This may be a stupid question, but do you always have to sit next to each other?
Is this ISFP uncomfortable around me?
Basically, there’s this ISFP dude in my class that sits next to me. We don’t know each other and we had just enrolled into the same lecture by chance. One day, while we were writing down notes, I caught the dude sneaking looks on my paper to copy off, but I let it slide because I didn’t really want to give him the cold shoulder.
After a few rounds of that, now I was the one who lost concentration and couldn’t write down some stuff, so I opened my book to see what I missed out on, but he tapped my arm and showed me his writing. I was really grateful of that and I appreciated it a lot, so I wanted to be closer with him.
But no matter WHAT I say, it always ends there! I tried to make conversation by asking him his mbti type, and it ended there lol, and another time I caught him spinning his pen, so I couldn’t help it and blurted that it was really cool how he did that. I don’t think he even replied. I remember he didn’t even meet my eyes though. He looked straight ahead like I wasn’t there.
So I decided to ask if he had a social @, and he responded if I wanted to know it, and then I said yes and told him to write it down. That’s pretty much the only conversation we had that lasted longer than ten seconds.
I don’t know why he won’t look at me in the eye. Maybe he’s just shy around everyone. He did occasionally lean towards me to look at my writing to check if he wrote things right. That’s pretty much it.
I know I’m being really, really, petty, and I’m sorry in advance, but is he not willing to talk to me? I felt a little uneasy because I wondered if I was making him uncomfortable.
After a few rounds of that, now I was the one who lost concentration and couldn’t write down some stuff, so I opened my book to see what I missed out on, but he tapped my arm and showed me his writing. I was really grateful of that and I appreciated it a lot, so I wanted to be closer with him.
But no matter WHAT I say, it always ends there! I tried to make conversation by asking him his mbti type, and it ended there lol, and another time I caught him spinning his pen, so I couldn’t help it and blurted that it was really cool how he did that. I don’t think he even replied. I remember he didn’t even meet my eyes though. He looked straight ahead like I wasn’t there.
So I decided to ask if he had a social @, and he responded if I wanted to know it, and then I said yes and told him to write it down. That’s pretty much the only conversation we had that lasted longer than ten seconds.
I don’t know why he won’t look at me in the eye. Maybe he’s just shy around everyone. He did occasionally lean towards me to look at my writing to check if he wrote things right. That’s pretty much it.
I know I’m being really, really, petty, and I’m sorry in advance, but is he not willing to talk to me? I felt a little uneasy because I wondered if I was making him uncomfortable.
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not really. Our seats are going to change after a week or two.This may be a stupid question, but do you always have to sit next to each other?
Why are you so interested in someone you just met? Is he hot? Most ISFP's are hot.Basically, there’s this ISFP dude in my class that sits next to me. We don’t know each other and we had just enrolled into the same lecture by chance. One day, while we were writing down notes, I caught the dude sneaking looks on my paper to copy off, but I let it slide because I didn’t really want to give him the cold shoulder.
After a few rounds of that, now I was the one who lost concentration and couldn’t write down some stuff, so I opened my book to see what I missed out on, but he tapped my arm and showed me his writing. I was really grateful of that and I appreciated it a lot, so I wanted to be closer with him.
But no matter WHAT I say, it always ends there! I tried to make conversation by asking him his mbti type, and it ended there lol, and another time I caught him spinning his pen, so I couldn’t help it and blurted that it was really cool how he did that. I don’t think he even replied. I remember he didn’t even meet my eyes though. He looked straight ahead like I wasn’t there.
So I decided to ask if he had a social @, and he responded if I wanted to know it, and then I said yes and told him to write it down. That’s pretty much the only conversation we had that lasted longer than ten seconds.
I don’t know why he won’t look at me in the eye. Maybe he’s just shy around everyone. He did occasionally lean towards me to look at my writing to check if he wrote things right. That’s pretty much it.
I know I’m being really, really, petty, and I’m sorry in advance, but is he not willing to talk to me? I felt a little uneasy because I wondered if I was making him uncomfortable.
Yeah the initial stages are rough, u dunno what the other person likes talking about so you just stabbing in the dark till u get a hit.Basically, there’s this ISFP dude in my class that sits next to me. We don’t know each other and we had just enrolled into the same lecture by chance. One day, while we were writing down notes, I caught the dude sneaking looks on my paper to copy off, but I let it slide because I didn’t really want to give him the cold shoulder.
After a few rounds of that, now I was the one who lost concentration and couldn’t write down some stuff, so I opened my book to see what I missed out on, but he tapped my arm and showed me his writing. I was really grateful of that and I appreciated it a lot, so I wanted to be closer with him.
But no matter WHAT I say, it always ends there! I tried to make conversation by asking him his mbti type, and it ended there lol, and another time I caught him spinning his pen, so I couldn’t help it and blurted that it was really cool how he did that. I don’t think he even replied. I remember he didn’t even meet my eyes though. He looked straight ahead like I wasn’t there.
So I decided to ask if he had a social @, and he responded if I wanted to know it, and then I said yes and told him to write it down. That’s pretty much the only conversation we had that lasted longer than ten seconds.
I don’t know why he won’t look at me in the eye. Maybe he’s just shy around everyone. He did occasionally lean towards me to look at my writing to check if he wrote things right. That’s pretty much it.
I know I’m being really, really, petty, and I’m sorry in advance, but is he not willing to talk to me? I felt a little uneasy because I wondered if I was making him uncomfortable.
I don’t always know what to reply with when I get a compliment either, last time in my boxing conditioning class the chick next to my treadmill said wow ur so fast! I just smiled and didn’t say anything coz I didn’t know what to say to that at the time, pro tip, lead with or end with a question if u want a reply, it’s difficult to reply to statements.
Of course we are.😎Most ISFP's are hot.
Yea baby 😂Of course we are.😎
He is. He’s really popular with girls and most girls who are close with him tell me he’s a huge talker.Why are you so interested in someone you just met? Is he hot? Most ISFP's are hot.
Maybe he doesn't wanna lead you on because he probably knows he's "hot".He is. He’s really popular with girls and most girls who are close with him tell me he’s a huge talker.
If you want him to like you. Then genuinely find interest in things other people wouldn't comment on. If he's hot, then he knows definitely and so it isn't worth as much. Calling a hot person hot or sexy or interesting would come off as shallow to them. But if you were to say that to someone who is insecure about their looks it would mean alot. So you have to find what he is insecure about, genuinely like him as a person, and strive to make him better. Remember ISFP's have inferior Te and so that's what they admire in others. If you can explain what he is lacking and be honest and say you see great potential or whatever, I think he'll start to like you.He is. He’s really popular with girls and most girls who are close with him tell me he’s a huge talker.
BUT, it MUST be organic. Would you do these things if he weren't as hot? Then you probably don't like him for him. If yes and you like his personality too, then give it a go!
You've only had 10 second conversations with this person and you typed them as an ISFP?Basically, there’s this ISFP dude in my class that sits next to me. We don’t know each other and we had just enrolled into the same lecture by chance. One day, while we were writing down notes, I caught the dude sneaking looks on my paper to copy off, but I let it slide because I didn’t really want to give him the cold shoulder.
After a few rounds of that, now I was the one who lost concentration and couldn’t write down some stuff, so I opened my book to see what I missed out on, but he tapped my arm and showed me his writing. I was really grateful of that and I appreciated it a lot, so I wanted to be closer with him.
But no matter WHAT I say, it always ends there! I tried to make conversation by asking him his mbti type, and it ended there lol, and another time I caught him spinning his pen, so I couldn’t help it and blurted that it was really cool how he did that. I don’t think he even replied. I remember he didn’t even meet my eyes though. He looked straight ahead like I wasn’t there.
So I decided to ask if he had a social @, and he responded if I wanted to know it, and then I said yes and told him to write it down. That’s pretty much the only conversation we had that lasted longer than ten seconds.
I don’t know why he won’t look at me in the eye. Maybe he’s just shy around everyone. He did occasionally lean towards me to look at my writing to check if he wrote things right. That’s pretty much it.
I know I’m being really, really, petty, and I’m sorry in advance, but is he not willing to talk to me? I felt a little uneasy because I wondered if I was making him uncomfortable.
Maybe he just doesn't have much to say. I wouldn't assume he's uncomfortable or shy. INTJ don't have alot to say in public and will give you very brief answers but they're not shy.
Nah. He told me he was an ISFP.You've only had 10 second conversations with this person and you typed them as an ISFP?
Maybe he just doesn't have much to say. I wouldn't assume he's uncomfortable or shy. INTJ don't have alot to say in public and will give you very brief answers but they're not shy.
Ohh I probably misread that, I read you tried to get the mbti conversation going with him and he wasn't interested in talking about. So I figured you were just throwing a dart at his type. He may not be shy, he just might not want to talk.Nah. He told me he was an ISFP.
What would you like to talk about?
Okay so you have a set order and don't pick your seats, nvm what I was thinking, it won't be helpful.not really. Our seats are going to change after a week or two.
Regular people usually aren't into talking about MBTI all that much unless you can make it über interesting to them.Ohh I probably misread that, I read you tried to get the mbti conversation going with him and he wasn't interested in talking about. So I figured you were just throwing a dart at his type. He may not be shy, he just might not want to talk.
oh. That’s a little unfortunate. I’m not talking to him because he’s hot, I just hate being awkward with people especially when I have to sit next to him for a couple weeks.Maybe he doesn't wanna lead you on because he probably knows he's "hot".
I don’t know, maybe his interests or hobbies or literally anything that could make us less awkward with each otherWhat would you like to talk about?
Regular people usually don't know their type. I've brought it up in conversations around the office and only two knew about it out of like 30 that I've talked to. One an Infp male, and the other intp female. The two ESFJs that sat next to me for one day took the test on a day we were slow just for the fun of it. I had pegged them already as ESFJs but when they got their results I wasn't surprised. Though both thought it was fascinating how close they were to their type.Okay so you have a set order and don't pick your seats, nvm what I was thinking, it won't be helpful.
Regular people usually aren't into talking about MBTI all that much unless you can make it über interesting to them.
The infp talks to me the most about but that's because on our first day back to the office he kept staring at me and finally came over one day and then asked, "you look really really familiar... you wouldn't happen to be NIHM?" I was thinking gaming forums lol 😆 not in a million years was I ready for... " so I like the mbti and surf some of the forums about it, I don't post but just read. Urm you're that ENFP right? Because you look just like her." He went on to quickly tell me he's an INFP as I was just like 😮😯😲😳😱. I probably should have wondered if he was some dangerous stalker but then my brain went that's so awesome and we probably sat at lunch break annoying the esfj that couldn't get a word in discussing the mbti. It's a shame he got laid off with the unhealthy ESFJ last week. We're Facebook buddies now and who knows he might read this post in the near future and laugh about it.
Sounds scary as hell tbhRegular people usually don't know their type. I've brought it up in conversations around the office and only two knew about it out of like 30 that I've talked to. One an Infp male, and the other intp female. The two ESFJs that sat next to me for one day took the test on a day we were slow just for the fun of it. I had pegged them already as ESFJs but when they got their results I wasn't surprised. Though both thought it was fascinating how close they were to their type.
The infp talks to me the most about but that's because on our first day back to the office he kept staring at me and finally came over one day and then asked, "you look really really familiar... you wouldn't happen to be NIHM?" I was thinking gaming forums lol 😆 not in a million years was I ready for... " so I like the mbti and surf some of the forums about it, I don't post but just read. Urm you're that ENFP right? Because you look just like her." He went on to quickly tell me he's an INFP as I was just like 😮😯😲😳😱. I probably should have wondered if he was some dangerous stalker but then my brain went that's so awesome and we probably sat at lunch break annoying the esfj that couldn't get a word in discussing the mbti. It's a shame he got laid off with the unhealthy ESFJ last week. We're Facebook buddies now and who knows he might read this post in the near future and laugh about it.
I look back to the time when I talked everyone's ears off about typology with some embarrasment like. I must have been so exhausting to be around. Lol. Now I barely have any energy for discussions about it. Totally burnt out when it comes to that. I look at convos here like what are all of you on about. Lool.
I don't think we talked about it but that one day, I bring it up like once in the month for about 2 minutes and then realize no one wants to talk about it with me so I stop. When they accidentally talk about a subject I love, and then I'll rant for about 15 minutes and then realize I need to sit down and do my job. Like yesterday my boss came out to gossip with us and get to know us I'm convinced ESTP, 7w8 female. She brought up that she loved math and my head stuck up like a Meerkat, and was all like I love math, and then yeah it came tumbling fourth and she blinked, with out missing a beat "so I don't love math that much." She's kind of playful and I get along with her, a really good boss. Mostly I'm really quiet at work. The ESFJs probably talk the most. Right now conversation goes over the failing banks, the chemical spill in East Ohio, and the masked singer. The weather, dogs and, cats on repeat.Sounds scary as hell tbh
I look back to the time when I talked everyone's ears off about typology with some embarrasment like. I must have been so exhausting to be around. Lol. Now I barely have any energy for discussions about it. Totally burnt out when it comes to that. I look at convos here like what are all of you on about. Lool.
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