I am a 36yr old male, my father is an ISTJ.
My father was a commanding officer in the Australian army, extremely regimented, 100% back and white.
I know he tries to communicate with me but its such an awkward thing to do, very rarely do we get past the weather. I dont understand his regimented black and white, uncompromising opinions. He is also very intolerant of of different ethnicities, and homosexuals which grates on me to the extreme. I think it comes from his service in the military and time in Vietnam.
He persistantly tries to push me and otherfamily members in the direction of military service, an institution I strongly oppose.
I think he completely lacks the ability to recognise that as individuals we develop our own morals and ethics, and that we posess different skill sets. He constantly draws copmarisons between myself and other more successful ( mainly servicemen ) members of the extended family and family friends.
Being a child of a serviceman we moved around constantly and myself, and my sisters never aquired the ability to establish stong friendships. Both my sisters are older and none of us have long standing relations with peers.
My question is how do I go about finding a common ground with my dad, Im quite happy not having contact with him however I think it may be something I regret later.
My father was a commanding officer in the Australian army, extremely regimented, 100% back and white.
I know he tries to communicate with me but its such an awkward thing to do, very rarely do we get past the weather. I dont understand his regimented black and white, uncompromising opinions. He is also very intolerant of of different ethnicities, and homosexuals which grates on me to the extreme. I think it comes from his service in the military and time in Vietnam.
He persistantly tries to push me and otherfamily members in the direction of military service, an institution I strongly oppose.
I think he completely lacks the ability to recognise that as individuals we develop our own morals and ethics, and that we posess different skill sets. He constantly draws copmarisons between myself and other more successful ( mainly servicemen ) members of the extended family and family friends.
Being a child of a serviceman we moved around constantly and myself, and my sisters never aquired the ability to establish stong friendships. Both my sisters are older and none of us have long standing relations with peers.
My question is how do I go about finding a common ground with my dad, Im quite happy not having contact with him however I think it may be something I regret later.