Introverts feel INFERIOR to Extroverts. True?

Away With Fairies said:

Sometimes I just want to talk to one person in a group, but in order to approach them I have to bust in the group, which I really don't know how to do without feeling rude. It reminds me of when I used to jump rope with two other girls turning the rope. I rarely knew when to "jump in" without tripping, and then I screwed up the whole rhythm of the game.

And THAT's why I'm usually home with a book.:dry:

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What an interesting analogy! You're rite, sometimes we dont know WHEN to jump in (without being rude) n we decide to just shy away

same!

xToXiCx said:

I have an ENTP friend and when we are in a group she steals the conversation and pretty much forgets about me. She's very talented in becoming a part of any conversation ^^ and I am just the opposite.


I have felt inferior to extroverts sometimes but yeah it's ridiculous. Honestly I don't really feel inferior but I get paranoid in groups or in public and I feel that everyone is judging me for being alone or not talking a lot. Most extroverts I have talked to do not understand introversion at all; they think I'm antisocial or just way too shy (I'm shy but not to the extreme).

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That's my problem too, i always think everyone is judging me for being alone or not talking a lot :sad:

I wouldn't say that I feel "inferior" to extroverts. I'm just really shy (especially around new people), and I get pretty uncomfortable around them. Unless I really know/like them, I'll just shy away.

Nixu said:

Usually I don't feel inferior to extroverts, but there are moments when they just overwhelm me. I think it's partially also because I think carefully before I say anything; it sometimes makes others think I am slow or stupid, and get treated like that.

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sO TRUE!! I hate it too if people thinks im slow just because i think carefully before i say anything :sad: i just dont happen to be a fast thinker, i mean, i cant reply to a question the moment someone finishes his last syllable.if i do my answer may not be something i myself believe in n would be something i myself dont know wat im talking about

it really depends on my mood and if i have anything worth saying/adding to the conversation. im not afraid to jump in and talk, i just choose to sit back and observe. i dont always want to be caught up in the conversation to the point where im not paying as much attention to my surroundings, so i'll say things every now and then to keep up but I dont have the need to talk talk talk....i could tho, i can be pretty talkative sometimes lol. it can be overwhelming though, during those times i just zone out and daydream or pay attention to something else.

SenhorFrio said:

no not all all. we're equal to or greater than most of them

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dont know why i can never bring myself to think like that. Oh wait, i know that im better than them in some academic subjects n i do public speaking WAAYYY better than them but, i willl still feel that THEY (the extroverts) are judging me for being a lone ranger, for not participating in groups..as if they're saying "probably no one wants to befriend her, she must think herself is too good for anyone"

I used to feel inferior but now I realise that a lot of extraverts are very insecure..some have problems if they are not in a big enough group - I feel sorry for them. It seems to me to be easier to be an introvert and socialise than the other way around
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I wouldn't say I feel inferior to them at all but I HATE it when people say things like "hey feel free to jump in at any time" (being sarcastic) <---- this one REALLY irritates me, or "hey calm down" or any statement thats meant to try and force me out of my shell. I will talk when I want to, if I want to and when I'm comfortable doing so. Until that time just let me sit back, observe, take it all in and get a feel for the situation or person and leave me alone! And just because I am not speaking or in a crowd full of people laughing and smiling does not mean I am not having a good time or dislike anyone in the group. Basically, STOP TRYING TO MAKE BE AN EXTRAVERT!!!!

Rant: Being an introvert is easier than being an extrovert!

But I'm not THAT much loud and overly talkative o.o I think o.o

Most of the time Extroverts piss me off so I don't get a chance to think about whether I feel inferior to them or not. Its like they always want me to chime in and say something just to say something. Personally, I've never loved hearing the sound of my own voice. I'll speak if I feel I can contribute something of value to the conversation.

Coco said:

Rant: Being an introvert is easier than being an extrovert!

But I'm not THAT much loud and overly talkative o.o I think o.o

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Really? How so? I've never really thought about it from that point of view

My sister's an extrovert and she makes it look effortless. she comes home when she gets the occasional whim to be by herself and within an hour or so is back out hanging with old friends and making new ones. She has left me an open invitation to come with her to hang out with people, but i always end up not knowing what to say and feeling like an alien in a crowded room (especially when contrasted with her social butterfly-ness!)

cappuccinocool said:

Most of the time Extroverts piss me off so I don't get a chance to think about whether I feel inferior to them or not. Its like they always want me to chime in and say something just to say something. Personally, I've never loved hearing the sound of my own voice. I'll speak if I feel I can contribute something of value to the conversation.

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they piss you off? Weird. I mean, i've know a girl that was an extrovert that really pissed me off but i've never attributed that feeling to the lot of them. In fact, i usually have liked the one's i've crossed paths with. Maybe it's because I admire that trait, or maybe it's because i just don't understand it so it fascinates me, either way i don't usually get pissed off at them unless there are other contributing factors.

GailStrife said:

they piss you off? Weird. I mean, i've know a girl that was an extrovert that really pissed me off but i've never attributed that feeling to the lot of them

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Yeah a few of them do. They always ask that annoying question too:

Why are you so quiet?



Well maybe you guys need to talk about something halfway interesting?? Maybe I'll chime in then.

cappuccinocool said:

Yeah a few of them do. They always ask that annoying question too:

Why are you so quiet?



Well maybe you guys need to talk about something halfway interesting?? Maybe I'll chime in then.

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hm... well, i'm a girl so i've noticed people translate my quietness as a cute charm. I suppose they might guess different motives for a boy which would make those statements come off as more hostile or annoying.

Yeah you get a pass. As a guy I'm kind of expected to be all "in your face", loud talking, and braggadocios.

cappuccinocool said:

Yeah you get a pass. As a guy I'm kind of expected to be all "in your face", loud talking, and braggadocios.

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I've always preferred the quiet, mysterious types anyway
(not that I'd ever have the guts to go up and start a conversation with one.)

cappuccinocool said:

Most of the time Extroverts piss me off so I don't get a chance to think about whether I feel inferior to them or not. Its like they always want me to chime in and say something just to say something. Personally, I've never loved hearing the sound of my own voice. I'll speak if I feel I can contribute something of value to the conversation.

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Dear Batman cappuchino

As u may already notice, im INFP like u all but I REALLY want to know how you INFP siblings of mine can stay quiet during a brainstorming session, speaking only when u got a valuable thing to say.

When im in a brainstorming session, my 'Extrovertness' would struggle like hell to get loose, it just couldnt sit there quietly in my throat, it just want to get out. I dont need anybody to ask me to talk, i'll naturally talk and most of the time whatever i say is not THAT valuable, sometimes people accept it sometimes nobody cared. Usually my points are rejected because I fail to explain them with clarity and with confident to the team. People say im terrific in public speaking (when im talking alone at the front) but i have to admit that when it comes to convincing my team members in a brainstorming session/group work session, I suck big time and I'll usually be mad at myself for letting my Extrovertness got loose. Uusally i'll end up saying "I should have just be quiet". So i dont get it how all the other INFPs are ABLE to hold on to their Introvertness during a group discussion to the extent that people shout out to them 'Why ur so quiet??".. i never get such remark, coz i could never be so quiet. i just HAVE to talk despite knowing how bad i am at explaining the points (except when im standing in front on a stage, doing a pure public speaking).


HELP!

I'm also an INFP. I don't feel inferior to them in any way, except I wish I had the social skills to use when I need to. in fact, I feel a weeny-bit superior to them.

GailStrife said:

I've always preferred the quiet, mysterious types anyway
(not that I'd ever have the guts to go up and start a conversation with one.)

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introverts don't care if you do, but warning, we won't know what to say. so no small talk.

Not at all. It's more of the T&A thing, (turbulent vs. assertive . . . just in case your mind went somewhere else). There was a time I felt like I should be that person who wants to be more social, but now I just see it as purely a preference thing, and am happy with who I am.