Okay so its a well known fact that sex is a lot more physical for men than it is for women. Sex tends to be more emotional for women, but is it as emotional for thinking women as it is for feeling women?
When I was younger, I didn't care if there was an emotional connection or not. Now that I'm older, I need to have at least that infatuated feeling to want to engage them physically. Its not always about tender lovemaking for me.. well it rarely is. Its about passionate fucking. Its primal. I'm just not driven to feel that attraction to someone until I feel attracted to their personality, but in some instances its just an illusion that I have been attracted to.. not who they -really- are.True, but what about you? You are a thinking woman? Are you like that?
Yeah, that pretty much answered the question.When I was younger, I didn't care if there was an emotional connection or not. Now that I'm older, I need to have at least that infatuated feeling to want to engage them physically. Its not always about tender lovemaking for me.. well it rarely is. Its about passionate fucking. Its primal. I'm just not driven to feel that attraction to someone until I feel attracted to their personality, but in some instances its just an illusion that I have been attracted to.. not who they -really- are.
I'm not sure if that answers your question. But the mushy lovey stuff in bed is a turnoff.
I don't think this has anything to do with type. I have known intjs who can't thrill-fuck either.
Thanks for sharing this. Somehow, I think you're a very well-adjusted and -balanced individual. My sister and you remind me of each other, even though, yes, I only know your online persona. I think this is why I really love mature and well-rounded NT (esp INT cos I'm biased) women in general; you have the sharp intellect while not neglecting emotional intelligence. Anyway, sorry for the slight derail. Carry on!I can't get you a first person testimonial, but I assure you that I'm far more emotional about sex than my ENFP roommate is.
Are you a sexual variant?I'm rather odd when it comes to sex... haha.
First off, I'm not a very sexual person in general and usually say that I identify as 'grey-a' if anyone asks. It's more or less a subtype of asexuality. Here's a definition; I've explained it a handful of times elsewhere on the forums so I won't launch into a big long spiel again.
Anyway, just because of personal feelings and such, I'd never really consider having sex with someone I didn't have a deep emotional and intellectual connection with. That's just because it's an intimate activity, though -- there are lots of other non-sexual things that I consider intimate, and I wouldn't share them with someone I wasn't close to, either. Sexual activity itself, though... er, it doesn't have a whole lot to do with emotions for me. I can easily count on one hand the number of times that sex has made me feel deeply emotionally connected to the other person. More often than not, I feel rather detached during sex and empty afterwards. Mostly I prefer to just do things for my partner's enjoyment, without any focus on myself; that way, there's no expectation that I'm going to get something emotionally fulfilling out of it. It becomes more like a fun game that I get I play with someone's body. It's still something I'd do only with a person I cared for deeply, though.
For the record, I'm an INFP. I strongly get the impression that this is not really the norm for INFPs... but maybe that's just because of my tendency to identify with asexuality to some degree. Sex for me is just not very important compared to the other ways I could potentially connect with someone I have strong feelings for.
I keep getting different results for that... sometimes I get 'sexual' and sometimes I get 'self-preservation'; never 'social', though. I always test as 4w5, but the variants... well, they vary. Haha. I feel like my answers are generally consistent, but maybe my mood and thoughts at the time of taking the test influence the results more than I think. I dunno, really. I do relate strongly to the definition of the sexual variant, just... not in a literally sexual way.Are you a sexual variant?