So does this happen to anybody else?
On a night out this happens fairly often, I meet a person (first or second time, basicly a stranger) and if we end up in one to one conversation, they sort of spill their guts. They tell me very personal things that people would normally only talk about with people they are very very close with.
i suppose i should give examples of what i mean by personal. I've been told very intimate details about sex lives, stories of rape, abuse in the home, doubts over sexuality, any insecurities or self doubts, you name it and i've most likely been told about it.
Its weird tho, because when they talk about their situations, i can feel their pain. It's not that i feel bad for them, well i do obviously, but its more like i can feel what they are feeling and understand, even tho i have no personal experience of what they are describing.
I dont have a problem with listening and helping them, I just rele dont understand why they talk to me of all people. it happens far too often for it to be coincidence. and its not because im a stranger because i live in the countryside. i meet these people but i will meet them again, and they know this, also we will have loads of common friends.
can anyone make any sense of this with mbti, is it because im an enfp or what?
On a side note, i wanted to ask if something else is common for enfps. I barely no people but i get vibes off them and i just 'get' them as a person, their motives, values, how they would respond to saying this/that, if they are being genuine. This is taken to extremes with my friends especially my best friend, if i wanted i could make him do what i want to do, and make him think it was his idea. I wouldnt tho because of Fi and all that. I always do what he wants to do because i'm happy enough as long as others are happy.
I'm worried this sounds like i think im great or something but rele im trying to be very matter-of-fact about this so you can give opinions on it.
I think the reason this whole spilling their guts thing gets to me is cos i take other peoples problem's on as my own, and theres only so much you can carry around. These people often say things like 'i just rele feel like i can talk to you about anything" or say things about "feeling comfortable around me." i dunno everyone seems to feel comfortable around me altho, i think i do this by acting like i dont care what people think of me, and will laugh at myself to no end, so they think 'well he wont judge me" and then they are themselves.
It's only entered my mind now but i should say that i do feel...connected to these people like i do consider them friends, even tho i dont no them well enough. it doesnt take much for me to think of someone as a good friend.
i dunno rele im looking for opinions from others on all this. rele is it common for enfps any mbti perspective on this. Im very sorry for how long this is!
I havent rele posted much here. not used to forums, i think i feel uncomfortable since i dont no ye. And i kinda feel false cos this post just isnt how i am, i wouldnt be surprised if someone comments on how i dont seem like and enfp. altho i am open to thinking about my type and weather i could be an other one i am very confident in saying im an enfp.
Very sorry about length of this, its not structured and its just a stream of thoughts im just not used to this lol! thats the first time i used lol in this, that is just weird! this whole think is devoid of any personality, i say lol so much online that its annoying.
i must stop now! i would be delighted with any input, ya no from an outsider.
On a night out this happens fairly often, I meet a person (first or second time, basicly a stranger) and if we end up in one to one conversation, they sort of spill their guts. They tell me very personal things that people would normally only talk about with people they are very very close with.
i suppose i should give examples of what i mean by personal. I've been told very intimate details about sex lives, stories of rape, abuse in the home, doubts over sexuality, any insecurities or self doubts, you name it and i've most likely been told about it.
Its weird tho, because when they talk about their situations, i can feel their pain. It's not that i feel bad for them, well i do obviously, but its more like i can feel what they are feeling and understand, even tho i have no personal experience of what they are describing.
I dont have a problem with listening and helping them, I just rele dont understand why they talk to me of all people. it happens far too often for it to be coincidence. and its not because im a stranger because i live in the countryside. i meet these people but i will meet them again, and they know this, also we will have loads of common friends.
can anyone make any sense of this with mbti, is it because im an enfp or what?
On a side note, i wanted to ask if something else is common for enfps. I barely no people but i get vibes off them and i just 'get' them as a person, their motives, values, how they would respond to saying this/that, if they are being genuine. This is taken to extremes with my friends especially my best friend, if i wanted i could make him do what i want to do, and make him think it was his idea. I wouldnt tho because of Fi and all that. I always do what he wants to do because i'm happy enough as long as others are happy.
I'm worried this sounds like i think im great or something but rele im trying to be very matter-of-fact about this so you can give opinions on it.
I think the reason this whole spilling their guts thing gets to me is cos i take other peoples problem's on as my own, and theres only so much you can carry around. These people often say things like 'i just rele feel like i can talk to you about anything" or say things about "feeling comfortable around me." i dunno everyone seems to feel comfortable around me altho, i think i do this by acting like i dont care what people think of me, and will laugh at myself to no end, so they think 'well he wont judge me" and then they are themselves.
It's only entered my mind now but i should say that i do feel...connected to these people like i do consider them friends, even tho i dont no them well enough. it doesnt take much for me to think of someone as a good friend.
i dunno rele im looking for opinions from others on all this. rele is it common for enfps any mbti perspective on this. Im very sorry for how long this is!
I havent rele posted much here. not used to forums, i think i feel uncomfortable since i dont no ye. And i kinda feel false cos this post just isnt how i am, i wouldnt be surprised if someone comments on how i dont seem like and enfp. altho i am open to thinking about my type and weather i could be an other one i am very confident in saying im an enfp.
Very sorry about length of this, its not structured and its just a stream of thoughts im just not used to this lol! thats the first time i used lol in this, that is just weird! this whole think is devoid of any personality, i say lol so much online that its annoying.
i must stop now! i would be delighted with any input, ya no from an outsider.