You sure your INTP?My favorite first date ever we went diving and fishing. It was a beautiful thing on many levels. There was organized activity, we had to rely on each other, he got to demonstrate his skill at something, I received new experiences it was fantastic.
A decent first date was coffee, then bowling, then frisbee in the park. We weren't ready to say goodbye but didn't want to just stare at each other either.
I really like a structured activity, but an opportunity to actually interact with my date.
Go to a deli together and pack a picnic, then take a hike.
Take a cooking class together, food and an activity.
Bike to a destination, lunch, then bike home.
I'd probably date more if more dates were like this. I know a nice dinner out is meant as a compliment, but it is also a recipe for disaster as two people meet and make forced polite conversation. I need to connect to my date.
I don't care who drives, really nothing particular, just don't make any assumptions.
surprises suck
I am pretty split INTP/INTJ. I think of it as though I am INTJ professionally and INTP personally.You sure your INTP?
The difference in last letter actually rearranges the entire cognitive ladder:I am pretty split INTP/INTJ. I think of it as though I am INTJ professionally and INTP personally.
INTP me doesn't date, I expect to trip over the love of my life, but I am not certain I would notice if I did.
never would happen for one, I'm married, but just pretending I'm an INTP that isn't:I am very curious about INTPs and dating. So I am left with this question for the INTP women.
Assuming we were to go out on a date -
1. Where would we go?
2. Who is driving?
3. Any special requirements?
Yeah this is me basically. I prefer to never acknowledge to them that it's going to be a "date"(whatever that is). I just ask a girl if she wants to hang out and do something fun. Being outside somewhere we can just chill or engage in some unique adventure we've never experienced before. It's cool to be friends with no strings attached, and if something happens ...sweet, if not, fuck if I care. Your fantasy worlds will never leave you.I don't really go on dates. I wouldn't say I've ever been in a significant long term relationship, but the couple small ones I had it was more we became really good friends then all of a sudden it was like "Huh....we're kind of together now aren't we?" "Yup"
I am very curious about INTPs and dating. So I am left with this question for the INTP women.
Assuming we were to go out on a date -
1. Where would we go?
2. Who is driving?
3. Any special requirements?
Deep/Insightful and honest is good, but yeah, not a lot of general mush that could apply to anyone in any situation and has been the topic of greeting cards.INTPs really don't like mushy stuff! Is what I've learnt
I think that may only apply to 'mature' INTPs. Seems like the immature ones try to run away from talking about feelings as much as possible. In my experience, anyway. :-/Deep/Insightful and honest is good, but yeah, not a lot of general mush that could apply to anyone in any situation and has been the topic of greeting cards.
Yes, true. And you get a contrast between Type 5 SP intps vs the Type 5 SX intps, in like vein.I think that may only apply to 'mature' INTPs. Seems like the immature ones try to run away from talking about feelings as much as possible. In my experience, anyway. :-/
Yesss, I know what you mean! Luckily for you guys, the answer lies in the ever-understanding INFJ. We really do understand emotions and feelings a little too well, and will happily engage in conversations about them without criticising We only ask that the thinkers of the world refrain from enforcing the 'T' a little too rigidly!! :happy:Yes, true. And you get a contrast between Type 5 SP intps vs the Type 5 SX intps, in like vein.
I found a big distinction there still in discussing "deep thoughts / deep passions," too, and having to learn how to describe my current emotion state without embarrassment or being dismissive of it in some way. A lot of emotions and feelings get rationalized away as irrelevant, by nature, and sometimes others who do express those things can at first get labeled as emo or unstable.
One reason I really love my INFJ friends is that they make a wonderful bridge between the two worlds. Definite Feeler types, but usually they can understand exactly where I'm coming from and articulate it in "Thinker speech," if that makes sense. Very quick to follow and understand. And I think that goes in reverse too....Yesss, I know what you mean! Luckily for you guys, the answer lies in the ever-understanding INFJ. We really do understand emotions and feelings a little too well, and will happily engage in conversations about them without criticising We only ask that the thinkers of the world refrain from enforcing the 'T' a little too rigidly!! :happy:
I'm not big on the whole contemporary concept of dating, I'm too casual. I just don't care for it.I am very curious about INTPs and dating. So I am left with this question for the INTP women.
Assuming we were to go out on a date -
1. Where would we go?
2. Who is driving?
3. Any special requirements?