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For an INFP, feeling cared for, like validating our feelings and caring about our feelings, is the utmost important thing we need from any close friendship or relationship. it's not easy to explain how you must care about our feelings, you kinda have to just know how to. We're not good at explaining our feelings in a logical way, we can sound far out and illogical and mumbo jumbo.I have a close INFP friend who almost broke off contact with me a month ago. From hearing her issues, the underlying thread seemed to be that she wasn't feeling very cared-for anymore. I do care about her a great deal, and I thought that was obvious. Maybe not. What kinds of things would help you know you mattered?
I would say if you really care about your INFP friend and want to show you care, take it on a step by step basis. We live more in the here and now, i would say ask for feedback everytime you see her or talk to her again, ask her if there was any misunderstandings from the last encounter, tell her you really want to make sure you didn't offend or hurt her in anyway because you care about her and value your friendship and don't want to lose friendship with her. Do this every single time you say Hi when you meet or talk again. Then you should start understanding her more as you do this and she opens up more to you, in time you will understand her a whole lot more, it may sound tiring to do, but if you really care about her and keeping her friendship, it's worth the time and feeling to invest to keep making sure you haven't offended or hurt her in anyway. Be gentle and tell her you really care, and be sincere and genuine, you can't fool an INFP, we are like born with a built in lie detector like what one of the other posters said, and we don't have to prove it, if we feel like ur lying to us or not being genuine or sincere, as long as we feel that, then that's the only proof we need, is our feelings. So it has to be sincere or it won't work with an INFP. Hypocrisy will not work with an INFP. Good Luck, INFP's will open up to you if they know you genuinely want to hear what they have to say and that you care.