Is it common or natural for ISFJ's to feel uncomfortable to recieve things from others? Especially if the items you give maybe expensive? Or to even do things for them? Does not neccessarily have to do with money but just giving them a hand? Is it uncomfortable for some ISFJ's? I need your help on this topic ISFJ's.
I know a couple ISFJ's answered this, but I thought I'd say what I thought about it. I hope you don't mind. :happy:
I know I have a horrible time receiving gifts especially if they're expensive. I'm not sure why, but it makes me feel guilty to get something expensive because I'm afraid I'll never use the gift or think the money should have gone towards something different/better.
For example if I look in my closet and see some of the clothes my parents got me for Christmas and realize I hardly ever wear some of them and I feel guilty. Even if they're extremely ugly I feel bad for not wearing them because I think it hurts my parents' feelings or the money spent was wasted.
Then with the helping thing: I really love it when people help me as long as they aren't doing all of the work. But I'll hate it if I think they're helping me only because they think I'm incapable of doing the work myself. It also depends on what kind of work your helping me with. With some jobs I may feel like it's one of those "if you want it done right do it yourself" things and it really annoys more than helps if you're trying to "help" me.
I really do appreciate thoughtful help or gifts though. It makes me feel loved and like somebody cares. :happy: I really like if you get me a gift that you really put a lot of thought into and shows that you really know and listen to me.
Okay, I know this is a dumb example but hopefully it makes sense. Say I causally tell you my favorite type of chocolate is Ghirardelli Dark Chocolate with Raspberry Filling and randomly about a month later you get me that same exact chocolate bar that I told you about. That makes me feel like you really listen to me and know my likes/dislikes and take it to heart. But take the same example and say I told you about how I loved this chocolate you you go out the same day and get one for me. I'll feel guilty because I'll feel like you thought I hinted at it or pushed you into getting it for me. I'll hate that.
I love random little gifts though, it makes me feel like you care without feeling guilty, it just shows you appreciate me.
I hope I don't seem to picky in my post like you
have to ISFJ a certain thing in a certain situation, because I know I'm mainly really happy when somebody gets me a gift or helps. :happy:
Oh, also I want to say that not all ISFJ's may feel the way I do, everything I said is just my personal opinion.