Long story short, I'm (or rather, I was) in a relationship with a man who has a lot of problems. I'm not a psychologist, so it's hard to tell whats going on, but the relationship with him is like a roller-coster ride. Anyway...
The last time it happened that he stopped calling me, after I told him that I'm going to his country in few weeks. Firstly, he got angry because he cannot come to my country because he has no money for it. After that, he didn't come to agreed Skype meeting and he didn't apologized. Then I wrote him an email, telling him that I'm not going to stay at his apartment all the time when I will come so he doesn't have to worry and I also asked him what's going on, if he is still alive. He answered that "everything is ok" and that I can stay at his apartment when I will be there. (???)
And this is weird. I've already lived in his apartment in past and he knows very well that it was complicated.
1) we both like our own space
2) he does Airbnb, so sometimes he has Airbnb guests. for me it is pretty uncomfortable since I don't know when he will have reservation and when I will have to sleep on his mattress (yes, he doesn't have a proper bed) or when he will "kick" me out.
I already told him many times when we talked about me coming there: "next time I will be in the city, I won't stay at your place, because it's always too much and we both like our own space." He always repeat: "you can stay here."
And it's over here again. Now he communicates with me via emails only (= answering my emails). Because he lives in a good place which is available from the airport and because I'm coming at night, I asked him if I can stay at his apartment only the FIRST night after my arrival (that it would be very helpful for me).
His answer: "I told you you can stay here all the time. I don't have Airbnb guests often, only on the weekends sometimes."
And this is the thing I really cannot understand. Why does he insist on me living at his place, if he stopped calling me, he is detached, answers my emails after one day and especially, if he knows that it's not comfortable for me and he needs his space?
And the second thing: I saw that he already has one weekend booked on Airbnb. But he said nothing about it to me. in normal communication, I would expect something like: you can stay here, BUT the first weekend you will be there I have some guests. No. He only said: I have the guests only at the weekends SOMETIMES, but he already knows WHEN!
What's going on here?
The last time it happened that he stopped calling me, after I told him that I'm going to his country in few weeks. Firstly, he got angry because he cannot come to my country because he has no money for it. After that, he didn't come to agreed Skype meeting and he didn't apologized. Then I wrote him an email, telling him that I'm not going to stay at his apartment all the time when I will come so he doesn't have to worry and I also asked him what's going on, if he is still alive. He answered that "everything is ok" and that I can stay at his apartment when I will be there. (???)
And this is weird. I've already lived in his apartment in past and he knows very well that it was complicated.
1) we both like our own space
2) he does Airbnb, so sometimes he has Airbnb guests. for me it is pretty uncomfortable since I don't know when he will have reservation and when I will have to sleep on his mattress (yes, he doesn't have a proper bed) or when he will "kick" me out.
I already told him many times when we talked about me coming there: "next time I will be in the city, I won't stay at your place, because it's always too much and we both like our own space." He always repeat: "you can stay here."
And it's over here again. Now he communicates with me via emails only (= answering my emails). Because he lives in a good place which is available from the airport and because I'm coming at night, I asked him if I can stay at his apartment only the FIRST night after my arrival (that it would be very helpful for me).
His answer: "I told you you can stay here all the time. I don't have Airbnb guests often, only on the weekends sometimes."
And this is the thing I really cannot understand. Why does he insist on me living at his place, if he stopped calling me, he is detached, answers my emails after one day and especially, if he knows that it's not comfortable for me and he needs his space?
And the second thing: I saw that he already has one weekend booked on Airbnb. But he said nothing about it to me. in normal communication, I would expect something like: you can stay here, BUT the first weekend you will be there I have some guests. No. He only said: I have the guests only at the weekends SOMETIMES, but he already knows WHEN!
What's going on here?