If you're in the "Let me explain" camp, go on then.
So that's the opposite of actual behavior then.I just voted for what I believe to be the theoretically correct answer which is no. I don't see how holding grudges can be a healthy thing. It just makes you mad and emotional and less able to deal with people. Its not a great mindset to be in and personally I try not to hold grudges, otherwise I would just be pissed off at everyone all the time.
they fade with time and inward reflection, I forgive everyone eventually...
I voted let me explain: which I shall do:
Generally no, I really don't care about..... anything really, now on a rare occasion, if someone pisses me off to such an extreme I will usually not say anything at the time of incident then go home and plot against the person for about 4 hours or so then the next day forget about it.
This, that and the other.I forgive, but I don't forget. I don't mind people making genuine mistakes and innocent mishaps, everybody does that, but I'm good at seeing patterns, and when they don't learn from their mistakes and keep repeating unhealthy behaviors even though it's hurting me or someone else, then I start to distance myself from said people.
Not only that, but she's not safe to engage. It could just place you in a precarious position.A fine example of one of the inhabitants of my quarantine zone a manager at my workplace. She is self-centered and dramatic. Everything is worthy of a nuclear meltdown, and blame starts flying in every direction but hers. She constantly throws other employees under the bus in order to improve her standing with her superiors. I have observed this behavior from her for quite a while, and if I am to be perfectly honest, I deem her as unworthy of my attention or even empathy. Her actions and demeanor come close to sickening me, and I can't see why one would act in such an immature manner... especially considering her age.
I actually have a few work relationships just like that. It simply makes sense, and it's not like we're required to be close friends with everyone we meet or work with anyway.We don't speak to each other or interact beyond what we need to communicate for work; we keep a respectable distance from each other, and that is close to the ideal situation.
What does it mean, to forgive but not forget? If you remember it what significance is the memory in this context?I forgive, but I don't forget. I don't mind people making genuine mistakes and innocent mishaps, everybody does that, but I'm good at seeing patterns, and when they don't learn from their mistakes and keep repeating unhealthy behaviors even though it's hurting me or someone else, then I start to distance myself from said people.
I don't think I've ever held a grudge for more than say, a week. I certainly understand why people do, though. I've probably just had it too easy; life needs to give me an ass kicking at some point. :kitteh:grudge
A persistent feeling of ill will or resentment resulting from a past insult or injury.