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Hello, ISFPs 
I need some help typing my mother, who I originally typed to be an INFP...after having her take another test tonight, though, I found out that she tests as an ISFP. She's very close on N and S, and I'm not sure which type fits her more.
I've noticed that she is not very much like the ENFPs that I know. She has some similar qualities, but something is off.
I'm thinking that, maybe, that is because she is actually an ISFP instead.
The problem is this: I don't know any ISFPs, and I know very little about them!
Here's some things about my mom:
-She is very stubborn about her opinions, but in a very passive way. She rarely comes out and says what she does or doesn't want, but instead will just quietly not listen.
-She hates conflict, but also hates being pushed around. If it comes down to it, she'll tell someone off, but it takes a lot for her to get to that point.
-She thinks of herself as very rational and logical, but (from an INFJ's point of view, at least) she is very emotional and subjective. She has a hard time separating people from the issue...so if she doesn't like someone, nothing they do is right.
-She has a lot of empathy for people, and will often say that she feels bad for someone in the same conversation in which she talks badly about them! Things like, "I feel so sorry for her. She must be so unhappy living life like that."
-She is very protective of the people she loves, and will take their side sometimes without really stepping back to be objective on the issue.
-She is very pleasant in social situations, and can hold small talk well, but doesn't like it much. People say that, on first impression, she seems shy and nice.
-She has a killer sense of humor, and thinks just about everything is funny.
-She doesn't understand people who are verbally harsh, selfish or manipulative, and is very critical of them for their behavior.
-She is easily embarrassed and very aware of what others think. My dad (an ENTJ) often talks too loud or says too much, and she practically dies of embarrassment.
-She is very introverted and needs a lot of alone time.
-She is very deeply emotional but internalizes it instead of dealing with it.
-When she is under a lot of stress or intense emotional strain, she becomes very critical and irrational. She is (by far) the most illogical person I have ever known under these situations. Her emotions get the best of her and she simply can not see past them. She also becomes very cruel verbally and says unthinkable things simply to hurt the other person- even things she doesn't really mean.
-She thinks of herself as a very charitable and self-sacrificing person. I do see her put others' needs above herself often, so I can see how she comes to that conclusion.
-She cares about other people and analyzes them, but often does not speak her mind when it comes to helping them solve their problems. She prefers to let them figure it out themselves, I think.
-She often feels taken advantage of, misunderstood and victimized.
-She is very stand-offish physically. She doesn't like to be touched, and she has a very large "personal space." She doesn't naturally hug, kiss or be physically affectionate. (Not sure if that's a personality thing...it really bothers me, though...)
-She is very fearful and paranoid. She thinks of worst-case scenarios often and worries a lot.
-When she is overwhelmed, she stops. Stops moving, stops thinking, stops functioning. She can no longer problem solve or think critically, and needs someone to come in and "take over," so to speak. It's like she throws up her hands and gives up, refusing to do anything else until she can function rationally again.
That's all I can think of for now.

I know that's a lot.
Do these sound like ISFP traits?
If not, what type do you think she might be?
(we know for sure that she is an IXXP, and I'm pretty positive she is also an F...but correct me if you think I'm wrong.)
Also, what are some "trademark" ISFP traits that most ISFPs have?
Thanks in advance!
I need some help typing my mother, who I originally typed to be an INFP...after having her take another test tonight, though, I found out that she tests as an ISFP. She's very close on N and S, and I'm not sure which type fits her more.
I've noticed that she is not very much like the ENFPs that I know. She has some similar qualities, but something is off.
I'm thinking that, maybe, that is because she is actually an ISFP instead.
The problem is this: I don't know any ISFPs, and I know very little about them!
Here's some things about my mom:
-She is very stubborn about her opinions, but in a very passive way. She rarely comes out and says what she does or doesn't want, but instead will just quietly not listen.
-She hates conflict, but also hates being pushed around. If it comes down to it, she'll tell someone off, but it takes a lot for her to get to that point.
-She thinks of herself as very rational and logical, but (from an INFJ's point of view, at least) she is very emotional and subjective. She has a hard time separating people from the issue...so if she doesn't like someone, nothing they do is right.
-She has a lot of empathy for people, and will often say that she feels bad for someone in the same conversation in which she talks badly about them! Things like, "I feel so sorry for her. She must be so unhappy living life like that."
-She is very protective of the people she loves, and will take their side sometimes without really stepping back to be objective on the issue.
-She is very pleasant in social situations, and can hold small talk well, but doesn't like it much. People say that, on first impression, she seems shy and nice.
-She has a killer sense of humor, and thinks just about everything is funny.
-She doesn't understand people who are verbally harsh, selfish or manipulative, and is very critical of them for their behavior.
-She is easily embarrassed and very aware of what others think. My dad (an ENTJ) often talks too loud or says too much, and she practically dies of embarrassment.
-She is very introverted and needs a lot of alone time.
-She is very deeply emotional but internalizes it instead of dealing with it.
-When she is under a lot of stress or intense emotional strain, she becomes very critical and irrational. She is (by far) the most illogical person I have ever known under these situations. Her emotions get the best of her and she simply can not see past them. She also becomes very cruel verbally and says unthinkable things simply to hurt the other person- even things she doesn't really mean.
-She thinks of herself as a very charitable and self-sacrificing person. I do see her put others' needs above herself often, so I can see how she comes to that conclusion.
-She cares about other people and analyzes them, but often does not speak her mind when it comes to helping them solve their problems. She prefers to let them figure it out themselves, I think.
-She often feels taken advantage of, misunderstood and victimized.
-She is very stand-offish physically. She doesn't like to be touched, and she has a very large "personal space." She doesn't naturally hug, kiss or be physically affectionate. (Not sure if that's a personality thing...it really bothers me, though...)
-She is very fearful and paranoid. She thinks of worst-case scenarios often and worries a lot.
-When she is overwhelmed, she stops. Stops moving, stops thinking, stops functioning. She can no longer problem solve or think critically, and needs someone to come in and "take over," so to speak. It's like she throws up her hands and gives up, refusing to do anything else until she can function rationally again.
That's all I can think of for now.
I know that's a lot.
Do these sound like ISFP traits?
If not, what type do you think she might be?
(we know for sure that she is an IXXP, and I'm pretty positive she is also an F...but correct me if you think I'm wrong.)
Also, what are some "trademark" ISFP traits that most ISFPs have?
Thanks in advance!