Let me explain that I am aware that what one wants as a fantasy or an imagining is different than what one would want in reality.
For example, sometimes I get horny for my cousin. That doesn't mean I want to smash with her though.
So given that...I thought about it, being prompted by others on the forum in other discussions, and the truth is this.
FOR SOME PEOPLE FANTASY IS REALITY!
Let me explain, some of us believe in a spiritual tradition or religious code - A FANTASY. Some of us believe in what science describes as reality - BORDERLINE FANTASY (BUST MOST LIKELY FANTASY).
The truth is there is a spectrum of fantasy to sensate reality, and even sesnate reality is technically fantasy, albeit one that is a bit more sensible than unicorn dicks living on planet nemu.
That being said...The old adage that FANTASY IS NOT REALITY, doesn't really hold any ground.
The best we can say is..."Yeah I have fantasies of being raped...but it doesn't mean I want your dick in me physically. Maybe this thing in my head that makes images is another reality though, and in that one, please do rape me."
You can't really get better than that...unless you can. Discuss.