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I like the idea of dating single mothers, then getting them to have their husbands (if they are still married) to have threesomes with me. I have a huge dick and it makes me feel good to humiliate the other men in the room.

I like gangbangs for this reason too, and swinging. I find that even if the other men have a slightly larger penis its never as fat as mine and this makes me feel like a silverback.

I find that no matter how much more muscular the other men are my huge cock makes them subservient to me.

Is this homoerotic ?
 

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I don't think it's homoerotic.
I think it strokes your ego, in a way that can be objectively measured. Most people love to stroke their ego.

This is obviously a guess, not something I can actually relate to.
 

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I like the idea of dating single mothers, then getting them to have their husbands (if they are still married) to have threesomes with me. I have a huge dick and it makes me feel good to humiliate the other men in the room.

I like gangbangs for this reason too, and swinging. I find that even if the other men have a slightly larger penis its never as fat as mine and this makes me feel like a silverback.

I find that no matter how much more muscular the other men are my huge cock makes them subservient to me.

Is this homoerotic ?
Straight answer: yes. Is it my opinion? nope, there is a difference in what we think and a real objective answer. My post is not related to your practices but the motivations. You explained pretty clearly the source of your enjoyment comes from humiliating the other men in the room, getting the impression they feel below because you have something "better". There is no explanation of clue here if those impressions are real (the other men feeling humiliated) or if it's just you getting a good feeling of the illusion they feel that way.

Anyway it's pretty clear you get good feelings due to other people feeling bad (because of you) and that's not good, that's very destructive, it means you need someone to feel bad for you to feel good, well it doesn't "mean" it is that way. The problem is nobody can have a sustainable growth while others get destroyed, besides what are you going to do when you face a guy that couldn't care less? or that has other qualities you can't compete or overcome with your dick? seems to me there are great insecurities in other areas of your personality. The dick anyway will work for some years.
 

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I don't think it's homoerotic.
I think it strokes your ego, in a way that can be objectively measured. Most people love to stroke their ego.

This is obviously a guess, not something I can actually relate to.
I also think there is something erotic about it like a work of art. Most people find the Mona Lisa beautiful, but to me, nothing sparks divine inspiration more than watching an erotic sexual experience unfold before me. It doesn't matter how attractive the individuals are, in fact the more normal looking the better.

But there is something about lurking in the corner with my huge member, stroking myself, and joining two strangers that gets me going like a turbine engine. I swear it's the only reason I succeed in life....the idea of raunchy sex motivates me to climb the corporate ladder.
 

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Straight answer: yes. Is it my opinion? nope, there is a difference in what we think and a real objective answer. My post is not related to your practices but the motivations. You explained pretty clearly the source of your enjoyment comes from humiliating the other men in the room, getting the impression they feel below because you have something "better". There is no explanation of clue here if those impressions are real (the other men feeling humiliated) or if it's just you getting a good feeling of the illusion they feel that way.

Anyway it's pretty clear you get good feelings due to other people feeling bad (because of you) and that's not good, that's very destructive, it means you need someone to feel bad for you to feel good, well it doesn't "mean" it is that way. The problem is nobody can have a sustainable growth while others get destroyed, besides what are you going to do when you face a guy that couldn't care less? or that has other qualities you can't compete or overcome with your dick? seems to me there are great insecurities in other areas of your personality. The dick anyway will work for some years.

I guess in a way, you could say that my objective actions are a product of some disturbing subjective realities, assuming I could even know my subjective state and verbalize it - a quite impossible feet since we are unaware of our unconcious motivations.

Read my post above though, and you might see that you are the one who is "subjectively" disturbed believing that your monogamous way of life is the only way, a ritual that has been part of a system of death and destruction and disease and exploitation to no abounds...think of all the deaths of the world due to war and multiply that by 1,000.

So in a way, if you really prick at the foundation of your own perspective, which seems to be that you think such sexual acts are deviant and that the subjective state of another is so easily evaluated, behaviorism, or eugenics, and reductionist mentalities such as that exhibited by dictators, at its finest, then perhaps you are subjectively as sick if not more than I.
 

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I also think there is something erotic about it like a work of art. Most people find the Mona Lisa beautiful, but to me, nothing sparks divine inspiration more than watching an erotic sexual experience unfold before me. It doesn't matter how attractive the individuals are, in fact the more normal looking the better.

But there is something about lurking in the corner with my huge member, stroking myself, and joining two strangers that gets me going like a turbine engine. I swear it's the only reason I succeed in life....the idea of raunchy sex motivates me to climb the corporate ladder.
Like the voyeuristic aspect? Like watching real life porn and then getting to join in?
 
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Like the voyeuristic aspect? Like watching real life porn and then getting to join in?
I don't really consider porn the avenue for it or the cause of its inception. Separate from that, there is an animal instinct in me, perhaps because I am quite the wolf myself, that desires to descend on a fresh lamb with a pack and please her to no end. It is as if, actually my ego is bolstered more by some astral realm beyond physical space, and sexuality for me itself, especially group based, is the highest art.

I don't see me as the only one like this...just one who is conscious of the fact that there is nothing more arousing than watching and partaking in the Dionysian rights.
 

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I don't really consider porn the avenue for it or the cause of its inception. Separate from that, there is an animal instinct in me, perhaps because I am quite the wolf myself, that desires to descend on a fresh lamb with a pack and please her to no end. It is as if, actually my ego is bolstered more by some astral realm beyond physical space, and sexuality for me itself, especially group based, is the highest art.

I don't see me as the only one like this...just one who is conscious of the fact that there is nothing more arousing than watching and partaking in the Dionysian rights.
Would you be aroused if you were the 'cuck' and another guy was the 'bull'? Or is your arousal dependent on you being the biggest and it being someone else's wife?
 

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Read my post above though, and you might see that you are the one who is "subjectively" disturbed believing that your monogamous way of life is the only way, a ritual that has been part of a system of death and destruction and disease and exploitation to no abounds...think of all the deaths of the world due to war and multiply that by 1,000.

So in a way, if you really prick at the foundation of your own perspective, which seems to be that you think such sexual acts are deviant and that the subjective state of another is so easily evaluated, behaviorism, or eugenics, and reductionist mentalities such as that exhibited by dictators, at its finest, then perhaps you are subjectively as sick if not more than I.
I see you have other issues as well. The word would be "stupid" and not as an insult, but as the meaning of lacking the ability to make sense of what is been said to you, if we were face to face I would friendly give you a poke on the head: read.

I was writing (but deleted it because it makes no sense), why? you will see at the end of the post. What was I writing? that I don't have negative views of such sexual practices. If you are into married women, single, single mothers, etc, that's a preference. If you are into orgies or threesomes, that's a preference. If you like to check the size of other men penises and compare it to yours, that's you and that's a preference. If you are a swinger, that's your preference. Preferences are personal. And I'm mature enough to separate my views of life, preferences and yours, I have no negative comments on this and I'm not trying to say what's political correct, or avoid offending you, in fact I have no intention to do so (offending you). If you were familiar with my post history you would know, but you are not (and you don't have to), I guess telling you the wide variety of friends who happen to have a wide variety of preferences would be of no use. You are defensive and lack the ability to focus on what's been said to you. Preferences are personal and I have no problem with that, even if you would happen to like getting 3 fingers up yours or just enjoying large breast women, it's you and there is nothing bad on it, its you and your preferences are yours, important to you, none of my business.

Your problem is not your practices (that's pretty clear on my post) is that you feed from a negative emotion felt by someone else, caused on purpose by you. I honestly, don't see the point of your answer, don't talk about subjective attitudes if you are just reacting like a child. You will try hard to find "wrong" interpretations on any answer that's not of your taste.

The problem: there are sexual practices based on "humilliation / domination" that are not real, in those cases both are doing something they like and is part of a game, roles, a mutual interaction of pleasure, I have nothing to say about it (even that I don't practice that myself). BUT... Your practice is based on looking to humilliate someone and get pleasure from it. You are a long way to go learning to see beyond your own words, this is the most meaningful comment I can tell you. And yes there is something wrong with you and is not your practices, it's the motivations behind it.
 

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I see you have other issues as well. The word would be "stupid" and not as an insult, but as the meaning of lacking the ability to make sense of what is been said to you, if we were face to face I would friendly give you a poke on the head: read.

I was writing (but deleted it because it makes no sense), why? you will see at the end of the post. What was I writing? that I don't have negative views of such sexual practices. If you are into married women, single, single mothers, etc, that's a preference. If you are into orgies or threesomes, that's a preference. If you like to check the size of other men penises and compare it to yours, that's you and that's a preference. If you are a winger, that's your preference. Preferences are personal. And I'm mature enough to separate my views of life, preferences and yours, I have no negative comments on this and I'm not trying to say what's political correct, or avoid offending you, in fact I have no intention to do so (offending you). If you were familiar with my post history you would know, but you are not (and you don't have to), I guess telling you the wide variety of friends who happen to have a wide variety of preferences would be of no use. You are defensive and lack the ability to focus on what's been said to you.

Your problem is not your practices (that's pretty clear on my post) is that you feed from a negative emotion felt by someone else, caused on purpose by you. I honestly, don't see the point of your answer, don't talk about subjective attitudes if you are just reacting like a child.

There are sexual practices based on "humilliation / domination" that are not real, in those cases both are doing something they like and is part of a game, roles, a mutual interaction of pleasure. Your practice is based on looking to humilliate someone and get pleasure from it. You are a long way to go learning to see beyond your own words, this is the most meaningful comment I can tell you. And yes there is something wrong with you and is not your practices, it's the motivations behind it.
I never implied anything about you to be honest. I used the words might and may which imply a certain probability based on an educated guess based on stats gathered about responses like yours but I never actually discretely stated any facts about you...did you read my post?
 

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Would you be aroused if you were the 'cuck' and another guy was the 'bull'? Or is your arousal dependent on you being the biggest and it being someone else's wife?
I would be aroused in either position to be honest, but I wouldn't feel ashamed of being the cuck because if I was humiliated I would know its game since I am well endowed. I would find it funny if someone told me I was small, because even though I am 8 inches long, I am as fat as my fore-arm.

But if my dick was small and pathetic, like less than 4 inches, I would probably not want to be the cuck.

But since I have had so much sex, it just feels like another avenue to explore, another type of brush to stroke upon my canvas.

Perhaps my ego does come from the size of my cock since It isn't effected by any form of humiliation. But I like being humiliated. I think it's naught and it makes my cock grow and throb.
 

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If you looked at what's really driving the desire to play out that scenario and you were honest with yourself you'd find fear.

If you turned over that rock and looked underneath you'd find feelings of deficiency, feelings of inferiority, feelings of inadequacy, powerlessness, etc which are all attached to experiences you had earlier in your life.

The scenario only has sexual charge for you because you don't see what's going on inside yourself.
 

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Dude this is the 21st century, anything goes.

In 10 years time, you will probably be fucking a sheep as well as it will be the in thing after someone says they are oppressed by beastiality laws.

And in 20 years it will probably be the sheep fucking you.
 

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If you take your cock completely out of the picture (and I mean; even if it was small), what drives your enjoyment of humiliation (and it doesn’t matter whether receiving or inflicting)?
 

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I like the idea of dating single mothers, then getting them to have their husbands (if they are still married) to have threesomes with me. I have a huge dick and it makes me feel good to humiliate the other men in the room.

I like gangbangs for this reason too, and swinging. I find that even if the other men have a slightly larger penis its never as fat as mine and this makes me feel like a silverback.

I find that no matter how much more muscular the other men are my huge cock makes them subservient to me.

Is this homoerotic ?
I just hope that you never experience a man with a cock bigger than yours, as it may damage your self esteem going by this post. It seems to be an integral part of your identity.

Man with THREE FOOT penis has life-changing surgery to reduce size of his 11lb testicles - Mirror Online
 
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Yeah, it could be seen as homoerotic since your focus seems to be on humiliating the male rather than pleasing the female. You get off just as much, if not more so, competing with him than the actual sex itself.

I wouldn't say that this is what's wrong with you.
 

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Normal (&) simply lovely.

Not a mother nor married
; however, I have plenty fantasies about making my "confident," male being reminded of his beta-maleness, getting a demonstration about proper fucking via a sub-human + high-functioning testosterone alpha male manbeast in his own home; watching (&) dying a little inside with every thrust. There is only one "bitch," in the room tonight. And it is my husband.

Homoeroticism is marvelous; as well.

 
One of my "fantasies," that can never come true --- swinging is not my cup of tea...


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There is something ("wrong") with all specimens, darling.
 

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Not a mother nor married; however, I have plenty fantasies about making my "confident," male being reminded of his beta-maleness, getting a demonstration about proper fucking via a sub-human + high-functioning testosterone alpha male manbeast in his own home; watching (&) dying a little inside with every thrust. There is only one "bitch," in the room tonight. And it is my husband.
What forces in your fantasy are preventing the husband from leaving? How is it that the husband doesn't instantly recognize the moral failure of his woman and immediately cease all interest in the situation?

I'm unable to reconcile "confident" with the lack of self-respect that would be necessary for him to remain in the scenario.
 

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As others have said, it's ego related for sure. But everyone/most needs to stroke their egos in some way, if it works for you then I don't see a problem. Just make sure to deal with it well when/if the time comes that your ego gets hurt (i.e. you meet a man with a bigger or thicker cock and whatnot [shocking, but you never know]) which frequently happens when it relies so much on others being worse than you.

I sure hope the women get pleased in this scenario as well.
 
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