[ivorynightgown]

Im an introvert and i feel inferior to extroverts. A group of extroverts sitting together (gossipping usually) really look like a tiger mouth to me, i never know how to be that 'cool' chick who can just walk up to the group and tap in the conversation like nobody's problem.

Any of you introverts feel the same?

~INFPian~

 

[ivorynightgown]

Why feel inferior to them? They aren't superior to you in any way, they just prefer to talk to others in a social environment whilst you prefer to be more introspective and be by yourself. The only possible reason you could have for feeling inferior is that you yourself wish to be extroverted - or more extroverted than you currently are - and if this is the case, I'm sure people will haev some good ideas on how to develop your Extroversion.

Hmm...im not sure if i want to be more extrovert than i already am, i think im content with my 'introvertness'. The main reason i feel inferior is because there have been instances where when i approach them, the momentum of their discussions becomes lower; as if there was a signal saying "i wasnt supposed to be here". Not sure if thats what they were thinking, but that what i was thinking ;p

 

[ivorynightgown]

definitely

That's cuz you are an INFP darling. It's ok. Hang out with me, and I will cover for you.

Haha! Yea i sure will hangout with u so that u can cover for me. But,what type of an ENTP who likes being seen hanging out with an an INFP?? i'll just make u look like a loser among the ENTPians hehe:dry:

 

[ivorynightgown]

Sometimes I just want to talk to one person in a group, but in order to approach them I have to bust in the group, which I really don't know how to do without feeling rude. It reminds me of when I used to jump rope with two other girls turning the rope. I rarely knew when to "jump in" without tripping, and then I screwed up the whole rhythm of the game.

And THAT's why I'm usually home with a book.:dry:

What an interesting analogy! You're rite, sometimes we dont know WHEN to jump in (without being rude) n we decide to just shy away

 

[ivorynightgown]

same!

I have an ENTP friend and when we are in a group she steals the conversation and pretty much forgets about me. She's very talented in becoming a part of any conversation ^^ and I am just the opposite.


I have felt inferior to extroverts sometimes but yeah it's ridiculous. Honestly I don't really feel inferior but I get paranoid in groups or in public and I feel that everyone is judging me for being alone or not talking a lot. Most extroverts I have talked to do not understand introversion at all; they think I'm antisocial or just way too shy (I'm shy but not to the extreme).

That's my problem too, i always think everyone is judging me for being alone or not talking a lot :sad:

 

[ivorynightgown]

Usually I don't feel inferior to extroverts, but there are moments when they just overwhelm me. I think it's partially also because I think carefully before I say anything; it sometimes makes others think I am slow or stupid, and get treated like that.

sO TRUE!! I hate it too if people thinks im slow just because i think carefully before i say anything :sad: i just dont happen to be a fast thinker, i mean, i cant reply to a question the moment someone finishes his last syllable.if i do my answer may not be something i myself believe in n would be something i myself dont know wat im talking about

 

[ivorynightgown]

no not all all. we're equal to or greater than most of them

dont know why i can never bring myself to think like that. Oh wait, i know that im better than them in some academic subjects n i do public speaking WAAYYY better than them but, i willl still feel that THEY (the extroverts) are judging me for being a lone ranger, for not participating in groups..as if they're saying "probably no one wants to befriend her, she must think herself is too good for anyone"

 

[ivorynightgown]

Most of the time Extroverts piss me off so I don't get a chance to think about whether I feel inferior to them or not. Its like they always want me to chime in and say something just to say something. Personally, I've never loved hearing the sound of my own voice. I'll speak if I feel I can contribute something of value to the conversation.

Dear Batman cappuchino

As u may already notice, im INFP like u all but I REALLY want to know how you INFP siblings of mine can stay quiet during a brainstorming session, speaking only when u got a valuable thing to say.

When im in a brainstorming session, my 'Extrovertness' would struggle like hell to get loose, it just couldnt sit there quietly in my throat, it just want to get out. I dont need anybody to ask me to talk, i'll naturally talk and most of the time whatever i say is not THAT valuable, sometimes people accept it sometimes nobody cared. Usually my points are rejected because I fail to explain them with clarity and with confident to the team. People say im terrific in public speaking (when im talking alone at the front) but i have to admit that when it comes to convincing my team members in a brainstorming session/group work session, I suck big time and I'll usually be mad at myself for letting my Extrovertness got loose. Uusally i'll end up saying "I should have just be quiet". So i dont get it how all the other INFPs are ABLE to hold on to their Introvertness during a group discussion to the extent that people shout out to them 'Why ur so quiet??".. i never get such remark, coz i could never be so quiet. i just HAVE to talk despite knowing how bad i am at explaining the points (except when im standing in front on a stage, doing a pure public speaking).


HELP!