would the attribute "good at communicating feeling" matter? Aren't feelings just superficial thinking? It seems more meaningful to communicate thoughts than feelings.

I think a sexual/romantic relationship is mostly good for lust management. Porn does the trick just fine with a good trade-off in satisfaction and flexibility/control. I wish there's an anti-viagra that takes away my lust without side effects.

It seems like two INTPs would make amazing friends, but not so much as mates. Since we suck at paying attention to other's feelings, both people would most likely feel like the other one isn't paying as much attention to them as they wish they would, or that they aren't as interested as they wish.
I think it's worse if it's asymmetrical, as in one needs significantly more attention than the other. Personally, I try to stay away from attention unless it's important or if I'm almost certain that the other person would find it amusing.
 

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I have an INTP/INTP relationship now. It works well. As far as talking about feelings. I guess we both know we are there for the other's support, we don't really talk about feelings in-depth, just kind of skim the surface.

There are strange things about the relationship, but it's been over a year and we are still happy
 

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Sounds like a good combo. Don't know how accurate those online tests are, but I got INTJ once and INTP once, so perhaps INTx?



Anyway, it's unfortunate (for me) that so many females are Fs. I'm curious, why would the attribute "good at communicating feeling" matter? Aren't feelings just superficial thinking? It seems more meaningful to communicate thoughts than feelings.

I think a sexual/romantic relationship is mostly good for lust management. Porn does the trick just fine with a good trade-off in satisfaction and flexibility/control. I wish there's an anti-viagra that takes away my lust without side effects.



I think it's worse if it's asymmetrical, as in one needs significantly more attention than the other. Personally, I try to stay away from attention unless it's important or if I'm almost certain that the other person would find it amusing.
As silly as it sounds, I never thought about writing to her through logic...explaining why we see the world a lot a like, which is why I really think we worked well. I suppose that means I'd have to make a lot of assumptions and I don't like to do that.

As for the asymmetrical, your right...but now how do I turn off those stupid feelings once they were turned on, hmm... Feeling better now that I'm on PerC - maybe give it a couple more doses of logic LOL!
 

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Has anyone tried to be in a relationship with someone of the same personality type? I am an INTP and was with a girl who was also an INTP and it was awesome. I really felt like I was with someone who could understand me. Unfortunately it ended...she wasn't good at communicating her feelings and even though it took me a while to learn how to do this, I was able to. Relationship books say the same personality types are difficult, but all have a disclaimer saying that if both people try hard, any type can work. Please state your personality type and your experience when making a comment.
I have had 3 INTP girlfriends, and am currently dating number 3. My current girlfriend is rather closed off and similar to how u explained why it ended. Where as i see everything i feel and everything i do as having some cause, She will never talk about anything and is always saying...nothing is wrong, when u can see a clear distinct character change....with the reply "why cant it just be nothing"

I do like the relationship, But i am an INTP and piss myself off most of the time, so another INTP and myself seems to give me a short temper sometimes, Althou i annoy the living shit out of her aswell. But we have a shared understanding of it being who we are, and actually do do it on purpose to each other for ones entertainment
 
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hmmm... What about ENTP/INTP?
I tried this once and immediately felt like there a big problem being a male and INTP - in other words, she wanted the man to have control. I'd have to try a few more to really see, but I believe women want the man to be in control...correct me if I'm wrong or there is another view point on this...
 

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I tried this once and immediately felt like there a big problem being a male and INTP - in other words, she wanted the man to have control. I'd have to try a few more to really see, but I believe women want the man to be in control...correct me if I'm wrong or there is another view point on this...
Never really felt like that, honestly. It was more of a "I'm-competitive-and-he-got-sick-of-my-constant-power-struggle-games" thing.
 
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