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Lately I've noticed that there is a certain type of person that irritates me. It took me a while to put my finger on what was irritating me so much, but finally I realized that these other women are simply confident and covertly competitive. I wouldn't even say they are arrogant, confidence's ugly sister, but still there are certain commonalities that these people share that I seriously don't like. They are for the most part nice people, but it is hard for me to get past the aforementioned attitude. Lately it seems like most of my friends are this way (do I attract these types?) and are of different MBTIs.
They seem very proud of their skills/talents to the point that they talk about them all the time while they show zero interest in my skill/interests/talents. They love to receive compliments and act as if they already know what you say is true and neglect to ever give you compliments (they may sneak in a backhanded compliment once in a while). Their actions are kind and generous on a community level and most people see them as 'good' people. Sometimes (true for the teachers especially) they will be slightly condescending and will offer to teach you their particular area of expertise, will be visibly hurt if you don't want to learn from them and will show no interest in learning anything from me. They seem to look bothered if somebody appears to have the same skills as they do. Usually their mothers think their adult age daughters are extremely special and they were raised with that belief. I feel like I'm always supporting them, asking about how their jobs are going and so forth and yet I don't get any of that in return. They never voice their insecurities, but when something appears to make them feel insecure their facial expression changes and that's about it.
They seem very proud of their skills/talents to the point that they talk about them all the time while they show zero interest in my skill/interests/talents. They love to receive compliments and act as if they already know what you say is true and neglect to ever give you compliments (they may sneak in a backhanded compliment once in a while). Their actions are kind and generous on a community level and most people see them as 'good' people. Sometimes (true for the teachers especially) they will be slightly condescending and will offer to teach you their particular area of expertise, will be visibly hurt if you don't want to learn from them and will show no interest in learning anything from me. They seem to look bothered if somebody appears to have the same skills as they do. Usually their mothers think their adult age daughters are extremely special and they were raised with that belief. I feel like I'm always supporting them, asking about how their jobs are going and so forth and yet I don't get any of that in return. They never voice their insecurities, but when something appears to make them feel insecure their facial expression changes and that's about it.