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As an INTP, what are your greatest weaknesses? And how have they affected your life?
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I may be speaking for myself... But

Always second guessing myself.
Having a hard time finishing the things i start.
Having a hard time giving direct anwsers to people. I find my self using the word "Maybe" alot, which i get alot of heat over.
Anything i draw/make never seems done.
:crazy:

There're lots more that im forgetting..
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- Not being able to express myself the right way when I'm in a group.
- Getting angry over nothing.
- Not being able to stick to the facs and "live in the present".
- Always thinking I did something wrong and thinking what went wrong and where I messed up.

Some main weaknesses... :mellow:
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* Forgetting to do daily rountie chores around the house looking like a complete idiot but I try to explain I have a bunch of important theories going on. - Which I believe come before making my bed.

* Second guessing

* Not staying with a project, I fear not having a good carrer because I will move around in wasting time. I want a stable carrer where I can still be open to all my wonderful theories.

*Anxiety increase my Symapthy causing me to be un rational with basic logic. This is probably my biggest weakness.
This usually only happen in big groups or people who our just uncomfortable to be around.
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Seems like "Second guessing" is going to be mentioned in every single post here, and I'm not any different.
Oh, and procrastination, my notorious inability to express emotion and overall forgetfulness are also on my list.
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I was going to write second guessing, but now I'm second guessing that...

seriously though, I wouldn't say it was one of my top weakness
- procrastination
- following through getting things done
- relating to people
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I usually have great ideas, but I can never puck up to share them. I usually don't have confidence in myself. I torture myself for mistakes I have made in the past (yep, "second-guessing"), although this decreased recently. All in all though, I like to focus on my strengths :tongue:.
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Seems like "Second guessing" is going to be mentioned in every single post here, and I'm not any different.
There's good reason for that. If we never stopped to second guess ourselves and reappraise our thoughts, beliefs, and actions, we would be completely different people. It's a byproduct of a mind that never stops churning through ideas. Actually, now that I think about it, if we never stopped to second guess ourselves, there's a decent chance we'd be ENTPs instead. At least if that was our natural starting point rather than something we grew into. In my opinion, it's only a weakness until you start using it to your advantage.

My biggest weaknesses probably involve my complete lack of musical aptitude and fashion sense. I frequently, literally, dress myself in the dark. Luckily, most of my casual day to day stuff works interchangeably (to the best of my limited knowledge).
My biggest weaknesses are:

-not being able to relate to people (especially when it comes to emotions)
-not trusting people
-a quick temper
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Because I also hate being redundant, I am just going to quote most of the things here... :tongue:

Always second guessing myself.
Having a hard time finishing the things i start.
Having a hard time giving direct anwsers to people. I find my self using the word "Maybe" alot, which i get alot of heat over.
Anything i draw/make never seems done.
My boss once called me, during a meeting, the "Poster Child for Ambivalence." I guess it was unprofessional, but I thought it was funny because he was right!

- Not being able to express myself the right way when I'm in a group.
- Not being able to stick to the facts and "live in the present".
- Always thinking I did something wrong and thinking what went wrong and where I messed up.
- procrastination
- following through getting things done
- relating to people
I usually have great ideas, but I can never puck up to share them.
I usually don't have confidence in myself.
I torture myself for mistakes I have made in the past
Yes, all this.

if it helps, I experienced it all most intensely in my teens and early 20's, but then being in relationships with others (marriage, kids, friends, workplace), I had to work through it and it helped me adjust and develop other parts of myself. So I will say that if you do not give up, and you allow yourself to be in situations you feel uncomfortable and work at it for awhile, things DO improve.

Many years later, I actually feel more empowered. I just ended a job where I had been for 12 years because I saw I needed to make a change and had some goals, and I worked hard, used checklists, interacted with people, self-promoted, made decisions, and got a job I really wanted that will be good for me. In the past, I would have been unable to do that, for many of the reasons described above. Nowadays I can still feel uncomfortable in those situations... but I can handle myself just fine and power through it.

I felt bad at relationships early in life; nowadays, I actually feel good at them. I also have a good sense of aesthetics; I've seen extremes in INTPs on this one, either the INTP seems completely dead to the aesthetic quality of things (I think that's a more Ti approach) or actually has a great big-picture sense of them (and this is a more Ne approach).
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My biggest weaknesses:

-Procrastination/avoidance
-Not having enough confidence in my abilities; being too modest when I should be selling my assets
-Being caught up in concepts and theories whilst failing to put my ideas into action
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-Not having enough confidence in my abilities; being too modest when I should be selling my assets
this one hits home for me. in both my creative life and career. i despise interviews for this reason.

for me, my procrastination is massive and all-encompassing. it affects my communication (which affects my relationships), the implementation of my ideas, my creative work, ability to relate to people and function in daily life... it's just all shades of ugly.

along with (gasp) second-guessing, self-sabotage, avoidance, inability to relate, and total ineptitude when it comes to living "in the present".
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- Distrust in people
- Off in another world so I forget what I'm doing at the moment
- Get very exited over new ideas that most find boring
- Correct peoples mistakes
- Procrastination/ Never finish anything
- General annoyance of people if I'm with them too long
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- I forgo sleep more often than I should. Sometimes I'll be in bed trying to sleep, and then an idea will pop into my head, and I'll jump out of bed to go do whatever it is until I'm satisfied. Or I'll be doing something and lose track of time, and then look out the window and realize the sun's starting to come up.

- Procrastination. Though for some reason it tends to work to my advantage..

- I can be a little absent-minded. Often I'll walk into a room and forget what I wanted.

- I am messy. My mom, when I lived with her, was a neat freak. She needed everything spotless, otherwise she went nuts. She wanted me to clean my room every week, have everything organized, and she never understood how I could find everything I needed. She'd always say, "Girls are not supposed to be messy! They're supposed to want everything tidy and pretty!" We usually get along well, just not when it comes to that.

- I am horrible at comforting others when they're upset. I get very awkward and want to run out of the room.

- Sometimes I can get easily irritated at things. For example, my younger sister is a permanently-cheerful person, and when I am around her she will hum annoying happy tunes all day until I feel like exploding.

- If I know what someone issaying is incorrect, it's impossible for me to keep my mouth shut. Thus I can come off as looking like a smartass. I just can't help it.

- I am also awkward around babies. My older sister had a baby a few months ago, and while everyone else is cooing at it, I'll be standing off to the side staring. Sometimes they'll shove the baby into my arms and tell me to talk to it, and I'm thinking, What the hell am I supposed to say?

- I drink a lot of coffee. A lot.

- I need a lot of space, and sometimes people don't get that, so I tend to "push people away", as my sister once said.

- I often become obsessed with something, an idea or whatever, and that is all I will be able to think about. Then a few days later, all interest fades, and I will get obsessed with something else.

- Sometimes when I am more social than usual, I'll be talking to people, and everything will be going fine, but then I'll start talking about something I find interesting and they'll be like, "huh?" So then I'll retreat back into myself. :unsure:


I have a lot more weaknesses, but these are things off the top of my head that I could definitely improve on.
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Making decisions about things which I could really care less.
Making decisions about things which I could really care less.
oh yes that's a big one!
- Procrastinating
- Lack of verbal communication skills
- Dislike of teamwork
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i can relate to so many things in this thread.....and yet i am too lazy to point out which ones. how INTP of me. :tongue:
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