Is my friend an INFJ

jetplane48 said:

I have to keep reminding her to stare into my eyes so we can have a proper convo but either way, maybe she's doing erratic eye movement because she's nervous maybe?

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missy12 said:

Hmm, Sorry if I'm not much help, but as INFJ, if someone is talking to me, I normally have no problem keep eye contact even with someone I like. But I do it mostly because I feel it's the polite thing to do. I would say I'm a pretty laid back person, but I wouldn't say that I'm never serious. A lot of people say at times, perhaps I'm too serious. People also say a lot of the time I appear "aloof", but truthfully I'm just constantly observing people around me. Though the other things you said, I wouldn't think it necessarily applies to INFJ. My brother is INTJ, though. He too might appear aloof. But his aloof look also looks like a death glare... But I think you'd have to explain more about her to really know whether she is INFJ or INTJ.

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ivagrey said:

Yeah she's nervous because you're telling her to STARE into your eyes! haha

I don't make a lot of eye contact when I first meet a person--especially a person who is trying to get to know me on a deeper level--because eyes are definitely the window to the soul and I don't want people to see what I'm thinking until I trust them. I would say that could be an INFJ characteristic.

If you're an ESTP who's into MBTI (so you have a brain) and she's an INFJ, sparks will fly INFJ chicks are absolutely fascinated by ESTP guys (at least INFJs who are exploring their Se are). You drive loud cars and do crazy things for the thrill of it. You're the living embodiment of what we are too afraid to be--a personification of our wild, emotional side that no one can see. Just don't scare her off by coming across as brash, fake, or arrogant (which is what we absolutely hate) and she may begin to trust you and open up. And let me tell you, if you become more than friends, the physical relationship will be pretty awesome ...

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jetplane48 said:

Well personally, I love eye contact. Yeah, I know that telling her to gaze into my eyes is corny but what she doesn't know is all the other things I'm doing such as brushing her skin with my hand, or running my hand through her hair or stuff like that. I'm not a pickup artist, I just know how to play my game. The eye contact is just the icing on top. I love it! I can't wait for the sex if that's what you were alluding to. She is really talented actually, she was scratching my skin really softly but erotically. Never had that happen to me before, maybe because I'm still young and inexperienced but it seemed like she knew what she was doing.

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jetplane48 said:

Hello my fellow humans, hows it going?

To get to the point, I wanna know if y'all can help me type a new friend I made. I really like this girl and I'm sure she likes me back because we set up a date. I've known her for a couple weeks now and we just met this morning (midnight) and under the circumstances, it was a really eventful night We chatted at a park where it's nice and quiet and yeahhhhh. That was just a back story.

Anyway, lemme describe her:

-She seems really flighty and aloof
-Is a laid back person
-Seems to worry alot about her appearance even though shes fine
-she seems to lead with Ni (or at least what I think she leads with. If you guys can, how does a lead Ni user interact with users)
-She says shes INTJ but I have a feeling that she isn't.
-Eye contact. She's really bad at it. I have to keep reminding her to stare into my eyes so we can have a proper convo but either way, maybe she's doing erratic eye movement because she's nervous maybe?
-She seems confident in her strut and posture
-She doesn't seem like a very serious person
-I'm a bit confused if shes really an introvert or extrovert. Maybe an ambivert
-She really enjoys psychology and understanding the human mind (just like me! whaddya know)
-She is well educated in her speech, talks with high indignation as if trying to be condescending but I know I'm her equal.

I don't know what else to describe. If you guys have anymore ideas for me to post, I would be glad to respond! I really wanna understand her! Shes such a QT3.14 :tongue:

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Yikes said:

I tend to stare aside as I speak. It helps to form thoughts and deliver them when the other person's face doesn't distract me. I sort of need space to think. If I look at the person as I talk about something forming in my mind, Fe+Se take over as I notice how the other person takes the info I'm giving.

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ivagrey said:

Just take it easy, because I guarantee you, any game you got going on, she can see right through. She's just too polite to say anything. And if she thinks you're being fake or trying to manipulate her, she will be gone in an instant. Let her come to you and appreciate you for who you really are. And yes I was talking about sex and it will be well worth your patience. INFJs love to please and there is nothing like seeing an INFJ be deeply gratified.

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TreasureTower said:

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According to Cognitive Types, usually people with Si in their functional stack he difficulty making eye contact. Have you considered the possibility of either INTP, INFP, ISTJ or ISFJ?[/QUOTEs
Yes, I've considered ISTJ and ISFJ although I believe she has Ni in her dom stack. She is so eerie in her speech, very incoherent and doesn't make sense but then again, it could just be me.

Yikes said:

She might be an INFJ. Doesn't sound like an INTJ imo.
I'm bad at eye contact, when it comes to real conversations. I tend to stare aside as I speak. It helps to form thoughts and deliver them when the other person's face doesn't distract me. I sort of need space to think. If I look at the person as I talk about something forming in my mind, Fe+Se take over as I notice how the other person takes the info I'm giving. If there is an unwanted or surprising expression on their face, my concentration explodes and vapors in the air.

If I already know what I'm talking about (by heart), it's a lot easier to make eye contact.

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Well defintely she isn't INTJ. Like I said, ISFJ or ISTJ or INFJ. I hope the latter because that would be awesome to have someone that can tame me but with finesse. It seems like she is deep in thought when she talks to me, like her mind is somewhere else so I kinda thought that meant she was leading with Ni?

kadda1212 said:

I think, it's nearly impossible to draw a conclusion about her type from the information you have provided.
But she said, that she's an INTJ. So she probably took the test and got that result. Well, maybe you could have asked her if she knows what makes her an INTJ. Maybe she's sure about being Ni dominant and also using Te.
So, if you really want to know more about her type, you should ask her when you meet her. Seems like she's interested in psychology and thus it wouldn't that awkward to ask her about Myers-Briggs types and discuss that. She might even be more interested about you and your type and you could give her something to think about.

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In fact, I did! we had a 10 minute discussion about her type and why she doesn't pan out to be INTJ but more along the lines of INFJ, ISTJ and ISFJ. She is so cute so I don't think shes ISTJ (jk haha but no really). She knows about the MBTI, been studying it for a month then got bored of it compared to me who has been studying it for 3 years now. Anyway, when I told her INFJs and ESTPs are duals, she reacted really positively so I'm glad!

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